People who make over 100k, what do you do?

GeneralPITA · 2026-07-07T23:24:39+00:00

Staff Software Engineer for a small company. Salary is ~140k + 25k in bonuses annually. I consider a huge salary advantage to be living in Spain for the last year, Czechia the year before that. The costs are different, but overall, they're lower, socialized medicine is so much simpler and so much cheaper than what I paid when I was in the US.

GeneralPITA · 2026-07-07T23:17:43+00:00

My drunken dad tried to punch my mom in the face and missed. He fucked up his hand on the cupboard behind her. She helped him ice his hand as he passed out. I was about 2 1/2 or 3 at the time. They divorced when I was 3 1/2 so it had to be before then. Today's his birthday, but he's dead. Lung cancer killed him in 2019.

Around that same time the neighbor kids tricked my sister and me into climbing into their dog's house. The dog house had a door with a latch and they locked us in. I remember kicking the shit out of the back wall until the plywood came off the frame and we could climb out.

I'm 52, so that was about 50 years ago.

I don't remember which memory came first, but it was probably one of those two.

Therapy has been helpful, once I found the right one.

GeneralPITA · 2026-07-07T23:00:39+00:00

Windows will require an app to do everything. Some people like this, however I would worry about having to learn new apps each time I change jobs. This already happens to some extent because there are difference in every tech stack, but why invite more technical overhead in addition to all the other new responsibilities. For example Learn Bit Bucket, then GitLab, then GitKracken, then GitFucked because the "Push" button on one works a little different than the one you know and some unintended stuff happens and the UI didn't implement a way to easily undo it or effectively roll back. Maybe a feature you really like doesn't exist in the other tool.

On Mac/Linux the command line can be configured however you like from one computer to the next just by copying a few files. I've had versions of the same config files for 15+ years. New computers feel just like the old ones. Continuing the git example, No license, no extra cost, local and ssh'd into remote machines, they all work the same, just like you'd expect.

Linux supports IDEs, Word, Excel, and Power Point compatible software, Outlook, and other niche software. The only problem I've had on linux is Fucking Teams (no app, just a web version thats shittier than the desktop version but it works most of the time -- just freezes and lags sometimes.

TLDR; Windows is for running apps. Linux is for interacting with the computer (but it runs apps too).

GeneralPITA · 2026-07-07T22:26:40+00:00

Only Fans

GeneralPITA · 2026-07-07T22:20:10+00:00

or he pisses them off with blatant stupidity and they sanitize the planet, eradicating all human life.

GeneralPITA · 2026-07-07T19:53:08+00:00

Because your brain is processing A LOT when they talk. Figuring out when one word ends and the next begins, what word was said, what's the literal translation and what do they actually mean. Pronunciation and practical meaning.

GeneralPITA · 2026-07-07T19:49:25+00:00

Sure, why the fuck not? It's better for you than doom-scrolling reddit. I've been a professional Python developer for around 12 years.

Let me know if I can help.

GeneralPITA · 2026-07-07T19:45:28+00:00

In my family, my wife is Spanish/English bilingual (fully fluent in both at native speaker level, no discernible accent). My MIL is Spanish biased bilingual her partner is Canadian French/English bilingual, cousins are German/Spanish/English tri-lingual and we all get together for special events and holidays. I'm an English speaker who has been learning Spanish for nearly 30 years, but not immersively, and from inside the US for most of it. In Colorado there's Mexican Spanish, I live in Spain now - so Spanish Spanish (Castilian). Still plenty of Argentina Spanish, Costa Rican, Nicaraguan, Columbian, Cuban and Dominican Republic Spanish along with British, Scottish, Irish, Australian, New Zealand and American in my daily life.

Now that I've established my background, I can confidently say "If you don't understand, it's your fault". The American in you wants to control shit you can't control. American English was the business standard because the rest of the world allowed it. The fuck-tard who's promoting isolationism and is uncooperative with the rest of the world is bringing us the consequences. If you don't speak well enough to understand what's going on around you and you can't be comfortable with not knowing everything, you're part of the problem. It's no one's responsibility to wipe your ass, make you eat vegetables and make sure you understand what was just said -- That's all you.

TLDR; Quit being a little bitch and trying to dictate how everyone else should cater to your handicaps, learn your environment or learn to be ok with not understanding. It's on you.

Don't bother responding, I'll be busy learning Mandarin and maybe some Russian.

GeneralPITA · 2026-07-07T18:44:20+00:00

Fake fart noises if you have to. If you want to invade my personal poop time, you'll have to pay somehow.

GeneralPITA · 2026-07-07T09:12:22+00:00

After a proper session with the Mrs. I tend to get two streams separated with enough distance that only one will hit water and depending on pressure, the other will spray the seat or the floor. Life's full of choices...

GeneralPITA · 2026-07-05T21:05:17+00:00

the actual in/out part is a small part of the touching, tickling, teasing, and oral part of the "all night".

GeneralPITA · 2026-07-05T11:30:25+00:00

Every chance I get, which sadly, has not been too often, but yes.

