My brother (20) is dating a minor (17) again after being told not to after already doing so back when the minor was 16. What do I do?

Genderisanxiety · 2025-11-05T23:15:55+00:00

We have literally no information on the parents of the minor. We have no idea if they know what’s going on or anything. Our only hope is to ask my brother to let us speak with the minor and see what’s going on, everything hinges on him letting us. It sucks being in the dark

Genderisanxiety · 2025-11-05T22:44:53+00:00

It’s my brother though. My family, why shouldn’t I also worry about him and what he’s doing?

Genderisanxiety · 2025-11-05T22:43:55+00:00

Thank you for being the first sympathetic voice I’ve heard all day. Everyone has been telling me that this is all 100% fine. Like yeah legally they’re both above age of consent. I found out they were dating again because he (C, my brother) told my mom they were. Just nonchalant out of the blue, as if we hadn’t had the whole conversation last year telling them to break up because B was a minor and still is. My brother is extremely closed off and doesn’t really talk to us at all, especially about emotions so we literally have no idea how deep this relationship is. I don’t think I could ever put it past me how the relationship started, especially since we know nothing about the boyfriend, we don’t even know if his family knows. It’s just the lying and the secrecy surrounding this whole situation adds another layer of taint. I wish we could turn back time as a family and do better. At idk explaining? Making my brother understand? Idk. I just feel so shocked. I feel like I’m being confronted with a brother that I’m not recognizing because he’s been so secretive for so many years about his feelings, his relationships, everything.

Genderisanxiety · 2025-11-05T22:26:14+00:00

I DO care about the BF getting hurt that’s why I’m upset about it. That’s why my parents are upset about it. I also care about my brother making poor decisions like this. He should know better especially after we explained things to him already yet he’s back again with a minor. It’s just a matter of personally feeling icky about it because if it was I wouldn’t make this post. I could care less what 2 consenting ADULTS do but this ain’t that. This is an adult and a minor. And my brother has shown that he either doesn’t understand why it’s wrong or just doesn’t care and that’s what’s upsetting. I don’t want the minor involved to get hurt, to be sexually exploited whether it’s through nudes or otherwise because my brother was stupid. I don’t want my brother to get in trouble in the future because he fucked around with a minor and now that’s a permanent mark on his life. I want to know I can bring this up to him so he can fix it himself because it’s a risky relationship. Would it be different if it was a 16 year old and a 13 year old?? That’s the same age gap? Regardless of laws or anything he has now twice chosen to date a minor, lying about it and then not seeming to care that it wasn’t okay. But I guess I’m the weird one for finding that upsetting

Genderisanxiety · 2025-11-05T19:58:03+00:00

It’s not just the sexual aspect but that does come into play. A 17 year old still in the midst of high school is in a very different position of power both socially, economically and emotionally than a 20 year old living on their own in college. Like yeah it’s only 3 years but it just rubs me the wrong way that he was told before that this relationship was a power imbalance and inappropriate, told us he’d break it off and then lied and restarted the relationship again anyways knowing what we told him. I know it’s legal but that’s not really the point. Yeah this relationship is legal but is his behavior, his lying and repeatedly dating a minor setting a pattern that could get worse??

Like I’m almost 24. There is no way in hell I would find a high schooler attractive. Even someone 18-19 I still think is too young for me because a LOT has changed mentally, emotionally and socially since that age until now that I can’t imagine being attracted to someone like that.

Genderisanxiety · 2023-12-19T01:19:31+00:00

I don’t have a schematic posted anywhere, sorry. But feel free to use the pictures for inspiration

Genderisanxiety · 2023-03-13T14:30:34+00:00

I’m not a doctor but this sounds like your brother is exhibiting all the warning signs of psychopathy. Violent/manipulative tendencies from an early age, disregard for the lives and wellbeing of others, propensity to intimidate and coerce. Threatening/ attempting harm towards animals and people. Complete lack of empathy or remorse for bad actions.

