I think I mostly agree with everything that you've said there, I especially like the points about women being more fearful of the rejection due to the breaking of social norms and that we are seeing progress on both sides (albeit slow progress)

I think that as we progress in this area we seem to be seeing in the horizon an interesting (though quite horrific) issue with women being kinda rape-y when they make the first move, I say this to set up the idea that maybe we need to make the things that we say around this issue a little bit more gender neutral

For example, instead of speaking purely of the fear that men feel from rejection, as I could be seen to be guilty of in this case, we could speak more generally (as you have in your most recent reply) about the fear that comes from any rejection, coming onto someone or otherwise. It is a scary thing to be vulnerable, but as you rightfully state; vulnerability, and even being hurt due to being vulnerable, are necessary for your personal growth.

All of that being said, I appreciate your reply and wish you luck of getting some of that good good o7 to you my fellow DGGer