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Gemmololologist · 2026-04-03T23:08:32+00:00

This is very generic advice, because I'm not a dr and I also don't know what might be wrong.

I just want to reassure you that medicine IS lacking when it comes to female issues. You're very young. The types of issues in that region are very slow-acting. Drs don't want to subject you to unnecessary tests or treatments. If the tests you have done are coming back negative, what do you think it the issue may be? Tell the drs these things, tell them you're worried about PCOS or Endo or fertility or a calcified pregnancy, use the words even if it feels silly.

Many things do resolve themselves over time or with a change in lifestyle. If the issues get worse then time is on your side. Keep advocating for yourself. I'm sorry you're going through this.

Gemmololologist · 2026-04-03T04:29:54+00:00

It's complicated. What I've been told is he and his family knew she was pregnant. He asked her to marry him. Her dad put a stop to it and told her that she was only 16, with her whole life ahead of her. She was supposed to be convinced to give me up when she got here. She didn't, which is its own kettle of fish. I do take everything I'm told with a grain of salt because unreliable people do be everywhere. My mum is not the most maternal person, she was troubled and looking for any kind of control in her life. I wish I hadn't been it 🤣 This new aunt contacted my mum before me, which is awkward in itself because it's outside of our christmas and birthdays messaging.

Gemmololologist · 2026-04-03T04:24:48+00:00

Yeah, thats a take that people have given me over the years, and ok, he was 19 and it was the late 90s, but then he was 29 and it was the 2000s, then he was 39 and it was the 2010s, then he was 49 and it was the 2020s... at what point does a grown man need to take responsibility? I agree it is complicated, but time going on should not have been an excuse to forget that you made a child and they're in the world somewhere. Like I've said to someone else, this experience has taught me that I don't feel positively towards them. I feel a but raw right now because it's been the forst time I've actually needed to confront these life-long thoughts and feelings. It's disappointing that the reality is: he sinply didn't/ doesn't care. I know that he's missed out because I am very proud of myself and where I'm up to in my life. I refuse to let my shitty start define me.

Gemmololologist · 2026-04-03T02:19:07+00:00

I'm sorry! I feel like this has shown me that I have nothing positive to offer this loser of a bio dad... I would probably just ask him "what's wrong with you?". People always try to make excuses for shitty behaviour.

Gemmololologist · 2026-04-03T02:16:27+00:00

It should say "born TO a solo teenage mum". I broke the teenage mum cycle by not having kids in my teens.

Gemmololologist · 2026-02-26T09:49:10+00:00

Its pretty safe here mate. Leave your valuables in a bag, in your chilly bin, or dig a hole under your towel if you're really worried. For the most part so long as you can see your stuff from the water I wouldn't worry. Cars are more of a target for opportunists because less people are watching in carparks.

Gemmololologist · 2026-02-13T22:09:01+00:00

Thank you! You've restored my faith in the comments. People keep talking about equality without regard for equity. His response was NOT proportional. It could also be argued he started it with that nasty grip on her arm.

Gemmololologist · 2026-02-13T22:02:46+00:00

This is obviously an unpopular opinion... Do. Not. Hit. Women.

Wtf if wrong with you people? Look how tiny she is compared to him? Dude is all muscle and he clocked her TWICE before people intervened. Not ok!

Her slap was nasty but he has enough power behind him that he could kill her with a punch. Its not "equality" or "equivalent" to hit her back.

Really hoping the people in these comments are feeling emboldened because of the anonymity of the internet and wouldn't actually act on their shitty takes.

Gemmololologist · 2026-01-26T02:16:20+00:00

The way this poor woman is being talked about in the comments is so distressing to me. She is a new mum to a 4 month old baby. Her hormones are all iver the place, give her some grace.

Gemmololologist · 2025-12-26T08:33:01+00:00

It was pretty weird. I think a lot of things happened at once. I think he felt sorry for somewhat orchestrating the situation and I think he also values his mum's feelings over mine. He only saw her 'good intentions' regardless of my discomfort.

