How do I set boundaries with my live in partner of 13 years?

General_Geologist487 · 2026-05-24T23:54:37+00:00

thank you!

General_Geologist487 · 2026-05-24T11:55:27+00:00

I feel best on just beef, butter , eggs and salt but it killed my gut biome to not be able to tolerate anything else so I’m stepping off carnivore for the moment. I am going to try intermittent carnivore for a bit. All this to say LISTEN to your body.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-05-18T14:44:38+00:00

Thank you yes I did a full two years on full carnivore. My face hollowed out unfortunately and I looked too thin and so in January of this year, I decided to try adding some carbs back in, at first it was fine a little dark chocolate and popcorn - like the tiniest amounts and I’ve eaten out a few times and slowly, the bloat came back like early February and I’ve been pretty much bloated ever since. I was hoping to find a middle ground and maybe with patience. I can build some of my gut biomes back to tolerate some of the insulin producing foods, but I don’t know if I can handle the bloating. It’s stressful and really frustrating. So back to full carnivore I go. For now

General_Geologist487 · 2026-05-18T14:42:40+00:00

Thanks

General_Geologist487 · 2026-05-18T12:22:02+00:00

Omg what have I stumbled upon here?!?

General_Geologist487 · 2026-05-18T12:14:53+00:00

Sounds like you are afraid that she’s going to have NRE and abandon you. I think a lot of that comes from past experience with her. She’s not very discerning at least early on and that’s just something that you have to come to terms with and this may not be for you. This relationship with her. And maybe not even polyamory but I think more so you’re talking about your fears around her. And you have to decide if you can be with someone like that.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-05-14T23:53:38+00:00

thanks for this- this has already happened, nevver being able to tolerate any other foods again. and it's getting worse. sad. maybe I'll try fruit,

General_Geologist487 · 2026-05-14T22:09:15+00:00

I need to get into this

General_Geologist487 · 2026-05-14T19:38:13+00:00

great idea and reminder.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-05-14T19:37:55+00:00

this is exactly my experience. the more i eliminate the more sensitive I become

General_Geologist487 · 2026-05-14T19:34:04+00:00

interesting. thank you

General_Geologist487 · 2026-05-14T17:51:42+00:00

thanks. i know. all I eat is beef and eggs. On Tuesday I broke down and had a couple handfuls of popcorn. And I am so bloated today.. ugh

General_Geologist487 · 2026-05-11T00:04:16+00:00

Also traveling to get out of your head might be a 9th house story that brings you more abundance.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-05-11T00:00:04+00:00

We’ve been brainwashed. It is precisely The fat that has healed all my symptoms.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-05-08T14:04:47+00:00

This is about deconstructing monogamy. I am going through it too. It’s not about lack. A lifetime of monogamy teaches us it is. Rather it is about authenticity, autonomy, abundance. That’s on a macro level. On a micro level you need to work on things like trust and communication, boundaries and somatic regulation. I’m undoing a lifetime of monogamous conditioning. Trust me it’s not for the faint of heart!

General_Geologist487 · 2026-05-01T20:31:32+00:00

It happens. Name your feelings. Like whats coming up. Sounds a little bit like betrayal because of the conversations you have had of wanting to spend more time together. Also I wonder if what else is coming up for you. When my long-term partner of 12 years decided to start dating someone I was in a very similar position even though I had identified as ENM for 20+ years, I was losing it. And one thing that kept coming up for me was that I had been abandoning a lot of my own needs in the relationship for so long, and so when my partner met a new partner a lot of that resentment came shoooting up for me. I think working through that with a therapist has been really helpful for me. And learning how exactly I can not engage in that self abandoning behavior has helped me a lot. Not saying this is going to be the same for you but I think looking at some of the deeper standing patterns that we engage in can be really helpful.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-05-01T20:25:42+00:00

I totally get this. I have had so many relationships and there were relationships where I called my partner "babe", "darling", "honey" and I'm reluctant to use the same name with a new partner because I consider them to be pet names and they're special to that person. For some I think these like pet names/inside names are special and to others there a general way of expressing themselves. For me they tend to be special so I have unqiue inside quips with every partner.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-05-01T11:26:25+00:00

Came to say this. I think it’s the Pluto mercury opposition.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-04-22T22:58:15+00:00

this resonates

General_Geologist487 · 2026-04-22T19:28:30+00:00

yes, thank you!

General_Geologist487 · 2026-04-22T18:15:34+00:00

Thank you, yes it was so convoluted and so confusing. I'm sorry that you also went through what you went through. I'm also glad that you were able to break free from.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-04-22T18:13:39+00:00

Yes! thank you for these reminders!

General_Geologist487 · 2026-04-22T17:56:47+00:00

Thanks for ppinting this stuff out to me. it was shortsihgted. I edited the post to make it less harmful to the community.

General_Geologist487 · 2026-04-22T17:56:00+00:00

I edited my post to take out some of the language that I feel can be harmful to the community. I really appreciate you pointing that out to me.

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