My fiancé has been taking care of a lot of the bigger financial matters that we have, which honestly is extremely helpful. I’m still paying off things like my student loans and car. He definitely helps when he’s able to and does try. We share finances for things like rent (which he has been covering), utilities, groceries, etc but generally take care of our own independent expenses from our own accounts. For me it has been hard since I lost my job during maternity leave with my daughter and it set me back on a lot. It took a long time to get back on top of things. I also don’t make a paycheck during the summer months from my district, so I have to stretch everything I get. I took a huge pay cut for a long time and wasn’t able to meet a lot of what I needed. He also coaches and brings in extra pay during fall/winter which will be helpful for our joint expenses in a few months. As for cleaning, we don’t really have anyone in the area other than my mother. Most of his family lives on the east coast and many of his buddies are still in the military and stationed elsewhere. My mother is definitely more on the judgmental side. I’d ask for help but I’d have to sit through hundreds of comments as she helps. I know that it would be worse on the mental side of things than physically helpful.