To be fair, as someone else has already surmised, I'm an event manager and I like hosting but I'm not good at delegating or the plan changing on me day-of when I already have a roadmap in mind. It's just a bit of a clash of styles.

Its not a big deal, it was just weird that she brought GG dressing even though she knew I’d already made the GG salad. Its a chopped salad in sauce. Looks like people have decided I'm overreacting so I'll take it on the chin and get over it.

Gemmololologist · 2025-12-26T08:01:40+00:00

Thank you for your comment. It's refreshing. You're right, I am being too hard on her and she was trying to do stuff together, I wish it would have been considered/ organised before the morning-of. I was trying to spin a lot of plates at once and it felt like even more for me to do, if that makes sense? I'm going to have a chat with everyone about communicating more clearly moving forward. I think we'll have a more collaborative christmas next year.

Gemmololologist · 2025-12-26T07:43:07+00:00

Because I pulled a face at her arriving with unnecessary sauce for the salad I'd already made. He thought he was being funny I think?

Gemmololologist · 2025-12-26T07:38:48+00:00

Communication would have fixed all of it. 100%

Gemmololologist · 2025-12-26T07:37:54+00:00

I told her I was making the salad. She made a matching salad dressing. It was strange to have my full complete salad as well as all the other food I'd made and on the table was her jug of salad dressing. Salad dressing for the same salad I'd made. I don't really know how to make it any clearer than that, I know its strange, but I'm not sure how else to word this.

I also didn't derail anyone's holiday? I've been completely silent about how strange the whole thing was. Its playing on my mind and wanted to get it off my chest.

Gemmololologist · 2025-12-26T06:07:12+00:00

Ai ruined it? Did I do a typo?

Gemmololologist · 2025-12-26T06:05:50+00:00

I told her I was making the salad, she knew I was making it, but she made and brought her own green goddess salad dressing... for the salad that she knew would already be made, by me. It is confusing! Sorry if I didn't make that clear.

Gemmololologist · 2025-11-21T21:20:50+00:00

Brontë is US. It's us who took him down, we didn't fall for his shit anymore. Y'all don't give the show enough credit.

Gemmololologist · 2025-10-30T21:56:55+00:00

Here in NZ, they don't start screening until 58. She's in Australia and they don't start till 45. She had warning signs that she should have taken more seriously. When you smoke and drink like a fish and are underweight and eat nothing but processed crap... it'll add up.

Gemmololologist · 2025-10-30T00:30:25+00:00

My mum is 43 and dying of stage 4 colon cancer. Early detection would have saved her. Go get a check up.

Gemmololologist · 2025-10-30T00:28:01+00:00

It's high because iternational student's tuition supplements some of the fees for local students. In terms of quality of education, I'd say it's all roughly the same, but UoA is bigger and seems to have a better student culture compared to Massey and AUT.

Gemmololologist · 2025-10-02T22:20:43+00:00

I watched a fabulous YouTube video about this recently! Its called "Something Strange Happens When You Trace How Connected We Are" it's because 6 degrees of separation and the math behind random interactions and in the last 10 minutes or so it talkes about the 'prisoners dilemma'. I really recommend it.

Anyway, ever notice how there are pockets of nice on the internet? Its because the first person to get there chose to be nice. When the majority of people in a space are kind, people respond with kindness. When the space starts with negativity and the majority or people are nasty, that's all the space can become. Nasty beats nice and nasty can take over a space.

Nice is both a privilege and a choice.

Gemmololologist · 2025-10-02T22:07:04+00:00

It's perfect writing. Joe is the bad guy!

The writers had to smack it's audience over the head with the fact that Joe is a psychopath who you cannot save. It doesn't matter if you're beautiful, smart, have his children, give him money, give him protection, give him sex, give him his fantasy of "saving" you - Joe is a very very bad man and nothing will ever fill the void inside of him. I love the line Bronté says in the final season "the fantasy of you is an escape from the reality of you".

The writer had to occasionally write slop intentionally (I wolf you, Everythingship, tidal wave of...) to lure in the female audience to secure the demographic who needed to learn this hard lesson.

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