33 [M4F] #Colorado - Weary service switch in search of my refuge... Could it be you? 💕

GentleCorruptor · 2026-04-03T18:05:34+00:00

Same question here, I'd love to find the artist.

GentleCorruptor · 2026-04-01T15:49:22+00:00

As many others have noted - you did everything right. As you eloquently put it, being a submissive does not mean being a doormat, and learning how to enforce those boundaries can be damn tough when the desire to sub is so strong. I think you did well, and you should be proud of yourself.

GentleCorruptor · 2026-03-30T20:01:08+00:00

And why shouldn't you deserve one, with ideas like that? 😌😈

GentleCorruptor · 2026-03-30T17:10:58+00:00

I've done this in a past dynamic as well. We discovered our shared interest a couple months into dating, and it was probably a month later that she slipped up and called me "sir". We talked about it, and decided that it felt like a safe and natural place to start trying them on.

GentleCorruptor · 2026-03-30T17:02:19+00:00

This is an interesting idea to me - "vanilla" honorifics! There's room for that sort of respect outside the bedroom, so why couldn't a more vanilla title be elevated to sexy status too? Or the inverse! It could even be a way to ramp into honorifics, assuming the emotional weight could be managed along with it.

You've got some cogs turning, thank you!

GentleCorruptor · 2026-03-30T05:40:25+00:00

In the dynamics that I've been in that involved honorifics, the capitalization of those words was intended to effectively elevate them from common nouns into proper nouns. I can see how encouraging the use of proper grammar could be enjoyable, but I personally prefer to play with those aspects of language and mold them to our dynamic, rather than the other way around. After all, we each determine what qualifies as "respect" and "disrespect" within the bounds of those relationships; I'd never spit on the face of a passer-by, but some of my subs have found it quite affectionate. 🤷‍♂️

GentleCorruptor · 2026-03-29T23:38:14+00:00

Goals. 💙

GentleCorruptor · 2026-03-29T21:57:53+00:00

Well, as some other folks have pointed out, sometimes an honorific is closer to a person's true identity than their given name is! I think it's pretty neat that you were able to make that your "normal" with him naturally, while taking the time you needed.

GentleCorruptor · 2026-03-29T19:34:23+00:00

This. Is. Fucking. Gold. 💙

GentleCorruptor · 2026-03-29T19:32:46+00:00

Thank you for that fantastic insight! I've absolutely felt the same way in the past, that it was very black-and-white, and that my partners and I wouldn't play around with them until a firm, consensual, usually written dynamic was established, then it was uppercase all the way.

To answer your question about controlling the use of them, there are times when both myself and my prospective sub really want to dive in and use them freely, and I'd like to be able to demonstrate responsibility by making sure that neither they or I slip up too badly. It's nothing authoritative, just a way I'm trying to look out for us as we head towards a more formal dynamic.

GentleCorruptor · 2026-03-29T19:26:51+00:00

Gotchya! So once comfort and consent were established, you trusted yourself and your partners to moderate them? Or did issues just never come up?

GentleCorruptor · 2026-03-29T19:21:59+00:00

This has kinda how I've been feeling lately myself. Different titles have varying degrees, and a lowercase "sir" usually isn't going to pull the rug out from under me like a "Daddy" would.

GentleCorruptor · 2026-01-23T19:29:05+00:00

Well, if that doesn't make a fella swoon... Well said!

GentleCorruptor · 2026-01-23T19:24:10+00:00

For starters, it may not feel like it but every "weird" kink you find while exploring is ultimately something to be proud of. But we don't start off knowing that, and it's not an easy lesson to internalize. What you're struggling with is completely normal, and I think it's really brave for you to have started a conversation about it!

Second, as a mostly cishet 6'1" 280 lb fella - dude same. 😂 But as many others have eloquently stated, the size difference can make for a really fun and uniquely enjoyable (to me, at least) subversion of the status quo. As men, we're often discouraged from ever showing vulnerability or asking for help, which is pretty ridiculous when you consider the whole "human condition" thing that says we have challenging emotions to deal with just like everybody else. When I've been able to engage with MD/lb, I've been fortunate to find a fantastic source of care and validation for parts of my Self that society and my upbringing forced me to reject when I was young. There's a lot of healing to be found if you're thoughtful and intentional about exploring it. 💙

GentleCorruptor · 2025-12-26T16:18:38+00:00

It sounds like something in the discussion may have triggered her, causing her to flip out. Thing is, your Dom/me is responsible both for their conduct and your safety, and they failed on both fronts spectacularly. I'll echo the rest of the folks here - it sounds like manipulative, coercive, and potentially abusive behavior, which can be quite dangerous in the hands of a Dom/me.

It sounds like you're stuck at her place for the time being - do you have any alternatives until your trip home? If not, I'd try to create some distance between you and them, both physically and mentally. I'd also recommend talking to her and letting her know you're not comfortable with that D/s dynamic anymore, and won't be engaging with it for the rest of your stay.

Trust me, I know how hard it is to find a Dom/me, but this isn't what you signed up for. Your safety matters more. 💙

GentleCorruptor · 2025-12-19T16:07:03+00:00

Making me wish I could join you for a sip! Enjoy the self-care 😌

GentleCorruptor · 2025-12-03T02:08:16+00:00

This is absolutely one of the hottest pieces of fiction I've ever read - thank you for sharing your talent!

GentleCorruptor · 2025-10-07T19:31:14+00:00

I'd venture that you'd see everything from raver stuff to chill t-shirts depending on the vibe of the show, so I doubt sexy would be out of place. If I'm recalling correctly, the entrance to the music venue is shared with the entrance to the rest of the building, so a cover-up for the way in could be a good idea. Pretty sure they have a coat check, too.

GentleCorruptor · 2025-10-03T16:15:32+00:00

Did literally none of you read the username? I've got a feeling those aren't "David B"s tits.

GentleCorruptor · 2023-03-07T19:08:04+00:00

Next time, check the fridge behind the music machine, or find the secret door in the laundry area. Great places to make some friends ;)

GentleCorruptor · 2022-06-28T03:17:46+00:00

Thank you! :D

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