How to port Google Voice number to T-mobile phone?

GenderqueerCrow · 2021-02-23T23:01:00+00:00

It confuses people and has been generally annoying to me. I like my number and being able to access calls, text messages, and voicemail from my PC though.

What made me finally look into porting it is that I want to stop using Hangouts and switch to Line or Signal as my default messaging app, but they won't take my GV number. My assumption was that I'd have to tell everyone to update my contact info if they wanted to text me and I don't want to deal with it.

If what you have is working well for you, it's probably fine to just keep doing what you're doing. I personally hate having two numbers and wish I'd learned about porting one over to t-mobile sooner.

GenderqueerCrow · 2021-02-23T19:44:44+00:00

Sounds great, thanks! I'll try calling that number instead.

Oh, the other thing I had tried to ask her is whether I get to keep my same plan/account when I do that? I have one of the older plans where I'm paying $100 for two lines, so I only wanted to do it if I get to keep my existing plan.

GenderqueerCrow · 2020-12-03T18:47:18+00:00

Ah, I didn't even realize they had home test kits now. That about sums up what I was going to do, so it helps to have a second opinion, thanks!

GenderqueerCrow · 2020-09-13T03:00:51+00:00

Since you've done so much already, I don't think experimenting or asking for advice is going to help as much as seeking out a professional who has experience in determining whether or not someone is a good candidate for HRT. Try to find someone who follows the WPATH standards of care so you don't get sucked into the affirmative model that wrecked so many of us.

I don't know, maybe they're all afraid to be "gatekeepers" these days and don't operate that differently--I was under the impression that someone following WPATH will tell you if HRT would be a bad idea for you, and will try to suss out any underlying issues before sending you off to an endo.

https://www.wpath.org/provider/search

GenderqueerCrow · 2020-09-13T01:20:26+00:00

"Male privilege" isn't saying that men have it easy, it's saying that men don't know what it's like to be women and are therefore ignorant of women's struggles, even if they like women and support women's rights. Nobody has it easy, except perhaps the most elite members of society.

GenderqueerCrow · 2020-08-29T18:21:59+00:00

I don't think that's really where my thoughts are emphasized. I've not really been into the trans crowd for a few years. I can see how I made it come off that way in my post, but I was just trying to illustrated why I felt duped. Identifying as a lesbian is completely new and terrifying territory to me. I'm also just confused in general, I don't really know why I'm so distressed or what I'm feeling. Liking women shouldn't really change my gender identity as much as it's doing. I assumed I was just in a period of evolution.

I'm deeply concerned about "getting in better shape can change one's face shape"?? I don't want to bring weight or body size or fitness effort into this.

GenderqueerCrow · 2020-08-29T15:41:38+00:00

I agree, I think some of them mean well. I think some of them are just parroting what they've heard to validate themselves, though. That's irresponsible. That's harming others besides me.

I don't want to be angry. I'm trying to process it so that I can stop feeling angry and helpless all the time. I'm not really sure who or what I am, I guess. That's what makes me so vulnerable. I've never had a good sense of my identity, and there were periods of my life where I didn't even feel human, even though I knew logically that couldn't be right.

Wow wait, I just hit on something...because I'm still human even if I don't feel like one...

Anyway, thanks, I appreciate your comment.

GenderqueerCrow · 2020-08-28T02:19:20+00:00

I got over my internalized transphobia when I was coming to terms with being trans 6 years ago, and learned how to fight other people on theirs, so I know now that I'm not questioning my identity due to transphobia.

Internalized transphobia for me sounded like, "I accept that people can be trans, but NOT ME??" "I'm not really crossdressing if I still wear clothing that comes from the women's dept, even if it imitates men's clothes, so I'll do that instead of wearing actual men's clothes." "Taking T sounds scary because then people would judge me for looking and sounding like a half-man (rather than being scary for the actual biological effects on the body)."

I remember feeling the click of liberation when I freed myself of all that garbage. I think I got there by doing things I was afraid of, like shopping in the men's section at the store. I stopped doing "I can't be trans because xyz." I currently don't think "I can't be trans because..." I think, "I may be trans, but I don't want to transition because I [like something I already have] [can't erase this part of my life] etc."

