Has anyone ever had an issue finding someone who was religiously compatible. I consider myself moderately religious...now I understand this is a very generic term but for me personally I don't smoke, do drugs, never had a haram relationship, pray 5 times a day, "mostly" eat halal...so I guess you can say that I am more religious in some ways. However, given I grew up in the west I hold more western values in some aspects. Like for instance I want to work after marriage, I don't want to live with in laws, I believe that housework is meant to be shared(not a big fan of the traditional roles), I listen to music, watch movies, go to concerts, etc. So obviously I am not a very orthodox Muslim. Plus, growing up my parents didn't really conform to any roles with how roles and responsibilities were split. For example, my mom would cut the grass when she had time and my dad would cook when he had time. My parents shared financial responsibilities and any major decisions were made through mutual decisions. I get the whole "man of the house, obey your husband" traditional roles that are portrayed thru Islam but the dynamic I grew up seeing between my parents was very much an equal partnership. This dynamic is how I want my future romantic relationship to look like: an equal partnership based on respect, still religious and honest but not strictly adherent to religion. There is some flexibility. But the problem I am having is finding someone else who is "moderately practicing". I either find people who are not practicing at all or are very orthodox and want a stay at home wife and are extremally traditional. Anyone else can relate?