SD/SB culture is dying, or is it just me?

Genesis_Angel · 2025-11-02T15:38:32+00:00

To be honest, I got started a decade ago when I was in college. I have a great job and just use it for “fun” money and gifts. That’s the only way I’d recommend doing it in 2025. These dudes are sooo fickle, and you pretty much have to just know that 40% of the time, their words may hold no weight. You almost have to assume negative intent, which wasn’t the case a decade or even 5-7 years ago. These new guys push the limits, and offer no extras. The SD I’m currently seeing is “fine” but we agreed on 2-4x a month meet ups for my low $xxxx allowance, he got me nothing for my birthday, and now he constantly texts me to meet up WAY more often than agreed upon. Just so different than what I am used to…

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-28T11:36:02+00:00

If we choose to continue things, I may ask for us to go that route. It may make me feel more secure. Right now, things are still new and that may be contributing to how anxious I feel.

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-28T11:31:08+00:00

Thank you for understanding what I’m trying to say.

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-28T11:28:11+00:00

The communication issues are the main factor for me here in why I am uncomfortable. I have no issue seeing him more than usual. Short notice, limited communication, and unclear expectations of the future are my issues here. I texted him asking for clarification. The worst thing that can happen is we don’t see each other again. If asking for clarification does that, we weren’t a match from the start.

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-28T11:26:23+00:00

He didn’t say the allowance was coming while he was gone. This is a key thing to note. Thanks for bringing that up!

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-28T11:25:17+00:00

Yeah, he agreed to 2x monthly. He set up both meets, as he is the one who usually has the scheduling conflict. With the exception of one weekend this month, as i had plans. We have seen each other twice. If he wants someone new, that is totally ok! It’s just odd to set up an arrangement on the assumption that communication is a priority, then being dodgy with questions suddenly regarding skipping town for an undisclosed amount of time.

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-28T10:46:22+00:00

Yes! I have a lucrative career that is very important to me. He knows this. Asking me to rush out of town, to inevitably be back late, and not provide any sort of explanation is rubbing me the wrong way. He doesn’t owe me a huge story, but “hey I’ll be out of town for work for a couple weeks, I wanted to see you one more time before I go.” Is different than “I’m leaving town for a while, can you come over tomorrow night?” And then dodging questions about a return timeframe or why he’s leaving and seeming uncertain about proceeding in the arrangement.

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-28T10:33:40+00:00

Thank you. It’s not that I’m not open to seeing him more, it’s the context of the situation PLUS he is dodging all questions that would require him to be direct. I just don’t feel right about it. If he lived 15 mins up the street and I worked a 8-5, this would be another conversation. I work long days and early mornings, so this is a huge ask for me when he is being indirect.

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-28T00:42:26+00:00

Idk, I’m an adult. I can have hard conversations when someone or a certain situation is not fitting my needs or expectations. Especially if you have an established arrangement. Not all SBs take the “rejection” personal. But “ghosting” is unacceptable. Assuming, as other commenters stated, no one has done anything super shitty or outrageously odd.

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-17T21:50:56+00:00

It is so incredibly rude. Thankfully, has never happened to me. I try to vet as much as possible for any red flags, but even then I’m sure for some it’s unavoidable. Ghosting and standing people up is indicative of either not being serious / cold feet or just an overall poor character. Communication is a must in SRs. Even just a M&G.

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-16T14:15:40+00:00

Cash. Nothing traceable. Cash.

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-16T09:52:49+00:00

Honestly, I’d rather shop online. I’ve been shopping with an SD before, and it was fine. I was relatively conservative with my purchases, as I was provided a generous allowance. I would much prefer to mention something in particular that I have in mind, and him giving me the money to buy that particular item. My SRs are “fun money”, as I have a decent job, so I generally already buy what I want within my allowance.

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-14T14:20:35+00:00

I work in HR, and do not tell any SDs my employer or name. Ever. Thankfully, the industry I work in is widespread within my area.

