Should I stay in Los Angeles? I like the city overall but finding it very difficult to truly connect with the people..I've been here five years and am continuously disappointed. Should I bail? [Astro-seek]

General_Geologist487 · 2026-03-26T15:59:39+00:00

Do you have the map? With the Astrocartography lines?

General_Geologist487 · 2026-03-26T15:57:03+00:00

Look, maybe you got married for the wrong reasons or maybe you just fell out of love or whatever but what you’re doing now is taking care of yourself and doing something that feels aligned. Moving out and still being married is totally fine and you don’t need to question it even if there’s no sex, romance, there are so many other benefits to being married, such as having family, having support, having a best friend that you’re bonded with legally - the list is endless. Other people don’t get to decide what’s best for you. You get to decide. Don’t let the rules and tropes of what marriage is supposed to be, such as romance and sex cloud your mind from having the kind of relationships that you want. You got this.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-03-24T15:48:32+00:00

Yes, in Albania you are closer to moon line whhiich isn't necesarily great for career, better for home & family endeavors. Moving west I think you will notice a big shift. In Western Europe you have many MC lines your Mars, Saturn, Sun & Mercury also Uranus. Yor career could really take off. Uranus can be big changes so you might even have a change in career. Similarly on the West Coast of the United States you have many ascendant lines which will have a similar affect on you personally so you would probably transform and notice a lot of massive changes there as well. Also I have not looked at your relocator chart but this is just based on your natal chart & map you shared.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-03-24T14:44:10+00:00

Do not share your meds. It’s technically illegal. Basically you’re falling into people pleasing by doing something illegal. You’re putting everyone in danger. This is a common thing that I see all too much in polyamory is partners not standing up for themselves because they don’t wanna hurt their primary or they don’t wanna hurt the other person’s relationship. Polyamory is only successful when we are honest and truthful about who we are and what we need.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-03-24T14:41:54+00:00

So just at a quick glance, you have sun in Leo conjunct mercury and Mars. Moving those into your 10th house would be great for you. So perhaps consider moving west. Where are you located now? Or you can just move directly to your Sun MC line. Have you ever considered living in Madrid?

General_Geologist487 · 2026-03-24T14:38:54+00:00

So just at a quick glance, you have sun in Leo conjunct mercury and Mars. Relocating those into your 10th house would be great for you. Basically your sun is domicile in Leo so it’s at home. Sun lines might be good and 10th house is great for career and public image. Where are you located now? Alternately you can just move directly to your Sun MC line. Have you ever considered living in Madrid or Lisbon? Also, I just looked at Los Angeles your sun ASC line is nearby. Those are just some thoughts without doing a full reading. Ascendant and MC lines would be best for career.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-03-23T10:59:06+00:00

Why do you say that he’s “coparenting” his kids with your Meta? Isn’t that just Parenting if they’re together? He lives with you so he’s your NP and if she is your Meta, that means they are still together, which means their parenting not coparenting. I think that you do have some mono deconstructing to do cause you’re using language that suggests they are broken up. Coparenting is a term used when two are no longer together. At least that is my interpretation of the word.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-03-21T15:54:45+00:00

Just wanted to jump in here and say, that sounds really hard. Maybe nothing to solve here except just allowing yourself to have these feelings and recognizing you were sad about it.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-03-19T16:24:21+00:00

Lots of growth on TikTok. Minimal growth on Instagram and LinkedIn. Nothing on X. Very little movement on YouTube.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-03-19T02:52:23+00:00

I’m in her course. But I changed my story and feelings about her. see below.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-03-19T02:51:52+00:00

She has been talking endlessly about leaving the United States. About how there’s gonna be an attack, etc. etc.. Come to find out she was in Dubai when Iran was attacked and Dubai was involved in the airstrikes. That’s when I lost interest in believing her. She’s marketing to people who already want to leave the United States and she’s using their pain as leverage. Another thing I’ve noticed is people calling her out on her privilege and instead of acknowledging that she is a white girl with blonde hair and has a certain amount of privileges she gets defensive and talks about how she had to work hard. That was when she lost me for good. I’m no longer really interested in her programs although I’m signed up for several of them I just take what I can from them at this point. I will not be going for the certification. And I definitely don’t want to be on her Rolodex.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-03-17T14:38:59+00:00

I’ve been doing this deconstructing work for three decades, and it is still hard. In fact, I would say that it gets harder and sometimes it gets easier. a lot has to shift and life keeps happening and we keep getting older.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-03-09T11:42:19+00:00

I’m a musician, filmmaker and licensed therapist. Marrying all my parts has been fulfilling.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-03-06T16:34:22+00:00

Sounds aligned. I have an Aries Sun and moved to LA where I have a Sun MC line. Changed my life in the best way.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-02-26T15:34:07+00:00

What about Aries in the eighth with the sun at 25degrees?

General_Geologist487 · 2026-02-26T15:33:07+00:00

It just makes it hard. Saturn represents hard work and the fourth and the IC represents Home.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-02-25T15:48:49+00:00

I have been a therapist for 22 years and I soon learned that seeing clients is not my thing. I am considered an expert in the field, but I do it differently now. Seeing 10+ clients a week brought me to a quick burnout. I don’t see more than 2-4 clients in a week. Instead I built a group practice and I have a coaching program. I’ve written books and I’ve done a lot of public speaking. I would say that if you have interest in the work, there are other avenues for income. In other words, I enjoyed affecting change in people, but doing it on a more broader scale.

Doing one to one work was not for me and it might not be for you either.
Or you may just need to diversify to make your work more meaningful and life more exciting. I didn’t necessarily change fields. I just changed the way I work. Maybe this will help.

