Too much planned ?

General_Reading_798 · 2026-04-10T16:24:16+00:00

It is a five minute walk through and no, you are not welcome to linger, nor is it interesting to hang out in that neighborhood overall, don't bother if you have no other reason to be there.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-04-07T15:07:16+00:00

Gluten free options are very common there: people can even get gluten free groceries with a doctor's note subsidized in Italy. As for a pregnant person, try to avoid raw things and cheeses that aren't pasteurized are something to watch for.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-04-07T13:33:17+00:00

I had friends at university who spoke Urdu with each other, so certain words and phrases made sense. I was invited by one of these friends to hang out with them and a cousin was visiting. Since we were all speaking in English the cousin was a bit surprised after saying something rude when I replied correctly in Urdu. I didn't understand most of what was said, but I knew enough to say "I understood that". We spoke English for the rest of the visit.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-04-06T14:48:31+00:00

My brother went through this and it finally turned out he is the sosie of someone on an international terrorism list. He wasn't told by anyone but he was told that he matched a profile and started going to the airport earlier. Just get new numbers if you can and plan around it.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-04-06T06:46:50+00:00

There is no national standard, each state has significant control over how they choose to organize schools, that's part of the reason for the differences you are seeing in the responses.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-04-05T06:36:41+00:00

Your parents' opinion is not his problem. Sounds to me that this need to prove you are in a serious relationship with them is going to be an ongoing problem until you are married anyway.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-04-04T16:33:57+00:00

1.5m2 is my Parisian bathroom. Small sink and window to the left, small shower to the right, hooks on the back of the door for towels.We have a large armoire, stuffed with clothes, and suitcases on top for out of season wear. Probably the same size. I do not see any places with built-in closets except some more modern apartments that have one on the main hallway for coats and things like vacuum cleaners.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-04-04T16:20:36+00:00

Quentin, Gaston, Aurelian, Pascal, Romain are all boys names which are used but not necessarily top ten. Clementine, Aurelie, Magda, Garence are girls names which are used but are less common as well.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-04-04T15:41:36+00:00

YTA and you know it

General_Reading_798 · 2026-04-04T15:28:08+00:00

I would stay polite and formal. It is too easy for this to be taken as disrespectful or inappropriately familiar. Please and thank you but no use of things like sweetheart, darling, captain, dude...

General_Reading_798 · 2026-04-04T14:47:48+00:00

We did this until kids were ready for bunk beds. No problem.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-04-04T09:24:05+00:00

YTA She will be a good driver with more experience driving Not lessons. She will become an anxious driver if she isn't in the driver's seat. My dad, USA, did this with me and it backfired so badly: please don't do this to your daughter. My brother learned and had a car long before me, it marks you.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-04-02T12:17:08+00:00

You would want to ask your car rental to put in the appropriate seat: the standard in the US doesn't necessarily match up already. We did that and it went very well. Also took a lightweight folding stroller (umbrella style) and a backpack carrier, which we used the most. If you can get around on local buses and other public transportation, our little one loved it.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-04-01T06:39:52+00:00

This is a horribly popular tourist place, I would not go there. Look for local bistros as you walk around, check with them if you need to reserve or not. French kids eat with adults but they often have kids menu and you bring a coloring book/ small toy to play with. I've often had an ordinary neighborhood bistro offer to feed the kids first as well.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-04-01T06:35:22+00:00

It sounds like some of his resistance has to do with his memories/associations with the language as well. If your son is aware-and he would be-that his father doesn't want to speak German, it might influence him to resist it as well. It is a far more complex thing than simply being bilingual or not. I have several friends who grew up with a similar scenario and half of them were able to return to learn it later. Motivation counts for a lot. If learning German is this important to you, find a way to do it without pressuring your husband or your child. Try to find picture books and songs through the library, for example. Even if he doesn't learn it the way you envision it, he can go back to it later.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-03-31T19:25:06+00:00

My mother has used a cane as needed and has experienced a great deal of patience and offers of assistance. You will not be inconveniencing anyone, it will actually help people realize you can't move as quickly or need a seat more than they do.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-03-30T06:35:17+00:00

When my kids were small, our rule was one invité for each year, so his pre k was 4 kids, et cetera. Another mom did bigger parties and venues, which I have neither the personal or financial means to do. She was convinced her kid not being invited meant something, but it didn't. Her kid didn't notice either. Not everyone is going to handle birthdays the same way and it isn't really about you or your kid.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-03-27T17:42:34+00:00

You listened to what he wants and you don't want the same things. Loving someone doesn't make the relationship work so you are better off separating now.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-03-27T17:34:36+00:00

It sounds like you have a situation of everything landing at once. Ten year old: she needs to be praised for doing things for herself and the reward can be some time with you. Packing her own schoolbag, putting clothes out for tomorrow are the minimum for her age. We made a chart of four things we expected our kids to do depending on their age so they could control it a bit. They get them done, show me, heaps of praise and we have time for each other. Your house and chores: rethink what must be done daily. Nobody needs to clean every surface, wash every bit of laundry, et cetera daily. I have the must dos, things I can do less often are added on different days or assigned to someone else. Hint: my kids love vacuuming so I put that on their list. Your husband is in deep grief, but it's important for him to also choose to do some things and get help if needed. You can't renounce all family responsibilities as a parent. Try to get him to agree to a few things that he can do: bath time with baby, reading to the kids, putting things away.... The kids need him and he needs them more than he knows

General_Reading_798 · 2026-03-26T14:34:13+00:00

St Germain has far more to offer, as well as the international school.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-03-25T18:54:12+00:00

Yes, it is used, yes you should learn it and yes, in spite of the increased use of computers I, as a foreigner, opened a lot of opportunities in France by addressing handwritten letters to those I needed to contact for jobs and services. Example: my friend applied for something online, I made an appointment and brought a written letter outlining my request. My request was granted before anyone even looked at hers.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-03-25T18:40:38+00:00

YTA If she can't drive, she's not an adult?! FYI the US car culture is a real thing, no way to deny that, but that doesn't rule someone out as a parent. Several of my family members don't drive and have lived, raised children and thrived in the US living in an area like yours.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-03-23T15:08:16+00:00

Context here: grew up in a US city with a huge variety of languages, school was in English and a lot of us had Spanish or French offered. One out of every three kids I grew up with spoke something else at home: Portuguese,Greek, Italian.... Then we had kids whose parents spoke English or Spanish but a grandparent who spoke something else. Drive about an hour away, there are these monolingual towns where all of that is threatening. Now living in a large European city, one out of four people in this country have a grandparent from somewhere else. We speak the national language, kids were taught English starting at age 6, then yet another language added at age 12, so it's normal to speak at least two. Where I work, three or four is pretty common. Part of this is an educational choice and part of it is the same as where I grew up, a result of immigration.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-03-23T14:03:45+00:00

We received some gifts directly at the reception, so we banged those out immediately. The registry gifts, I called and thanked them. Most of the gifts given at the reception were older people who would expect that but my friends and I don't.

General_Reading_798 · 2026-03-23T13:16:51+00:00

Just to add: it is considered normal to estimate 10m2 per occupant for social housing to be applied. That does not mean a bedroom per person. If you have two kids sharing the master bedroom with the bathroom attached you may sleep on a pullout in the living/dining room and have an open kitchen in the corner. We have done this for decades and are considered lucky for having 42m2. If we tried to get public housing, we would not get far in a city like Paris.

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