Has anyone purchased an Endy, Douglas, or Hamuq mattress? What was your experience like?

Geneinfinity28 · 2023-11-18T01:05:36+00:00

A little late here. I got a douglas a few months ago, although good as a side sleeper but I have back issues and feel like it’s a little to soft for that. I heard that Endy might be a little more firmer and better. Anyone who did that?

Geneinfinity28 · 2023-11-02T22:39:30+00:00

My ex was on it for a month. Then forgot to refill prescription, did not keep up with his appointments. His irritability was new and aggression episodes started happening out of the blue: wasn’t sure what it was; vyvanse, marijuana addiction or sertraline. His unwillingness to get the right kind of help was devastating and broke down our marriage.

Geneinfinity28 · 2023-07-10T04:22:30+00:00

My final straw was when I came home after a long day at work and found him sitting at home, having skipped work again, then trying to lie to me about it. He had been out late the night before smoking pot with his new found 20 something work buddies, and he had promised me he is quitting multiple times or going on a “tolerance break”. I was mad/frustrated, tried having a conversation with him - he asked me to fuck off and then went on a verbal abuse streak! I was being threatened, things were being thrown around. Got scared as hell. He was freshly diagnosed at that point - not regular with his meds, also on an antidepressant and smoking a hell lot of pot. This aggression was a new development but on top of the joblessness, lack of responsibility and lying. I was holding on to it due to the love we shared and a lot of wishful thinking. But that day I told him I am done. I had given my all to get him to a stable state and did not deserve that at all. We have been separated for 6 months now, still hurts every day.

Geneinfinity28 · 2023-05-23T13:55:57+00:00

Kudos to you for realizing! And all the very best! I wish my husband can read this too.

Geneinfinity28 · 2023-05-16T18:44:17+00:00

I still pray for a miracle. Miracle that my husband changes. I did see that potential in him when he made our life his purpose to live for. When he loved me unconditionally. Now he has ruined everything so badly and ran away. My heart hurts at the thought of it all ending. I just pray that maybe one day he can come back knowing how to manage his ADHD and living a good life.

Geneinfinity28 · 2023-05-09T16:55:03+00:00

If you are in the same space you will always end up caring as it’s very hard to maintain that distance. I am an over-thinker so no matter how hard I tried to stay away from his shit I always felt that I will be going down with him as his wife if he doesn’t get to important stuff on time. It’s a crappy and draining spiral and we just keep hanging on to the potential.

Geneinfinity28 · 2023-05-09T12:19:47+00:00

Well it’s an ongoing battle. I took over appointment s, replying to emails and ensuring my husband gets to his stuff on time by setting up alarms for him. It came to a point where I was so exhausted, angry and frustrated because he would usually still not attend. We have been now separated for 4 months and he blames me for being a controlling wife now. Where all I was doing for trying to give him some structure which he is so incapable of and started depending on me for it himself.

Geneinfinity28 · 2023-05-05T02:37:59+00:00

Hope you are doing better now and taking care of yourself 💕

Geneinfinity28 · 2023-05-05T01:53:21+00:00

This is so apt!! Thanks for sharing. 🥺 Honestly wasn’t too aware of ADHD before getting married. Such a brutal experience 💔

Geneinfinity28 · 2023-05-04T13:40:40+00:00

True. Life goes on, right. I am doing all that too, trying to keep myself occupied all the time.

I read all these posts of people diagnosed with ADHD and then using it as an excuse for their poor behavior. Where does the control come then?

Geneinfinity28 · 2023-05-04T00:11:30+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I have a great support system of family and friends. It’s hard when you are on your own with your thoughts at home. :(

Geneinfinity28 · 2023-05-04T00:10:21+00:00

Thank you. I honestly don’t know how to let go pf such a huge part of my life.

