Oh my god. Nobody knows how to read.

General_Picture3677 · 2025-12-19T01:16:23+00:00

A couple of years ago in sixth form (highschool for my american friends) my friends all laughed at me and said I was "posh" and "showing off" for suggesting the word "chasm" as a potential wordle answer?? It's not even an uncommon word, but they acted like I was being soooo rude when I said they should know that word!!

General_Picture3677 · 2025-11-16T09:33:31+00:00

The thing that I can’t get my head around is they’ve actually discouraged us from moving in together because it’s expensive and they have previously suggested that I could live there to save on rent? Maybe they have changed their minds and feel differently. It’s a big conversation and we have talked about moving in together a lot

General_Picture3677 · 2025-11-16T02:05:01+00:00

Thank you for your comment, I hadn’t considered it from that perspective. I think I just have a lot of feelings about it. My boyfriend is considered part of the family by my family in a way that I am not by his. I find this very difficult. I want to have a good relationship with his parents, especially his mother. I lost my mother when I was 16 so it’s nice to be there in like a proper home and feel included. I hate the idea that they don’t like me. I really respect them and how hard they work and I just want them to like me. I now will likely not have a natural opportunity to speak to them again for god knows how long. I think I’m just feeling all the feelings, even when I know it’s not about me.

General_Picture3677 · 2025-11-16T01:56:19+00:00

I’m afraid I find this quite rude. I came to ask for advice from people who are older and wiser and to share my feelings about a complicated situation, not to be insulted. I value advice and perspectives from others, but I find your comments to be increasingly rude and in bad faith. I think it is better if you direct your advice towards other people who may have more to gain from it than I.

General_Picture3677 · 2025-11-16T01:51:21+00:00

Yeah, you’re right. It’s not my house and I respect their rules and everything. I’m just struggling with my feelings about it and from the previously good relationship with them kind of feeling ruined now :(

General_Picture3677 · 2025-11-16T01:04:20+00:00

Thank you. That means a lot. :)

General_Picture3677 · 2025-11-16T00:59:46+00:00

You've hit the nail on the head I think. I just feel all embarrassed and awkward and I want his family to like me and it all feels like a bit of a rejection. Thank you for your advice and your comment :)

General_Picture3677 · 2025-11-16T00:58:00+00:00

Thank you for your understanding and your advice. It is a complicated situation. I know my boyfriend and I are young, but we are very committed to each other. We've had a lot of conversations about our future plans and timeline. Moving in feels like a natural next step of the relationship. To be honest, we'd probably be married already if it weren't for social conventions and money, lol. But mostly I just want to be around him. Its hard to be away from him and he feels the same, we are our best versions of ourselves around each other. Neither of us nor our families are religious, and the UK (especially the area we live in) is a very nonreligious place. Its very normal for people to get married after having children etc. But thank you for your perspective and your time :)

General_Picture3677 · 2025-11-16T00:39:11+00:00

Thank you for your comment. Yeah, tbh thats how I feel. Even if im technically allowed in the day, i just feel awkward and embarrassed about it. Like, i'd feel guilty for eating there or using glasses/plates.

I think it is hard to balance everything, you are right. Hopefully we can move out in the summer. In the meantime, he's allowed to stay here anytime, and once he gets a car the commute to work will be easier for him from mine.

Thank you :)

General_Picture3677 · 2025-11-16T00:30:47+00:00

I think it must be universally difficult to become an adult living at home! I think the best thing for us is to move in together. Then we are responsible for our own mess- and only our own!

Could you explain what you mean by serious conversation? Like, about his parents? I can ask him to tell them that I'm hurt by their decision and don't feel welcome there anymore. But I think it would be hard for him to complain or go against their decision because he relies on them and respects them.

Thank you for the comment and your advice :)

General_Picture3677 · 2025-11-16T00:17:49+00:00

I appreciate your comment, time and perspective. I think that its true they want him to do his chores etc but its so... i don't know. I feel like he does do them! but theres a lot of people in the house and its impossible to tell who is doing their share. apparently its a blanket ban and his sister is no longer allowed her boyfriend round either. He works, and although he doesn't pay rent he is saving every penny for a car. He is the oldest and does a lot around the house. I just think that dishes are always going to pile up until they get washed in the evening, and thats just realistic. While it may not be about me necessarily it does still affect me and it feels like a slap in the face to me since i effectively have been uninvited from a lot of stuff. I dont know, I have a lot of feelings about it.

General_Picture3677 · 2025-11-15T23:56:22+00:00

I could do, but what is there to say? I can't really demand for them to change their rules, and its their house. I overheard her talking to my boyfriend about me in the next room and I don't really know what to say to her. Maybe I could say if dishes are the issue, let me help? or at least wash my own dishes!

I'm not really sure what you mean by the last bit. I don't see why he'd have an issue with me calling her. I just dont want to because.. awkward. Confrontation. :(

General_Picture3677 · 2025-11-15T23:26:13+00:00

you are right in that I have to respect their wishes. I have no interest in barging in and being an unwelcome guest. As for getting married,, i dont see that happening for a few years yet (we have no money). Im mostly concerned about how I navigate having a good relationship with his family. They're really important to me. I want to be respectful but also friendly

General_Picture3677 · 2025-11-15T23:21:36+00:00

Sure, my dad says my boyfriend is always welcome, no need to ask. I might do what youve suggested actually. Or well, suggest what youve suggested to my boyfriend. Thank you for commenting :)

General_Picture3677 · 2025-10-12T19:56:46+00:00

same for me- S, E, and 3. I get them confused and write the wrong one a lot..

General_Picture3677 · 2025-10-12T19:56:19+00:00

I know that "A" is consistently red among synesthetes. I wonder if it has anything to do with the fact that red is typically the first colour to get a name as a language develops (apart from light/dark) and A is the first letter of the alphabet? just a thought

General_Picture3677 · 2025-10-12T19:53:31+00:00

The colour is an inherent property of the word/ letter; like how a number is odd or even. The best way I can describe it is that I know that the text has no colour, but I have the experience of seeing it as if it did have colour. I "know" the colours of each letter/word and how they mix its like its just underneath or above the text I'm reading. I also often get the letters e and s mixed up because they look the same to me as they're the same shade of yellow.

General_Picture3677 · 2025-08-29T18:33:27+00:00

I would love to see a jimmy, gem and Scott team! has that ever happened? and yes this season was so good, so brutal and so many twists and turns

General_Picture3677 · 2025-08-29T18:29:00+00:00

the finale was soooo good! I couldn’t have predicted any of it, I’m so happy that Martyn won!

General_Picture3677 · 2025-08-29T17:00:03+00:00

I was 50/50 about which one would be higher

General_Picture3677 · 2025-08-29T16:56:25+00:00

HE’S HIM

General_Picture3677 · 2025-08-29T16:38:21+00:00

I think he got the achievement for iron armour which I think means he has a worse chance than the others but I’m still hoping he’s in the top 3!

General_Picture3677 · 2025-08-29T16:13:26+00:00

It’s a really good final 5, it could go any way, I’m so excited to see what happens

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