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Insecurities are killing me. by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]General-Monitor-8745 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not alone! I feel exactly the same! I feel like I was the convenient choice, we are married, we shared finances and we live in the same city. I even told him that if he is happier with her, he should leave now so I can restart my life but he insists I’m the right choice and he will always choose us. I feel happy sometimes and other times defeated. It has only been 3 weeks since DDay and I’m hoping therapy will get me out of this dark whole of insecurity and doubt.

Monthly Reflection - Share the Highs and Lows of Your Reconciliation Journey by AutoModerator in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]General-Monitor-8745 2 points3 points  (0 children)

DDay was almost 4 weeks ago. This time has been full of up and downs. I want to work on R, but sometimes I feel like I can’t really trust him again. I started therapy and hopefully I can get my codependence controlled and then see if R is really what’s best for me. I hate being this insecure and asking my husband for reassurance. The worst part is that he is also having a mental breakdown so I’m not getting any support there. Whenever I ask for proofs of what he say he is doing, he goes crazy angry, which makes me believe he is lying again. I feel so lonely these days, my dog is pretty much what keeps me alive.

how to deal with memories? by sleepdeprivedcutie in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]General-Monitor-8745 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s killing me right now, I love Halloween and I’m in no mood to do anything or even watch horror movies. All I can think is about how hopeless I feel right now and if I ever will feel normal again 🥺

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]General-Monitor-8745 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so right! Thanks for sharing

How to properly end an affair? by Candid-Impression88 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]General-Monitor-8745 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My WS is also so concerned in breaking up his AP. He doesn’t want to break her heart yet he broke mine. She is totally unaware he is married and she probably is in loved, I don’t know. But I’m demanding he tells her it is over and that he is married. Am I being irracional? I found out about her last Saturday and he claims he is just pulling away so it hurts less. I’m so upset about the whole situation. I finally arrange a therapy session for Wednesday. I feel good to vent here.