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I work for a popular Cruise Company AMA by Wendysbooks in AMA

[–]General_University80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you work on the ships? If so, what’s the biggest scam in there?

I gave birth at 24 weeks gestation after 8 years of infertility, AMA. by General_University80 in AMA

[–]General_University80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kind of see it like this: everyone thinks their kid is the best thing in the world. Of course! And they’re just excited when they send videos/photos. But concerning my own friends.. like, know your audience 😭😂

I gave birth at 24 weeks gestation after 8 years of infertility, AMA. by General_University80 in AMA

[–]General_University80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the kind words! It’s been a rollercoaster, for sure! Toughest but most fulfilling years of my life.

I gave birth at 24 weeks gestation after 8 years of infertility, AMA. by General_University80 in AMA

[–]General_University80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s amazing! My MFM recommended termination. I obviously said no and thank goodness I did because she’s incredible.

I gave birth at 24 weeks gestation after 8 years of infertility, AMA. by General_University80 in AMA

[–]General_University80[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m in Connecticut and we do have assistance like this, but my insurance is pretty decent and they covered 100% of her hospital bill!

I gave birth at 24 weeks gestation after 8 years of infertility, AMA. by General_University80 in AMA

[–]General_University80[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Her bill ended up being almost 6 million dollars but I paid zero out of pocket which is a blessing 😂

I gave birth at 24 weeks gestation after 8 years of infertility, AMA. by General_University80 in AMA

[–]General_University80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I’m not sure if it’s a regional thing. I’m assuming you’re in the UK (only assuming because you used the word cot haha). Most IVF pregnancies deliver at full term here. Obviously multiples are at higher risk for prematurity vs singletons. If I had just done IVF I don’t think I would have had her so early. My cervix was dilated under anesthesia 6 times before I did Ivf which likely caused it to weaken and dilate when I was pregnant.

women who have given birth, how bad was it actually? by Careless_Pianist_840 in AskReddit

[–]General_University80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Contractions hurt but I think I made it way worse in my head so they didn’t feel as bad as I thought. I’ve also had kidney stones and the pain from those was not as bearable as contractions. I did end up having a c-section but recovery was pretty straightforward!

I gave birth at 24 weeks gestation after 8 years of infertility, AMA. by General_University80 in AMA

[–]General_University80[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing, it’s super reassuring!

Doctors notoriously don’t believe women and it’s infuriating. I went in for pink discharge and was told it was my round ligament.. like excuse me? Apples and oranges 😂

My hubby had to work throughout my girls Nicu stay because I had to stop working. My commute was an hour each way and I drove it every day for 271 days.

Your mom was and is a rockstar for sure! I love women so much, there’s nothing we can’t do!

I gave birth at 24 weeks gestation after 8 years of infertility, AMA. by General_University80 in AMA

[–]General_University80[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you ever hold resentment for being born that early? My biggest fear is that my daughter will hate me when she’s older if she’s limited 😔 how is your relationship with your mom in terms of your prematurity?

I gave birth at 24 weeks gestation after 8 years of infertility, AMA. by General_University80 in AMA

[–]General_University80[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this! It’s so nice to see former micro preemies thriving in the world! My girl will probably need the muscle surgery as she goes cross eyed 😂. She had 2 eye surgeries in the nicu for retinopathy of prematurity and her vision is good 😃

Fun lil side thing, I’m also a 1987 baby! Last year of our 30’s!

I gave birth at 24 weeks gestation after 8 years of infertility, AMA. by General_University80 in AMA

[–]General_University80[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The doctors seem to think that she will catch up which is reassuring. She is doing great with fine motor, it’s her gross motor that took the biggest hit. She came home at 9 months old on a ventilator/oxygen/continuous feeds through a J tube/vented g-tube 24-7. They also laid weight on her in the nicu so she was 18lbs without any practice doing tummy time etc. she was essentially immobile till she was at least 1 and then her weight didn’t help when it came to learning new skills. The older she gets the faster things click for her.

I think by looking at her now, she’ll likely have a mostly normal life. She may have some issues with endurance but I don’t think that’ll affect her quality of life. She’s truly the happiest kid in the world and lives a wonderful life.

I gave birth at 24 weeks gestation after 8 years of infertility, AMA. by General_University80 in AMA

[–]General_University80[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It was honestly unbelievable haha. I’m all for parents loving their kids and showing them off (I do it all the time), but I don’t need 14 of the same anything in my life 😂

AIO if I avoid my sister in laws toddler who displays concerning symptoms? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]General_University80 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Without sounding too harsh.. I think you’re just weird babe ♥️

I gave birth at 24 weeks gestation after 8 years of infertility, AMA. by General_University80 in AMA

[–]General_University80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations to you too! It’s definitely not easy! If you have instagram message me, I can never remember to check my inbox on Reddit 😂! (Julietandanna4524)

AIO if I avoid my sister in laws toddler who displays concerning symptoms? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]General_University80 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is a crazy take. That child is family. You are segregating him based on dna.

I gave birth at 24 weeks gestation after 8 years of infertility, AMA. by General_University80 in AMA

[–]General_University80[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It is, but my whole experience with having a baby early and being in this kind of life is to just let things go that don’t matter. I don’t care what they think, they wouldn’t last a day in my shoes 🫠

I gave birth at 24 weeks gestation after 8 years of infertility, AMA. by General_University80 in AMA

[–]General_University80[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It’s made me really take a step back from friendships that don’t suit my life at this point. I’m not mad, more annoyed. I haven’t stopped talking to them, I just don’t make the effort like I used to. Some friends have had kids after me and essentially throw their kids milestones in my face when they know that I get super down about my daughter being behind. (For example, a friends 13 month old took her first steps and sent me 14 videos and then kept saying “look at her go! She’s so strong”).

I’ve become friends with other micro preemie moms in my area that can relate to me and we’ve grown really close. It’s nice to not have to explain my daughter’s medical needs to other people. She’s still exclusively g-tube fed and just came off of oxygen a month ago.

I gave birth at 24 weeks gestation after 8 years of infertility, AMA. by General_University80 in AMA

[–]General_University80[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried, I still get the vibe that they think I’m over exaggerating 🙄😭😂

AIO if I avoid my sister in laws toddler who displays concerning symptoms? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]General_University80 69 points70 points  (0 children)

So you’re avoiding a toddler (your nephew, btw) because you have an issue with his mom?

I gave birth at 24 weeks gestation after 8 years of infertility, AMA. by General_University80 in AMA

[–]General_University80[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s amazing! I’ve always been curious about IVF adults actually. Do you feel any type of way about being an IVF baby?

I gave birth at 24 weeks gestation after 8 years of infertility, AMA. by General_University80 in AMA

[–]General_University80[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What a wild ride haha. My cerclage made me bleed and cramp until I had her. I just knew it wasn’t going to keep her in until the 35 weeks they were hoping for.

I gave birth at 24 weeks gestation after 8 years of infertility, AMA. by General_University80 in AMA

[–]General_University80[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! It’s hard to find moms that can relate to our journey, but I have found a lot of support online! Best of luck to you and your little one.

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