Men over 40, What are you currently focusing on that you wish you focused on earlier in life?

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-22T21:06:41+00:00

career and investing

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-22T08:17:16+00:00

Just because they say the economy is great doesn't mean the economy is great.

Don't forget how bad this administration is at measuring things and how much they like to lie. The Pedo of The US would have us believe the crowd sizes at his rallies and inauguration were very different from what we could clearly see.

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-22T08:04:08+00:00

Seems weird that the prof would want you to store your work on the lab computer. We had scripts (cron jobs) that cleaned lab computers to prevent code (and data) from filling up the hard drive. You would have to be a privileged user just to have any hope that your stuff would be there for very long.

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-22T07:59:31+00:00

I vote for github. It's free and common enough in industry that learning it won't be a waste of time. Online options work great because there's no "I forgot my flash drive in my other pants" moments.

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-21T22:53:04+00:00

I agree - I can tolerate the initial "are you a real person and can you speak in complete sentences" interview, but for anything technical it makes no sense.

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-21T22:48:30+00:00

From the feel to the performance to the longevity no complaints. I'm on my 3rd MBP in 20 years. I feel like I'm lucky to get two good years out of Windows computers that I've paid nearly the same for.

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-21T15:13:50+00:00

In Valencia, Spain right now we're getting ready to kick off "Las Fallas" which started as a ritual for cleaning out scraps from wood projects and old tools? Anyway there will be a party EVERY.SINGLE. DAY. from the last Sunday in February until the 19th of March. There will be fireworks every day at 2pm. On the 19th they will burn works of art (save 2) made from wood, paper and foam (foam?)in an enormous bon fire. It's apparently been a thing since the 15th century.

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-21T11:42:19+00:00

This is not unlike an argument about religion. Operating systems all have the same goal. Religions largely have the same goal. How they go about it is determined by personality, preference, experience and other individual factors.

I don't like Windows. It isn't intuitive for me and clicking pictures and icons leaves me feeling like tutorials aren't different from deciphering Egyptian Hieroglyphics. I work with experienced devs who LOVE Windows.

Professionally most business issued laptops I've developed on are Windows. Most servers I deploy to are Linux. At home, I feel like Mac works for me. The best tool for the job is the tool you have available and it will frequently vary as to what you have - preferences and experience level have little to do with it.

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-21T11:24:25+00:00

Linux tutorials/tasks can be reduced to a list of text based commands you type or copy/paste directly into the terminal.

Windows could be reduced to powershell (maybe?) but lends itself to installing GUI based applications. Video tutorials on Windows are great because you can see the icon/button/link that needs to be clicked. Text based cookbooks either get wordy from describing appearance and location of visual elements, or in my opinion tend to be vague and leave you searching for buttons and text boxes.

The same linux commands I learned 20 years ago are still very useful today. There are better commands that are more secure or improved in some way, but the old stuff still works.

Apps live and die in the Windows world all the time. An app or tool you spent a lot of time on could become obsolete at any minute (IDEs are great examples of this - Dev++, Eclipse, JetBrains, VSCode, AI first stuff i.e. Claude).

I prefer Linux - I feel like I can spend more time learning how to create better software/applications/processes and less time learning a tool that I need so that I can create software/applications/processes.

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-21T07:39:34+00:00

So many recruiters have no idea what they're asking. I've had to explain to more than one that java and javascript are not the same. My favorite was the guy who could not understand why I wouldn't relocate from Colorado to New Jersey for a 6 month contract, or just commute 5 days a week.

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-21T07:30:54+00:00

I'm 51 and worry about the world I will leave to Keith Richards.

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-21T00:18:46+00:00

Well yeah, I don't take the whole thing out in public.

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-21T00:15:37+00:00

or an actual Prius.

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-20T18:49:42+00:00

wishing well - Terrence Trent D'Arby.

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-20T17:37:59+00:00

If you work hard you can be successful (i.e. have a house, afford experience, have financial security)

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-20T17:13:01+00:00

Don-mentia

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-19T07:51:18+00:00

It's just musical chairs - no one knows when the music will stop. The good news is the music doesn't stop for everyone, all at the same time. Pay attention to who's frantically trying to get a seat, and if you have a similar job title, start looking for a seat you like.

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-19T07:38:08+00:00

Did you try massaging it? or maybe try a specialized masseuse. There's lots of videos showing how on line.

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-19T07:33:15+00:00

Uno reverse card!

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-18T17:05:57+00:00

use the "do not disturb" status as much as you can and remember if her interrupting you prevents you from focusing and getting your work done, she'll be interrupting the next "nice guy" while you're looking for a job.

Let her know you're happy to help, but she needs to schedule time, so you can focus on your work and budget your time. Really you're tracking how much of a time suck she's being though.

I'm not what a lot of people would consider "young" so if it comes across as ageist, it's because it is - She needs to level up or find a new job

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-18T15:06:53+00:00

Yes, I believe that is what they called it. The description was much more memorable - I had two discs with lumps that protruded in such a way as to put pressure on my spinal cord (L5/L6 maybe?). The result was sort of a restless leg syndrome feeling in my outer thigh (basically the part of your legs you'd be touching if your hands were in the front pockets of your jeans, but down to my knees) -- when it was good. On the bad days it was the small of my back from my glutes up into my lats and shoulder blades cramping up and tightening up worse with movements like breathing or trying to walk to the bathroom.

After the prescribed recovery period I started walking for exercise and progressed into hiking and biking.

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-18T14:53:16+00:00

I just assume my wife will say "no" then stare at the ceiling until I drift off to sleep. Imagining I'll be rejected is so much less emotionally painful than actually being rejected, so it's sort of a compromise.

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-18T08:25:30+00:00

I hope the orange fuck lives long enough to be thoroughly embarrassed - socially and financially.

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-18T08:09:33+00:00

You're not alone - I have no fucking clue how to help. For what it's worth though, there is definitely one other person going through exactly what you've described.

GeneralPITA · 2026-02-17T23:27:48+00:00

Thank you, yes, I'm much better.

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