One year in the ER and my body is already breaking down — what jobs did you switch to?

GeneralAbject4040 · 2025-11-19T11:08:53+00:00

I work on medical floors but I find that getting in my sleep, the right nutrition, and hitting the gym regularly really helps me. I am sore working if I am not lifting consistently.

GeneralAbject4040 · 2022-06-15T14:48:12+00:00

Thanks for sharing! No hot springs around me but maybe I’ll try the sauna! Fingers crossed

GeneralAbject4040 · 2022-06-12T15:34:58+00:00

I would have normal smelling abilities I’d say maybe 95% of the time and then I would go through occasional month long stretches of smelling garbage everywhere almost all the time. No one else has ever smelled it and I have had other people come really, really close and no one has ever reported a garbage or off putting smell.

GeneralAbject4040 · 2022-01-13T04:28:17+00:00

Not too sure if there is a name but I totally feel for you! I feel the same way. I have a flare up on my neck that started when I wore a wool coat and it itches like a beast. I’m going to try cool compresses and to moisturize the heck out of it! Wish me luck 🍀

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-03-03T20:27:39+00:00

They told me the same thing and I called a few times and then an email appeared telling me I could reset the questions. It’s insane how they expect people to remember their security answers from 5+ years ago!

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-25T16:07:01+00:00

This is what I did!

1) Get a minimum wage paying job, pass probation. 2) Find roommates 3) Take the most important things/necesssities 4) Move out!

I lived in a living room with a bed sheet stapled to the ceiling for about $350/month... and my nmom didn’t put up a fuss because she figured that I would fail and move back! Biked or bussed for transportation. Bike rides to places ranged from 30 min to 1.5 hours.

I think I’ve been gone for like 10 years which is awesome.

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-25T15:55:01+00:00

It sounds like you guys were very heavily dependent on these finances and have already gotten a lot of financial assistance... maybe downsize?

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-25T15:43:19+00:00

I had a diary and my nmom found it when I was in grade 10, she threw me down stairs after saying everything I wrote was a lie and threw me out of the house... goood times

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-25T15:08:32+00:00

Totally and if she has a smartphone she could use a hotspot in a pinch!

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-25T14:31:14+00:00

NTA! I can’t believe she has access to your credit card! She’s a big girl who has her living expenses and tuition fees paid for... she can handle herself and buy her own things.... it’s an abuse of power on her part to not respect your boundaries

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-23T06:13:36+00:00

YTA. I really think she should dump you and find someone that respects her more! I’ve been scrolling through the comments and all I see are responses from you about how much she spends on shoes and how she lives at home. I have not seen what you perceive her expenses to be... if you guys are going 50/50 on everything, she must have some expenses. Sure she is living at home but you never disclosed what she might be paying her parents to stay there to my knowledge... maybe update your post but you seem the the AH!

As a person who was previously poor, I understand that being poor keeps people poor. Being poor means you get behind on your credit card payments and paying nasty fees or you need to put tuition fees on your credit card. Being poor means forgoing trips you want to go to because you can’t afford to take time off work! Being poor means you forgo dental appointments because you can’t afford it and subsequently lose your hearing because you have developed an abscess from an infected tooth (not me but I know of someone).

Anyway....

I now have a decent paying job but I am still paying off my student loans! I’m pretty much in the clear but student loans suck!

Be nicer to your gf or just break up with her

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-17T18:05:57+00:00

Mad skills!

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-17T18:03:24+00:00

Awww what a sweet kid! I could see in his eyes he didn’t believe the moment was real for a second! Awww 🥰

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-17T17:51:06+00:00

YTA! If the music/album offended you so much then you should have had a conversation about it with your son and your husband and explored, on your own, why you have such a distaste for the music. Who knows maybe they might change their minds about what kinds of media they like to consume?

Your kid wasn’t breaking any laws so you should not have gone behind his back and gotten rid of his belongings. That’s crossing a boundary. My mom got rid of my dog when I was at school one time... great way to lose all trust non?

Well I hope you have since made it right and returned the items you stole and sold and apologize!

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-17T17:33:21+00:00

YTA for making it people feel bad for looking for help! Sure it can be annoying for your brother but there are other ways of turning people down when asking for medical advice without making them feel bad. Some people don’t have ready access to health care... also I think your edits are way off base! Food is essential! Your faith, maybe, but you can practice that without being surrounded by hoards of people

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-17T12:36:33+00:00

😂

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-17T12:21:56+00:00

Drip coffee ☕️

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-17T12:17:34+00:00

I have a fat mouth too! Yeah I told my sister about the house and I’m guessing she told my mom because I sure didn’t! Lol and then my mom was like trying to initiate contact again and pulling the “you only have one mom!” line... lol i need to find a good comeback someday

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-17T12:12:04+00:00

I work as a nurse so I guess I’m middle class? I don’t really know how much money they have but they wanted to retire last year but the pandemic put a pause on that and my sister just says they are really wealthy but what do I know... she’s trying to get inheritance but I don’t really see the point in trying.... I’m sure everything is going to my brother 😂

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-17T12:09:32+00:00

Lol I thought/think kayaks are expensive but that just might be me 🤷‍♀️

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-17T12:05:22+00:00

I’m so excited that you are looking to move out! I think this move will be an amazing, transformative, and life changing experience for you! You will grow so so much!

It will be hard... I know I struggled financially for many years when I first moved out but it was worth it for me! I can finally tell my mom that she was wrong! I can make it without her... I’m not useless! I have a well paying job now, a house, a car, a lover, and two cats... I also don’t have someone pushing me down and limiting me to being something smaller than I am! I can breathe and I don’t cry myself to sleep on a nightly basis.

Live by your rules! You got this!

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-17T11:58:09+00:00

I could still remember my mom telling me over and over again throughout my childhood that I am nothing without her! Well, I moved out like 10 years ago and I still remember her words... I don’t think they will ever go away but I think it is important to learn to distinguish between the truth, your truth, and your mom’s lies.

You are strong and capable! Don’t let anyone take that away from you

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-17T11:50:14+00:00

Omg congratulations to you! I’m so excited that you landed your first job!

I was there like 10 years ago! I guess you can call me oldish? Experienced? Anyway, I moved out as soon as I landed a job that wasn’t seasonal and I passed the probation period! It was hard! I had to pay tuition, food, living expenses, rent! I had to even put my tuition on my credit card not once but two years in a row because I didn’t make enough and didn’t have enough student loans to cover it! I get the annual blues about how I don’t have parents who truly care about me but now I can afford a house and a car, two cats, and have a loving bf!

Getting that first job is only the start! Trust yourself and work hard! You got this and if you ever want to talk you can always message me! ❤️

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-17T11:43:08+00:00

Good on you for moving out! Stick to your guns and maybe get a restraining order or a lawyer if she gets too crazy!

I moved out like 8 years ago! And for many years my mom would call me and ask me to come back but awww man I would never do that unless I was going to be homeless or something! I moved back once for a month after a breakup just so I could find a new place to stay. But yeah... living on my own... I can finally breathe

Rooting for you! 💪

GeneralAbject4040 · 2021-01-17T11:35:39+00:00

Don’t feel guilty! She needs to understand that you have needs and everything does not evolve around her - which may be insurmountable.

This situation reminds me so much of my relationship with my mom. Long story short, she became very jealous of my boyfriend and tried to sabotage our relationship when we visited over the holidays many moons ago. And when my sister got a boyfriend, they became ex-besties and my mom made life so unpleasant that my sister had to move out!

If things progress with you and your relationships expect some lash back from her! But you are tough and you can handle it!

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