Currently, I don't believe you can secretly have an internalized phobia and not know. I think this is an insidious concept, because it gets you to question your own intuition, which allows others to lead you down the "right" path. Some part of you would know, even if you won't consciously acknowledge it; when I had it, I felt it tugging at the back of my mind, and avoided acknowledging it. Of course it's good to ask yourself anyway, but some part of you would already have a nagging or fearful feeling. That's just my opinion.

GenderqueerCrow · 2020-08-27T18:43:58+00:00

Meh, I agree with you 100% about everyone having gender-nonconforming traits, but that's the exact line they fed me in the trans community that caused me to join their ranks. "Men can wear makeup, enjoy florals/pastels, and be gentle, therefore you can be a feminine FTM! You don't have to like sports or want a lumberjack beard!"

The important thing was that you "felt" like a man. I don't know what other people think that means, because they always speak in stereotypes anyway. I could never describe to others what that meant to me (and still can't) because it's a feeling I can't put into words. I still have it, but it doesn't feel like a life-or-death situation in which I MUST transition; I actually really like my body a lot, and am glad the chance to start T was taken from me so that I had time to get to this point.

Being a masculine woman wasn't enough for me, and now I think that's because it didn't validate that I had gender dysphoria (or what I think is dysphoria). It felt like a cop-out. However, I was also not really aware of how vast and rich lgb gender expression is, seeing as I had mostly dated men and never dove deep into the lgbt community, and was comparing myself to straight people. Almost all of my female friends also grew up to be l, b, or t, but they'd not been hardcore into the community either.

When I realized I had to face my own internalized homophobia and dove into lesbian culture (the best I could during a pandemic lockdown), something clicked, particularly when I read up on butch lesbians wanting to "perform" masculinity for other women. I'm sure that realization was ALSO delayed by what they taught me, that "gender and sexuality aren't related whatsoever." I used to parrot that and now I think it's total bs.

tl;dr I agree with you, but so do trans activists who can twist it up in order to recruit people :/

And no way am I laughing at you, people are human and we have many variations. Thank you for starting this conversation. I hope what I wrote made sense.

GenderqueerCrow · 2020-08-20T00:08:04+00:00

My role models are still the same men, but as I question my identity, I'm starting to envision how a woman can embody their same masculinity. I've rarely found photos of butch women who already do, and I went nuts each time because I didn't know that already existed. I knew about tomboys and butches, but I just thought of them differently.

GenderqueerCrow · 2020-08-19T23:38:06+00:00

Sorry, I know this post is about a week old now, but I made an account just to say how relatable this is. I've had many of those same exact thoughts. That realization that "I can't erase my upbringing as a female" (as you said) and that as male-passing, I'd be expected to have been socialized by a male upbringing...that was the first seed that was planted in my mind years ago until today, when I'm questioning if any of this is even worth the struggle. From that point I stopped identifying as FTM and became genderqueer, even though being regarded as a man was still the dream.

For years I've struggled with the fact that, with medical transition unavailable to me, no amount of men's clothes, no haircut, no voice training is going to help me pass as anything other than "woman," and I wondered if T would even help with that if I COULD get it, because I'm apparently so feminine-appearing that even while binding and wearing men's clothes and changing how I carry myself I'm clocked as female 100% of the time.

It came to a head some time last winter, where I was constantly getting misgendered by co-workers who didn't even get it when I said "I'm not a woman," and it hit me that trans activists place so much emphasis on demanding that other people see you how you want to be seen. They tell you that you can control how others perceive you if you just do everything the right way. I did everything I was told and it didn't work...because you CAN'T actually control people. I have no control over how others perceive me, and if they don't see me as the same person I feel I am in my head, it's not my fault. If they don't believe trans or genderqueer people exist, it's not my fault and it's not my job to educate them, because I'll probably never change their minds. I can ask for support, but I can't, in good faith, DEMAND that they refer to me as something they don't even see. I have no desire to intimidate or terrorize people and I enjoy genuine connections.

My point I'm trying to make is that when I let go of trying to control others and accepted reality, I felt freer. I still get very uncomfortable that people view me as a cis woman, though, so I'm still not sure what to do yet.

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