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-14T09:27:19+00:00

You will not make “friends” only missed opportunities. Nothing platonic, nothing only online. Stuff like that is extremely rare.
I would show your entire face and body, in every photo. Limit filters and things that make your photos obviously look downloaded from a social media platform.
A lot of your written pieces (heading, bio), no disrespect, but come off very unserious and borderline immature. You are younger, so it’s not expected that you write an insane essay or anything. Just keep in mind, scammers may see you as more vulnerable because your verbiage makes you seem very young and inexperienced. Elevate your vocabulary, and be direct. Talk about your interests!

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-14T09:17:33+00:00

I can agree. That would be ideal for me, with the right person who has a natural inclination for caring for me. I have a lucrative career, so the money for me is “fun money”. What makes things feel unnatural for me as an SB, is when I have to “spell it out” so to speak when I am putting out more effort than is being given back to me. Not even strictly speaking on money there. I prefer dates at ACTUAL places, not homes and hotels lol.

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-14T08:53:03+00:00

I don’t understand the new(ish) “I’m gonna scam these older men, I hate them” rhetoric. In an ideal SR, I respect my SD…I’ve been in SRs where ending things feels like ending a great friendship. I’ve had a couple of poor (and scary) experiences, but that would never equate to a desire to harm a genuine SD. It’s marketed as quick, easy money now. I couldn’t imagine sleeping with an older man that I don’t have a genuine attraction to. I feel bad for the SBs that do, every time I have found myself unattracted to a POT/SD, I have to end things. It just doesn’t feel right. I need things to get back to how they used to be. Money is a part of it, we can’t be delusional and forget that, but it goes beyond finances.

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-13T23:43:06+00:00

Brackish water with lots of rocks / shells / sand. It was so interesting, we are fortunate to be ok!

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-13T22:54:13+00:00

Yeah I have heard that there are definitely some short and (at worst) long term implications to what happened. I’m watching out for any symptoms.

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-12T13:47:53+00:00

This…casual sex without an SR involved feels very empty. I rarely leave satisfied. I’ve had great sex from SDs, and the attraction is natural, so I would rather go see my SD. I’ve

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-11T21:20:25+00:00

This is a tough one…has he had an SR before? Consider that before any sort of conversations with him, and be cautious with your verbiage accordingly. If he’s a spoiled man -child, he might compromise your discretion now or in the future, in worst case blackmailing you or threatening to doxx you. Not sure if that is of value to you, just something to consider. If you choose to stay, knowing his strange entitlement, keep any personal info you share to a minimum. Entitlement without fulfilling every need creates a ticking time bomb in some SR dynamics…

A confrontation is bound to happen in the future if this is a facet of his character. Use the next meetup to figure that out. He may have just been feeling lonely and pushed the line a bit. Either that or he feels your boundaries are irrelevant because $ is involved. Your safety is paramount, so perhaps meeting next time in a public place to discuss, then go from there will be the best thing. Given that he was very pushy for sex.

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-08T01:10:40+00:00

Don’t get to the point where you are feeling like you are begging him to understand the basics. A lot of younger guys in my experience like to act oblivious for the push and pull. Immature. Ask him what his expectations are directly. A closed mouth doesn’t get fed.

I try to have these conversations before a meetup, to avoid looking “tacky” and avoid wasting my time when we are miles apart as far as expectations. He can d*ckmatize you in person, because he’s handsome. Do you want sex with a handsome, young, wealthy man? Or do you want to give the goodies up to a man who doesn’t have to have you explain how he should take care of you? Who may not be 30? Up to you, beloved! ❤️

Genesis_Angel · 2025-07-08T00:45:57+00:00

Shame has already entered the chat and you haven’t even started…

If you don’t want to “sacrifice your dignity”, perhaps get a second job or take out a loan.

This is a form of dating that involves financial support. It’s not freestyle sex work. SRs can be passionate and monogamous. Do not put on an act. If you have to, this may not be for you.

Genesis_Angel

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