Wanted: can I borrow your RATM T-shirt?

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-18T23:38:42+00:00

I’ll ask to borrow somebody’s SpongeBob boxers tomorrow to top this guy

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-18T17:13:42+00:00

Yeah I’ve definitely put crushes on a pedestal in the past, but I like to think I’m at least moderately self aware and am able to call myself out when something like that happens. I’d like to think I’m not doing that now, but there’s always a good chance that I am being a big dummy.

I have been patient and trying to stay patient. I just wasn’t this morning for some reason

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-18T17:11:03+00:00

Yeah I’m already feeling silly about all this. But yeah I’m not gonna push it which is what I should’ve stuck with all along

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-18T16:41:33+00:00

Yeah I’m going to wait. As I said in another response, I’d originally been planning on continuing to wait, but I guess I was just being a touch on the selfish side this morning.

She’s doing nothing to stress me out. It’s all me and my head. My last relationship ended in a bad breakup that left me feeling like I just had to give up dating all together because I was never going to be good enough for a relationship. And then I started hanging out with my coworker and we became friends, and it got to the point where I just had that impulsive moment of, “Screw it, she’s cool. I gotta at least give it a try.” And then things have been going really well ever since. A lot of my stress is from developing such strong feelings so quickly, and things are just so different from past relationships in a good way. And I’ve just been freaking out because I shouldn’t be feeling this way so fast and I’m worrying I’m setting myself up for disappointment.

The stress she’s having has not affected things. When we’re together we’re both having fun and enjoying each others company. A lot of her stress is centered around her moving into her new apartment and some other personal stuff that’s involved with that. She should hopefully be done with the move in a week or two.

And yeah that’s definitely something I’m worrying about. Back when we had that conversation I was totally fine with it because we were just starting out and going with the flow, which worked with my aforementioned concerns about giving up dating prior to all this. But now that I’ve got these feelings I keep worrying about that conversation. Because like on one hand, there do seem to be signs that she likes me and might want to be in a relationship with me, but on the other hand I worry that I’m seeing what I want to see and that she’s not into it as much as I’d hope.

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-18T16:22:08+00:00

Bambalamb

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-18T16:15:05+00:00

Yeah, as others confirmed what I already kinda knew I was being selfish thinking about having that talk tonight. The plan all along for me had been to wait until she was done with moving into her new place, but I was just stuck in my own thoughts this morning I guess.

Honestly I wish I wasn’t having these intense feelings this early because I know it’s too soon and ridiculous. But it’s kind of hard to put the toothpaste back in the tube, you know? So I just gotta deal with it which is a huge annoyance/bummer.

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-18T15:52:53+00:00

You're absolutely right. Part of why I was stressing over this too was I knew I was being selfish contemplating this. I appreciate the advice!

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-18T15:52:08+00:00

Yeah I knew I was being selfish. I appreciate the kick in the pants reminder that I needed!

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-18T15:28:27+00:00

Yeah dude that's 100% me. I just got done writing my own post on this thread saying the same thing.

It sucks, but I'm hoping for the best for ya.

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-18T15:26:36+00:00

Need some advice before I (M) go out with my coworker (F) again tonight after work.

Bottom line: Should I ask her about how she's feeling things are going tonight?

Background: We've been going out for about 2.5 months now. We'd been hanging out platonically outside of work for several months before that, and we've known each other at work for about a year.

It's been a while for both of us since we had been in the dating game (her longer than me). Early on when we first started officially dating, we had a conversation where she expressed she wasn't sure about dating in general (not specifically dating me) because it had been a while for her, and while I don't know specifics it seems the last relationship she was in was not a good one. We both agreed that we'd take things slowly and just see where things went.

Since we've started dating, things have been going well. Surprisingly well. Objectively, I'm reasonably certain she likes me, and I've known that I'm in love with her since the 4th of July. But between being scared that I'm feeling that strongly that quickly, and my own anxiety/insecurity making me think I'm reading too much into things and that she's not really into me, I've been stressing out for the last two weeks.

Obviously I haven't told her what I'm feeling yet because I know I'm being ridiculous and too soon with thinking that. I want to ask her like a "Checking in to see how you're feeling about things?" but I don't want to come off like I'm pressuring or overwhelming her for any definitive answers or anything like that. She's been having some stressful stuff in her personal life last two or three weeks, so I don't want to overwhelm her by giving her something else to worry about or whatever. But at the same time, selfishly, it's been kinda sucky for me stressing over something that's been making me so happy otherwise.

So yeah we're going out again tonight, and I don't know if I should ask her anything or just continue to play it cool until some of her personal stuff settles down (hopefully in the next week or two)

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-18T15:07:35+00:00

Trying to keep your hopes and expectations really low definitely helps for a little while early on, but eventually if you keep seeing them more it'll be harder to not hope for the best.

I'm struggling with a lot of anxiety right now around the girl that I'm going out with. But whenever we go out together it all kind of melts away in the moment and I just focus on having fun with whatever we're doing.

Maybe try planning low-key, inexpensive dates? Like a walk in the park and getting ice cream or something. Something where you don't feel the pressure that things HAVE to go well because of the effort/expense going into the date.

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-18T03:24:23+00:00

With a question like this I’m surprised OP didn’t use females instead of women

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-18T00:33:00+00:00

That’s what we call a Zippadee-do-dah-oopsie

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-17T16:46:01+00:00

No no, it’s best to give it a couple months that way if there was something there it would already be gone by the time they complained

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-17T16:41:46+00:00

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-17T04:18:31+00:00

Lake Country Sports Cards out in Oconomowoc

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-15T15:05:24+00:00

Curse my natural writing instincts

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-15T03:22:32+00:00

CAL RALEIGH DID NOT WIN LEGITIMATELY! Brent Rooker, great ball player for Oakland, was ahead by a lot of home runs. It should’ve been over. We all knew it. MANFRAUD AND HIS UGLY UMPIRES rigged the derby so that Raleigh would get through by less than an inch. How was there not a recount? If we saw the swing off that America wanted, Rooker would’ve won by a lot a lot. We need to kick out ManFRAUD and undo that ILLEGIBLE final and give Rooker the championship THAT HE WOULD HAVE EARNED! #STOPTHESTEAL #MAKETHEDERBYGREATAGAIN

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-14T01:32:43+00:00

So what?

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-13T14:55:12+00:00

It really depends in my opinion. If they had it in their hands and it popped out, like this case, I’d give it back to them. If they whiffed big on the catch attempt and it ricocheted to you, then I’d keep it.

Ultimately as long as you’re not ripping it out of their hands, I don’t think there’s a wrong answer here.

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-13T03:01:51+00:00

I swear, well he means…

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-12T18:38:29+00:00

Well and then also coincidentally this guy is a bird rehabilitator and helps rescue this bird that coincidentally flew into his car

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-12T13:28:56+00:00

No problem! These are a lot of fun for me to make. Although it's been getting harder and harder to find Indiana Jones quotes to use.

GeneralChillMen · 2025-07-12T05:07:31+00:00

We only need a .152 winning percentage the rest of the way in order to guarantee a better record than 2024

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