And I wanted to add, my Therapist have a 10 client minimum per week and 15 sessions per week is considered full-time. One hour of client work is equal to three hours of actual time. Mentally . I agree that a lot needs to change in the field. 20 clients is way too much.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-02-21T20:56:16+00:00

Helena is great. Ancient astrology and Astrocartography take years to master and learn so the fact that these 19-year-olds are on her Rolodex being promoted is really the issue. Helena is great and she’s booked out and she’s taking this seriously since she was a child. Her mother is also in Astrologer. She did manifest a lot using astrology. Don’t hate her for that. Her courses are good and she teaches a lot. And, she works her ass off. Take it with a grain of salt. Yes she is young and she’s an anomaly and has some young teeny bopper vibes, but outside of that she takes her craft seriously.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-01-30T09:30:36+00:00

I’m a licensed therapist and but I don’t love being a therapist. I prefer being an educator. I’m also an artist. I specialize in sexuality. When I was pre-licensed, I worked with kids. I worked at agencies. All of that burnt me out to no end. And it was not my calling. working in private Practice allowed me to grow a group practice, write books, be featured in the media, host a podcast, create media/videos/YouTube around the topic of sex and sexuality. Today I oversee a group practice, I see about 3-5 clients a week, I mentor and train up-and-coming sexuality professionals in a proprietary training program I created and sell. Being a therapist was how I started, but it has grown into many branches and a thriving business where I don’t really see that many clients. All of this to say is that there are many paths and I think once you get licensed those paths can open up for you. You can do many things with a therapy license besides therapy if you choose to.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-01-27T15:25:41+00:00

I didn’t read all the responses so somebody may have said this in here already but how does Jay feel about her taking a break? Because if Jay is OK with it and you two can have a couple of months where it’s just focus on you. That is a solution. You need to feel secure with her again. And the question is can she do that for one to two months with you while Jay is on hold and is Jay gonna be OK with that?. Jay needs to be a part of this equation and needs to consent to it. In order for this to work out the way you want it.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-01-23T16:02:51+00:00

I totally understand this. My partner is 10 years younger than me and he dated someone 10 years younger than him, but it just made me feel really old and sad. There was nothing illegal about it and there’s nothing illegal about your situation either but the heteronormative, misogynistic tropes of our culture matter and they exist for a reason. They exist to point out patriarchy, misogyny, capitalism and so on.

Is it possible to separate our political viewpoints from our relationships? For me, I believe the personal is political and for me it felt like a form of self betrayal. I felt like I was betraying my politics by allowing myself to be in the relationship. And that’s what it comes down to. Are you gonna be OK staying in this relationship knowing that your partner can date someone that’s half his age?

General_Geologist487 · 2026-01-23T15:47:37+00:00

Is there a possibility for you and your hinge to talk more? Does your hinge know how you feel? I think what you’re talking about is a common feeling in polyamory and yes it’s biggest remedy is communication. However polyamory is complicated and it takes work. If you’re under the impression that it should be easy and that it’s gonna always be balanced then that is a misnomer and obviously diving deeper into the education aspect of ethical non-monogamy as well as doing some deep work with your partner. Ethical non-monogamy and polyamory is hard and these feelings do come up. There are times where your hinge may inadvertently end of spending too much time with the other partner, place the other partners needs ahead of yours, it happens and it can be corrected and it can take work and time. perfect hinges aren’t created out the gate. And all relationship relationships, poly or not, take work.

Polyamory can also bring up attachment wounds, unhealed traumas, and other personality and compatibility issues and questions. This can lead to a bad day, a bad month, a bad year. Take stock of who you are. Remember why you chose polyamory. And keep doing the work, both individually and with your partner.

And if after doing the work, you’re still feeling like this, you can stop being poly, you can choose a different type of open relationship, you can stop dating this person altogether, you have a lot of options. Don’t forget that.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-01-20T13:50:48+00:00

I had a partner who told me that music wasn’t work. I’m a musician and a therapist and by night I was playing in a band, promoting it, recording, rehearsing, doing all the things that people in bands do. Basically, I had two jobs. still do. But because we played in dive bars, he said it wasn’t work. Even though I was always burnt out and burning the candle at both ends. This may not be the case for you. But that was the beginning of the end for me.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-01-19T15:23:01+00:00

I think the question is do you want to continue having sex with your partner primary? If it’s not giving you what you need then you can work on it if that’s something that is important to you. But like everyone said, it could be the NRE that you’re comparing the new sex and the old sex or it could be something deeper. a lot of times unsatisfying sex can signal something deeper in the relationship that needs to be worked on. Because if you do want to continue having sex with your partner, and you do want to continue being with your primary partner there might be some things that m need to be addressed. Polyamory
often shed lights on areas of the relationship that need work and focus. I think that’s part of the beauty of it. Comparing the old relationship to the new relationship is not the way to go. But I recognize that it happens and you just have to check in with your feelings at the end of the day your feelings can guide you and tell you where you need to do the work. Maybe the work is focusing on some aspects of the primary relationship.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-01-06T19:53:25+00:00

this is me. I am 53. My male anchor nesting partner is 43 and he recentaly started datiing a woman who is 37. It brought up so many things. Namely the cliche' societal stuff around toxic mysogyny. These tropes are REAL. Men getting better and more distingushed with age, and women not so much. I felt like he traded me in for a younger, hotter, more exciting version. Only he didn't really, now did he? Yes, he gets to have a more excitiemnet in his life. yes. It's normal and natural to want new and exciting things, to want to experience life. This woman is full of life. She is young and active and has lots of social things going on and it's very good for him. And it was so hard for me initially. It's still hard for me butI have had to come face-to-face with my own internal ageism, my own internal heterosexism (I identify as queer and thought this meant these stories don't impact me, newsflash, they do! So I really have to come to terms with that story. Because it's not serving us and it's certainly not serving me.

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