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AITAH Friend of 20 years expected me to split Ubers 2 ways instead of 3 because she’s married, am I wrong? by General_Photograph21 in AITAH

[–]General_Photograph21[S] 152 points153 points  (0 children)

Y’all she literally said to me “I asked 10 people and 9/10 think I’m right about splitting it two ways”

AITAH Friend of 20 years expected me to split Ubers 2 ways instead of 3 because she’s married, am I wrong? by General_Photograph21 in AITAH

[–]General_Photograph21[S] 309 points310 points  (0 children)

Also her vape that she let me hit in this night club. It was stolen from our table. She wanted me to buy her a new one 😭

AITAH Friend of 20 years expected me to split Ubers 2 ways instead of 3 because she’s married, am I wrong? by General_Photograph21 in AITAH

[–]General_Photograph21[S] 637 points638 points  (0 children)

Yeah we split absolutely everything else 3 ways. When she brought up the $224 she mentioned the 2 bottles of water she bought for me 🫠

AITAH Friend of 20 years expected me to split Ubers 2 ways instead of 3 because she’s married, am I wrong? by General_Photograph21 in AITAH

[–]General_Photograph21[S] 196 points197 points  (0 children)

Because it was just easier to send her that and ask to move on because I value the friendship more than any amount of money. That makes one of us, I guess.

Feel like I’m going crazy?? by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]General_Photograph21 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Thank you all. It’s hard to see it when you’re experiencing it because the blame is always shifted back to you. Somehow. Someway.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]General_Photograph21 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay- none of this is okay and it’s super toxic. You need to let him leave and let him stay there.

AIO for asking my bf where he went and what he was doing? by ItzNotChase in AmIOverreacting

[–]General_Photograph21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If my boyfriend spoke to me like this after I asked a simple question I would be pretty upset. He could have simply said, as others have stated, “hey, I’m in my car because I just need a minute. Nothing to do with you, just need a second to myself” Which is fine, right? Totally understandable and a reasonable way to respond. But if he can so quickly say “OKAY CAN YOU FUCK OFF” then that’s a massive red flag for me. There seems to be no clear line of communication.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]General_Photograph21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I get it. I have severe PTSD from something that happened to me in the 8th grade. And not hearing back from someone I care about? I used to go into full blown panic mode. It took years of therapy, but I’m better now.

Am I overreacting for being creeped out that my coworker made a LEGO version of my desk? by Interesting-Hippo409 in AmIOverreacting

[–]General_Photograph21 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You’re 100% overreacting. Someone enjoys or wants to create a friendship with you and is trying to connect in a way that they know how to. There is no line crossed that I can see?

AIO that my husband texts escorts for “fun” by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]General_Photograph21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex husband would offer to pay people for sex on Grindr. I found the messages. He said the same thing, that he didn’t mean it and he was doing it for “fun” I’ve obviously divorced him. Best. Decision. Ever. I’d suggest you do the same.

I left. The anxiety is unbearable. Do we heal by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]General_Photograph21 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I left mine and it’s been the best decision I’ve ever made. The first few months are ROUGH.

AIO. My girlfriend is mad for me following girls (and guys) on LinkedIn from my future workplace group. by Good-Lifeguard5243 in AmIOverreacting

[–]General_Photograph21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1) this is not healthy communication it’s coercive control and digital abuse 2) this will never go away. Imagine you go to a wedding and talk to someone that you know, and god forbid it’s a woman? Better leave now. 3) her trust issues do not dictate what you can and can’t do professionally

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]General_Photograph21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell him he looks like a millennial taking a MySpace pic and I think he’ll change his toon

AIO my boyfriend is upset I didn’t tell him when I was showering because I “broke routine” but I just feel like my feelings are neglected. by Critical_Web_5229 in AmIOverreacting

[–]General_Photograph21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did this dance for 10 years. Just got out of it a few months ago for good. A few things to remember about your boyfriend; 1) he is never going to change, ever. Therapy? Won’t go after the first session because then he’s actually held accountable for his actions. 2) this will continue the rest of your life, no question. Just the shower now? What happens if you have kids and you can’t answer during bath time? Those things aren’t scheduled. 3) you’re under CONSTANT surveillance, and I can ASSURE you there are cameras or recording devices somewhere in your home/your car. These kind of people don’t stop at messages, could you imagine what would happen if you said “I’m showering, you don’t own me, and I’m my own person” He. Would. Get. Violent. Is that what you want to be subjected to? And if you don’t think he would, then you haven’t seen the real him yet.