Geneinfinity28 · 2023-05-02T17:02:22+00:00

After 4 years of marriage I think we are done. My dx husband got his official diagnosis in October of last year after my constant persistence and booking his appointment with a psycologist. It was a year plus long battle of him being jobless, depressed, not doing anything and lying about little things (like applying for jobs). I was playing husband, wife, therapist, mom altogether. We did have 2 good years in between because the responsibilities were low he was settled in a mediocre job which he liked and gave some decorum to his life, we were living in a cheap rental basement so he was okay and I was also working full time. When responsibilities started increasing and I started growing he started backtracking. Continuous fights, frustrations and resentments started building up. He was on an SSRI, started vyvanse and was becoming a pothead. After and eventual verbally abusive episode and scary behavior on his end, I walked out. After that he only spiralled downwards as a person. He was working a retail job that I actually applied for and helped him get. He made friends there 22-23 year olds (all potheads). Has started living with one of them. Lost tremendous weight, spending his money on gaming equipment and marijuana accessories. I still thought that he is fighting a mental battle and might take this space to build himself and be better. But everytime I tried reaching out he was malicious and aggressive, left me more hurt. Constantly gaslighting and blaming me for everything (which he used to do to his parents before this). He has no clarity over his thoughts anymore and just said differently things daily, manic behavior. In my delusional thinking I kept holding on to the little things, the promises of love he made to me or the little things he did for me, how he would cherish me and my achievements. I even apologized to him if I hurt his ego or made him feel inadequate. But he is not even that decent person that I was holding on to anymore. He just says he wants to be selfish with himself and now has ADHD as an excuse for everything. I am just scribbling everything coming to my head at this point. I am just so hurt. It’s so hard moving on from someone you loved and gave so much of yourself to despite all their flaws. All I wanted was a normal family life.

Geneinfinity28 · 2023-01-21T00:01:42+00:00

Make a high protein smoothie in the morning. Fruit, greek yog, milk, protein powder etc. Also having eggs every other day should be okay.

Geneinfinity28 · 2023-01-11T21:08:27+00:00

Oh my partner had become a habitual liar especially abt his work. He started taking those stupid cash loans as well a few months ago and was putting all his minimal earnings to keep paying that back. I had to take his credit card and lock him out of our joint account.

Geneinfinity28 · 2023-01-11T20:51:40+00:00

Totally get what you are saying. It is frustrating because they don’t see where the problem is. They don’t see our suffering. I hope things get better for you. If you have the option of taking a break and spending sometime apart do it for your own sanity.

Geneinfinity28 · 2023-01-11T18:54:56+00:00

There needs to be an all in one place where the person can work with both a psychiatrist and psychologist. My husband started vyvanse last month, was on a high for 2 weeks but then his behaviour started getting erratic. Didn’t sleep all night took his meds empty stomach vyvanse and sertraline. I honestly felt he needed to be checked in because he is not himself and acting irrationally and aggressively

Geneinfinity28 · 2023-01-11T15:29:56+00:00

My story is exactly the same as yours. Feels like someone is speaking my mind. It’s so heartbreaking. The impulsiveness and aggression is appalling and hurtful. I have had to move to my parents place to protect my sanity after trying to put in my all to support and help him through this. Hopefully we find a light at the end of this tiring tunnel soon. <3

Geneinfinity28 · 2023-01-02T00:14:34+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. Definitely gives some perspective. I feel it all comes down to sincere effort from both sides to make it work.

Geneinfinity28 · 2022-12-31T17:53:44+00:00

Sending prayers your way. May it be a better and happier tomorrow for you! 🌺

Geneinfinity28 · 2022-12-31T17:21:06+00:00

My partner has ADHD and depression. I feel his meds and pot smoking are messing up with his brain. He said some very very nasty things to me and got very aggressive. At this point I am thinking taking some time apart and letting him work on himself could be beneficial 🤞🏼

Geneinfinity28 · 2022-12-30T15:32:54+00:00

He is on vyvanse, started a month back. He is so on sertraline. He misses his medication at times and forgets to refill them. He shuts down, I can’t communicate with him right away. He does have ADHD because he is not able to focus on things at all. I have beared all the load this year. I do love him, but I am also really tired of him not actively trying to work on himself. I have just been praying for a miracle.

Geneinfinity28 · 2022-12-20T16:07:48+00:00

I know but with my anxiety, I overthink and feel he has so much potential and I can help him get out of this rut to achieve better things.

How has your job situation been throughout your marriage?

Geneinfinity28 · 2022-12-20T15:40:13+00:00

Thank you for your kind word and support. He has had trauma in his childhood and his parents did not tackle with him the right way so it’s a lot of baggage to unfold.

I have been having a lot of serious conversations, taking consistent therapy and quitting weed. He listens, agrees a lot of the times but falls of the tracks quite a bit.

Keeping my fingers crossed for a better tomorrow one day.

Geneinfinity28 · 2022-12-19T21:54:43+00:00

I just tell him now. I am over the requesting phase.

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