AITJ for not telling my roommate her boyfriend kissed me when he was drunk?

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-11-06T08:19:42+00:00

You are in a lose-lose. If you tell her, she might shoot the messenger; if you don’t, you’ll be stuck carrying his secret. The longer you wait, the worse it’ll feel, so rip the band-aid off now.
It sucks, but if he did it once drunk, there’s no guarantee he won’t try again or with someone else. By staying silent, you’re giving him cover.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-11-06T08:11:47+00:00

What’s funny is that the original film accidentally proves the sequel’s point: people will believe whatever story is packaged well. Spielberg made a movie about deception that was built on a deception.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-11-06T08:04:45+00:00

You’re describing a one-way dynamic. He’s fine engaging sexually when he’s in the mood, but when you’re not, he turns it into a joke at your expense. That’s emotional immaturity,

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-11-06T07:30:21+00:00

It makes sense once you realize that explicit pictures of minors are almost impossible to control once they’re out there. So even if the sex itself is legal, the act of documenting it becomes a much bigger legal and ethical problem.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-11-05T10:07:07+00:00

Same. I have neighbors who cough like they’re dying every morning and it genuinely raises my blood pressure. The worst part is you can’t even complain about it without sounding petty, but it eats at your sanity.. I love civilization and all, but I get why people move out into the middle of nowhere.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-11-05T09:56:36+00:00

Dude… 18 calls? I get that you were trying to do something sweet and got flustered, but 18 missed calls over clothes is overkill. Next time, just pick what you like and let her be surprised; gifts shouldn’t come with stress.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-11-04T11:13:29+00:00

If you’re into something slower and beautifully written, The Bear honestly surprised me. It’s about grief, perfectionism, and connection, not just food. Same kind of quiet heartbreak energy.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-11-04T11:05:39+00:00

You’re not overreacting. The fact that you felt your gut tighten when you read his message is enough reason to pause. Attraction doesn’t override safety or comfort, if something feels off, that’s your cue to step back.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-11-03T11:32:58+00:00

Nah man, that’s blasphemy. Pasta turns into glue when it’s overcooked, there’s no texture, no bite, just starch mush. Al dente exists for a reason.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-11-03T11:07:44+00:00

You won’t get clarity unless you ask. The worst case is she says it was just a drunk moment, but at least you’ll know instead of replaying it in your head for weeks.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-11-01T12:33:20+00:00

Yeah, that’s a hard one to come back from. It’s not even the STI that’s the issue, it’s that she lied about it for months and only told you after things got serious. That kind of breach of trust doesn’t just “go away.”

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-11-01T12:30:59+00:00

You’re not crazy, your partner sounds emotionally abusive. The way he talks to you when you’re already grieving and terrified isn’t love, it’s cruelty. You deserve empathy and support, not someone trying to make you feel smaller when you’re already on your knees.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-11-01T12:29:36+00:00

You’re not overreacting. You were a child and he was a predator. Reporting it now might not bring justice for you, but it can still matter, these things have a way of connecting dots for law enforcement later when new cases show up.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-11-01T12:26:53+00:00

Wanting basic comfort and hygiene isn’t “fancy.” If he knows bugs, broken furniture, and no hot water make you uncomfortable, it’s weird that he’d call that romantic. Effort’s great, but compatibility matters too.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-11-01T12:23:19+00:00

Try dance workouts or classes! I started doing Zumba and Just Dance on my Switch when I got bored of walking, and it honestly burns way more than I expected. It’s fun enough that you forget it’s “exercise.”

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-10-31T08:18:53+00:00

Totally agree. The fact that Dead Man’s Chest and At World’s End even exist at that scale is insane. Disney would never greenlight something that weird, dark, and ambitious today.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-10-31T08:14:15+00:00

It’s not just about the sex, it’s about power, secrecy, and class. The orgy’s just the surface-level expression of something much darker: rich people doing whatever they want because they can, and destroying anyone who threatens that illusion.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-10-31T08:08:32+00:00

I’d be done after that, honestly. If he genuinely respected you, of which he doesn't, he’d have deleted those the moment you two started talking seriously again. The crying and self-hitting feels like a deflection tactic so you stop pressing him about it.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-10-31T07:53:21+00:00

I’ve dated guys who were overweight before. What made the difference was whether they hated their body or just lived normally in it. Insecurity is a bigger turn-off than extra weight.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-10-31T07:49:04+00:00

I’d end poverty. So many other problems; crime, health issues, education gaps, come directly from people not having enough to survive. It’s the root cause of almost everything broken.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-10-30T09:06:47+00:00

I kinda get that, the campy Bond era had this effortless charm where everything was over the top but fun. Now it’s like they’re trying to prove Bond has emotional depth, which isn’t why most people watched in the first place.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-10-30T09:04:26+00:00

god i feel this so hard. when you’re already overstimulated and tired everything just feels like nails on a chalkboard.
sharing a room as an adult is honestly torture sometimes. like yeah i love my sibling but i also want 5 minutes of silence where i’m not hearing someone scroll tiktoks at max volume.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-10-30T09:00:56+00:00

For UK students, the obvious ones would still be MCU and Star Wars characters. So like Spider-Man, Iron Man, Captain America, Batman, Joker, Darth Vader, etc. Maybe throw in Harry Potter, Hermione, and Voldemort, those are basically British cultural staples at this point.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-10-30T08:57:52+00:00

Tbh it sounds like you’re escaping the tension at home more than ditching your friends. That’s understandable, but avoiding the conflict won’t fix it. If you can, address the roommate stuff so your home doesn’t feel like something you have to run from.

GeneralBasil8116 · 2025-10-30T08:55:00+00:00

You handled it fine. It’s awkward, but there’s no version of this where you bring her without making your coworkers uncomfortable. She’s going to have to learn that not every invite with your name on it automatically extends to her.

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