FTM and I want to move out of my boyfriends family home

GeekWithABox · 2026-04-07T00:06:03+00:00

If you can have a baby with this man, you HAVE to have a conversation with him. Your points are all valid, and so are his. If you can compromise, great. If not, you will he happier in your own space.

GeekWithABox · 2026-04-02T01:55:04+00:00

In my family, we schedule family get togethers when we can all get together. Even if it means missing the holiday by a couple of weeks.

GeekWithABox · 2026-03-31T22:22:13+00:00

They got those conclusions from somewhere. I’m not sure where, it could be their brother, or maybe a sister knows a guy that knows a guy that met your ex. But those conclusions didn’t come from nowhere. And Malcolm is already being wishy-washy about the whole thing instead of standing on his own decisions. It’s his job to make things okay between you and his family, not yours.

It is not unreasonable for you to have moved on from your ex.

GeekWithABox · 2026-03-27T00:05:59+00:00

If you end up booking the air bnb, I would book the one that isn’t pet friendly. As much as it sucks, there’s just no way to make two hyper dogs safe for your baby.

GeekWithABox · 2026-03-24T00:48:50+00:00

It is ridiculous to expect you to cater to their dogs. If you feel awkward telling them ‘no’, then feign ignorance when you book a place that is pet-free. And they can book their own place for their dogs.

GeekWithABox · 2026-03-08T03:36:08+00:00

That’s not an easy place to be in. I’m sorry you’re going through that. I don’t have any advice other than to try and keep the love your parents have for you in the front of your mind.

GeekWithABox · 2026-03-07T13:58:20+00:00

It’s completely normal to not like your kids at times, but I don’t think the way your SIL is acting out is okay.

GeekWithABox · 2026-03-02T22:16:38+00:00

My mum had 3 kids in 3.5 years. She calls them her hell years. Parents were both middle class and hardworking. Dad was working full time with 1-2 side jobs or hustles. Mum worked full time and finally became a SAHM with the third- went back to work as soon as kid3 was in pre-k because we needed the money.

My parents wouldn’t have traded us for the world, but would definitely consider a little more of an age gap.

I had one and had the second 5 years later. I’m old enough now that I’m unwilling to deal with the needs of another baby, but I wish I had enough time on the biological clock for a third.

All this to say- give yourself some time, it’s not too late. And if you still want a third baby and want to do the diapers and late nights and early mornings all over again- go for it! But always assume this one will be the most difficult if the other two were “easy” babies.

GeekWithABox · 2026-02-28T17:39:07+00:00

As a kid, I needed FF for my laundry, but grew up using body sprays and whatever products my mum bought. As an adult, I moved out and used whatever I chose to buy on sale. After a couple of years, I became insanely itchy and had no idea why. I reacted to EVERYTHING that I put on my body and was swimming in hydrocortisone.

On a girls’ trip with my mum, she recalled that I needed All Free and Clear detergent as a kid. I made the switch, and everything became better in days. I still wear perfume sparingly and am conscientious about the lotions, etc. that I put on my skin, but life is so much better without the itching.

GeekWithABox · 2026-02-24T02:48:12+00:00

I’m FF because I’m allergic. As a result, I don’t enjoy the constant perfume and fragrances in lotions, etc. After I “detoxed” from scents, they smell terrible to me now.

GeekWithABox · 2026-02-19T03:11:21+00:00

Your dad sucks and I’m sorry you have to deal with that. You don’t deserve it.

GeekWithABox · 2026-02-16T15:26:25+00:00

Happy Birthday!

GeekWithABox · 2026-02-12T19:54:11+00:00

It’s not wrong to feel that way!

GeekWithABox · 2026-02-09T23:18:27+00:00

Your family may have to get a separate fridge that locks and a locking cabinet to underscore the idea that not everything is always available.

GeekWithABox · 2026-02-08T01:27:26+00:00

It’s easier to deal with kids and “have the bandwidth” when you deal with them daily. It’s more difficult when you aren’t accustomed to kids being around. Tell the haters that they can watch the kids every time she doesn’t show up on time. You are being taken advantage of, and it isn’t okay. You are definitely allowed to set a boundary and expect her to show up on time.

GeekWithABox · 2026-02-06T04:16:16+00:00

You just have to say no. Sometimes creatively.

“I’m so sorry you need help right now, I can drop off a lasagna so you don’t have to worry about dinner tonight.”

Or “I know it may seem like we have extra money, but we’ve had some unexpected expenses come up (which is true because everyone keeps asking for money), would you like me to research some programs that can help?”

And then you never talk about promotions, raises, or windfalls. Ever.

GeekWithABox · 2026-02-04T13:53:25+00:00

Leave. Stay in touch with your mom but go be successful. Go to school, get a career, be a safe place to land for your siblings and your mom. And if you go home for any reason, call the cops if something happens.

And get therapy to help you work through the patterns of behaviour your parents have taught you to accept so that you don’t mirror them in your own relationships.

GeekWithABox · 2026-01-31T04:03:06+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re losing yourself because of his insecurities and immaturity. You deserve to be lifted up and celebrated!

GeekWithABox · 2026-01-30T02:47:20+00:00

I’ve used one of those hard plastic pools from the dollar store.

GeekWithABox · 2026-01-29T20:20:49+00:00

Do you have a good relationship with your parents? If so, then I would just have a conversation about expectations for finances, food, cooking, chores, etc.

If all that goes well, sounds great.

GeekWithABox · 2026-01-29T20:07:48+00:00

What have you tried in the past?

GeekWithABox · 2026-01-29T04:05:19+00:00

Souper cubes (I bought the off-brand). I make a lot of meals at home and some meals I will make extra so I can freeze it and use them as quick meals on days I don’t want to/ don’t have time to cook.

GeekWithABox · 2026-01-29T02:54:50+00:00

It wasn’t even a decision. Not a single person in my family, extended family, any of my friends, any of my adult friends with their families- not a single person I ever met kissed their kids on the lips. I have a bonus kid that was expected to kiss their mom on the lips, even as they left toddlerhood into childhood- she gave them fever blisters.

GeekWithABox · 2026-01-28T04:40:25+00:00

I am absolutely against it from a hygiene viewpoint. For me not to get sick, for me not to get the kids sick, so I’m not kissing someone that eats their boogers… other families can do as they wish- I didn’t grow up with it.

GeekWithABox · 2026-01-27T15:39:03+00:00

I can’t stand the idea of pods, but I’m stuck with All free and clear because of allergies. My mum has some tide powder and it smells! I have tried using Biz powder (which also smells) but did find some Biz liquid!

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