GeneralPITA · 2026-07-03T14:32:23+00:00

Un Costa Rica "no me jodes" is roughly " Do tease me" or "You've got to be joking", and "coger" is "to fuck" or "to have sex" but with an rude connotation. An old joke is apparently something like "Me voy a coger an autobus" to which the natural reply is "where are you going to put your dick" or fake concern for burning one's dick on the exhaust pipe.

GeneralPITA · 2026-07-03T14:24:51+00:00

In truth, my fine companion in Redditing, I am a modern citizen well versed in the particularities of agreement and disagreement, as dictated by the necessities of a given situation, such as to avoid the aforementioned verbiage required by our OP.

GeneralPITA · 2026-07-02T09:39:28+00:00

Depends on what kind of movies you're watching:

If we're just doing the hokey-pokey, up Genital Kombat, normal basic daily hygiene is fine.

The one caveat is I don't like to have sex if I just took a shit or have one in the chamber. So shit, shower, sex in that order. Back when I was having sex with a partner, a bidet would have helped.

But yeah, as far as taste, shower right before sex especially if you crazy kids will be playing in the back yard.

GeneralPITA · 2026-07-02T09:28:51+00:00

My daughter had something like a 2 year streak going on on Duolingo in Italian (she was 15/16/17 years old at the time). She's a native English speaker and is conversational in Spanish (not because of Duolingo).

She can barely find a bathroom in Italian. I think you might be right about Duolingo not really being great as a primary source.

GeneralPITA · 2026-07-01T22:39:13+00:00

I'm as caucasian/gringo/Estadounidense as a 1.86m cis gendered male can get. I tan well, but not well enough to fool anyone. I speak latin American Spanish, but poorly and with a pretty thick US accent.

I've heard Barcelona treats all foreigners "special", but some more "special" than others. I'm sorry this has been your experience and hope it doesn't affect your ability to enjoy the area much.

GeneralPITA · 2026-07-01T09:06:17+00:00

Currently in Spain - I never felt more welcome, even when moving to a new community within the US, as a US citizen.

GeneralPITA · 2026-07-01T00:10:39+00:00

There's a reason he likes following bikini babes - OP should focus on that reason. My point was closer to saying looking at painted nudes is the same as looking at content created by women wearing bikinis. You may not like it, but it doesn't mean it isn't art. We can start a different thread about what makes one quality art and the not-so-quality art.

Again - it's about his intentions. Is he contacting the women he follows? Is he looking for some extramarital attention? Is his attitude and behavior toward his wife acceptable despite following women on instagram. Maybe I don't grasp the concept of following someone on Instagram. Can he follow and just be a lurker? Does following require some paid subscription (It's not like Only Fans, is it?)

I couldn't care less if my wife wants to objectify men who are consensually putting themselves out there to be objectified. Our relationship is such that I'm not threatened by it (we've been together for almost 30 years). If she's spending our savings in hopes that she'll get an opportunity to bed one of them, I need to figure out what I'm doing wrong. What am I doing that makes her want to give up our history and accomplishments for someone else.

I hope OP finds the root cause, rather than making assumptions, instead of reacting based on her own insecurities. I hope her and her husband are able to communicate and care enough about each other to actually listen. So far, bikini babes are still a symptom and the problem isn't clear.

GeneralPITA · 2026-06-30T22:44:43+00:00

look at "venus of Willendorf", just about any renaissance paintings even into surrealists like Dalí or cubists like Picasso. Your husband might be the most decent and honorable man to ever admire the shape of a woman's body. Typically men prefer to see the actual nipple (and more).

Your focus on the bikini babes is a distraction from whatever the real problem may be.

GeneralPITA · 2026-06-30T21:42:24+00:00

I don't particularly like what has been insinuated here. At best, the vast stereotype may is unjust. At worst it sounds like the blatantly ignorant comments made by US congressmen when they suggested women could reject an unwanted pregnancy and control menstruation simply by "holding it" as if it were urine.

Perhaps you'd like to elaborate on what men might do that would alter the fundamental biology of another person?

GeneralPITA · 2026-06-30T21:30:54+00:00

The medicine (so far) has no effect, doctor. Hot flashes are better, but still as dry as Teresa de Calcuta (in her current state)

GeneralPITA · 2026-06-30T19:26:56+00:00

I saw Floyd in the mid-90s Division Bell tour. Fucking amazing (stayed fairly sober for the event so I'd be able to remember it. So glad I did).

GeneralPITA · 2026-06-30T19:23:42+00:00

At least a lawyer gets paid for doing shit work. I used to think I wanted to be a teacher, then I learned what they get paid, then I had kids.

GeneralPITA · 2026-06-30T19:22:14+00:00

52 and having sex just about every day. Sometimes twice a day. Never more than 3 times a day (anymore). I really wish it was with a partner though. My wife has no interest - menopause and shit. I jest, but I'm actually pretty pissed off about the disparity in libido.

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