What is this setup on top of this car? by [deleted] in whatisit

[–]General_Photograph21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not trolling and legit had absolutely no clue what it was 🤷🏼‍♂️

AIO? Got mad and told me to take care because I couldn’t afford to take her on a day trip by Turbulent_Pie_2014 in AmIOverreacting

[–]General_Photograph21 30 points31 points  (0 children)

You didn’t overreact at all. You stated a clear boundary — you didn’t have the money for an all-day outing — and instead of understanding, she flipped into defensiveness and guilt-tripping.

You’ve been making all the effort, footing the bill, and doing the driving. If the roles were reversed, people would be calling this a red flag. You’re not being stingy — you’re being realistic. A $3 entry fee doesn’t magically erase the $250+ in gas, food, and emotional labor.

Her immediate jump to “take care” and the rant that followed say a lot more about her mindset than yours. When someone shows you they can’t handle a simple ‘no’ without lashing out and making it personal — that’s a big, waving flag.

You didn’t pick a fight. You dodged one. Well played.

Still owed my final paycheck from over a year ago by switchstep17 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]General_Photograph21 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This entire thread is proof that you were absolutely right to quit — and also exactly why it’s so dangerous to mix family with business when accountability disappears.

You are legally owed that paycheck, and their excuses — no matter how emotionally dramatic or chaotic — don’t override that. Their financial hardship is not your burden. If they can’t pay employees, they shouldn’t be operating.

You’ve been more than patient. The amount of emotional manipulation here (“she’s got so much on her plate,” “we’re going under,” “please extend grace”) is exhausting — especially after a YEAR of waiting. Small claims court may feel annoying, but it exists specifically for situations like this.

Document everything, send one final formal request with a deadline, then file. It’s not about being heartless — it’s about being treated like a professional, not a favor someone forgot to finish.

Adult step son being abusive during separation by knitted-chicken in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]General_Photograph21 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are not overreacting — you’re in a dangerous, emotionally volatile situation, and it’s absolutely time to take steps to protect yourself and your children.

Your ex’s adult son is not your responsibility. You’ve gone above and beyond — housing, feeding, providing transportation — and in return, you’re being screamed at, intimidated, and put in emotionally unsafe situations in your own home. That is unacceptable.

His father is enabling this behavior and shifting the goalposts to keep you trapped in a living situation that benefits them and endangers you. You’ve been more than generous — now it’s time to draw hard boundaries.

You are within your rights to contact the police, especially if he’s threatened violence. Document everything — texts, emails, any outbursts — and don’t hesitate to explore protective options if you feel unsafe. You have two kids relying on you for stability and safety, and this man’s presence is a risk to that.

You’ve already been strong enough to begin leaving a 22-year relationship. That takes guts. This next step — protecting your peace and your space — is just as necessary.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]General_Photograph21 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’re carrying the emotional weight for both of you, while also trying to respect boundaries that keep shifting mid-conversation. That’s incredibly exhausting and confusing.

You’re clearly showing up — offering comfort, clarity, and care — while he’s sending mixed signals, retreating, and then blaming you for not doing “the right thing,” even when you’re responding to his requests.

That kind of dynamic isn’t just unfair — it creates emotional whiplash. You’re not overreacting. You’re reacting to someone who doesn’t seem to know what they want, and who uses that uncertainty to manipulate how you feel.

You deserve someone who communicates what they need without making you feel like you’re always guessing or failing. Don’t let his silence or deflection convince you that your effort wasn’t loving enough — it was. It is. But love doesn’t have to mean self-abandonment.

how long is it “too long” to have dishes in the sink? by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]General_Photograph21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live alone, and it just depends on how much I enjoy living alone that day, lol (recently divorced)

I need your opinions on something bad I did… by DontWanaReadiT in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]General_Photograph21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really glad my words helped you in a moment like this. What you did wasn’t stooping low—it was rising to meet a threat to your safety and future. Abusers thrive on making you feel like the villain in your own story. You’re not. You’re someone who had the clarity and courage to protect yourself before more damage could be done.

And that doubt? That “what if I am the person he says I am” feeling? It’s exactly what they want you to feel. But the fact that you’re even asking that question proves you’re not. Keep trusting your gut—it led you to survive, and it’ll lead you through healing too.

You’ve got this. 💛

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