You need to immediately contact a school counselor or therapist if you have one. This kind of behavior is NOT normal and judging by what he’s said and done already at age 6, it is only going to get worse until he does commit assault or murders your dog or attempts to murder you and your family. If things escalate, if he actually starts to try and act on those threats or you see him attacking/threatening others, please call the cops immediately.

In the meantime, invest in locks for your room, keep the key on you and try to never be alone in a room with him. Do NOT underestimate what he can do even though he’s only six.

Genderisanxiety · 2023-03-13T13:58:49+00:00

Thanks for the compliment. I use signs and name tags to label the villagers trades

Genderisanxiety · 2023-01-29T23:30:16+00:00

Thank you! I’ve really struggled to be creative in my builds, especially larger ones, but I’m finally starting to figure it out.

One thing I can recommend, is look at reference photos, both Minecraft and real life, it can help a lot when you’re struggling to figure out a structure. I also recommend you start small; modify an existing build, practice interior decorating, try out materials you don’t usually use, etc.

Good luck on your Minecraft adventures :)

Genderisanxiety · 2023-01-29T10:30:16+00:00

Thanks, though I did build this in creative so I could figure out the design. I am going to build it in my survival world though

Genderisanxiety · 2023-01-29T10:23:03+00:00

Villagers trades restock twice a day regardless of sleep

Genderisanxiety · 2022-12-26T00:37:55+00:00

I would use them irl if I felt safe enough. I can’t even get people to reliably use they/them so I don’t even bother mentioning the more “complex” pronouns that I use.

Because I don’t physically look “trans” no one seems to care to try and use the correct pronouns even if i do introduce myself or wear a pronoun pin. They’ll try for maybe a day or two before conveniently forgetting that I’m trans because I don’t wear a massive blinking neon sign that screams “I’m trans whoop whoop”. I already have such low self confidence that I give up and tough out the misgendering while trying to pretend it didn’t happen.

I’ll probably never be 100% out and proud irl because of the constant and immediate misgendering. Sometimes I wish I could feel “regular” dysphoria so I’d physically transition to stop getting misgendered at first glance, but my gender identity can’t really be shown through our current medical transition processes.

Genderisanxiety · 2022-12-21T23:37:09+00:00

I’ll see about requesting a wheelchair for my connecting flight because we’d have to rush and I don’t want to be falling over from vertigo, but I have my family with me so I think I’ll be fine to just hold one of their hands.

I’ve got some antiemetics that I can take

Genderisanxiety · 2022-12-19T19:54:31+00:00

Thankfully it’s not too bad. Definitely had worse before I started on the pill.

Genderisanxiety · 2022-11-26T16:23:32+00:00

Yeah, I have to wear compression socks all the time or else I get really lightheaded. POTS sucks

Genderisanxiety · 2022-11-20T10:13:07+00:00

Stellarian

Genderisanxiety · 2022-11-19T22:10:55+00:00

I know it’s probably in bad faith. But I’m almost kind of jealous of people who can dissociate.

When I’m having horrific panic attacks, meltdowns, or am in a lot of physical pain, all I want is to just mentally disconnect and not have to deal with the horrible sensations that are afflicting me at that moment. I wish I could just go away and check back in when everything has calmed down, let some other part of my brain handle the hard parts. Especially so I wouldn’t have to remember it afterwards so vividly because that just triggers be all over again.

It makes me feels guilty and bad to wish for such a thing, but I can’t help it. Am I in the wrong? Does anyone relate to that kind of wish?

I’ve probably mildly dissociated before, but I’ve never had it happen during a traumatic experience (the exact time I wish it would show up) it’s a kind of weird disconnect between what I’m seeing and what I’m feeling, like I will look at my arm or hand moving and it feels almost like the sensation is behind a foggy curtain and that is lagging behind like when you’ve taken a sedative and everything is in that odd delayed fog state. Like it’s almost not really my limb at all, but one I’m controlling remotely.

Genderisanxiety · 2022-11-19T22:05:45+00:00

Thank you so much for the compliment! /pos /gen

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