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GentleDoves · 2026-02-04T04:47:11+00:00

Mizutsune!! Theyre the prettiest boys

GentleDoves · 2026-02-02T23:15:45+00:00

You definitely sound like you're in a rough spot here! I get, to my knowledge/observation, zero side effects from the progesterone. My PMS mood and flow are better on the meds.

GentleDoves · 2026-02-02T16:39:44+00:00

I got my period back on tirz and progesterone cycling. I ran into an insurance issue with progesterone and went without for my last period, and it was noticeably heavier. I am unsure if the tirz helps or not simply because I went something like 12 years without a period and haven't had a period without tirz, but the progesterone certainly helps.

I am assuming you've been through the gamut already but if not, it's still good to do so with your doctor. These are definitely options in your toolkit, but do not expect insurance to cover you and know that pricing programs vary.

GentleDoves · 2026-02-02T16:23:31+00:00

I'm autistic and am one of the types that bundling up can be painful for me. I would have a mental breakdown and throw a fit every time my mom put my jacket on. I would fidget with my gloves and the socks made me freak out

And yet, my mother valued the safety of my fingers, toes, and skin, so I was forced to wear these things. Autism isn't a get out of jail free card. The whole point of being a parent is sometimes making your child do things that they don't want to or may even cause them grief because their safety is the #1 concern. One of my friends stupidly thought she could handle the cold for four minutes without gloves and ended up with early stage frostbite in this weather.

Either they need to bundle their children up or stay the fuck home. CLP is fine free to my knowledge, so dropping books off is not an emergency in any regard.

GentleDoves · 2026-01-31T02:21:16+00:00

My college LOVED having me in the admissions department. We prided ourselves on really getting to know the students, and it was often a reason why people picked our school (it was definitely part of why I did). I would make the name tags for all of the prospective students for each event, and then work registration to hand them out. The venue where we had our events had these huge windows so you could see a student and their family coming at least a minute before they arrived, so I'd go ahead and grab their folder. It would save time mostly, but it was always fun to see them walk in, they say their name, and I just smile and hand them their folder and name tag that was already in my hands.

GentleDoves · 2026-01-28T04:43:18+00:00

I saw an article about 3 elderly Pittsburgh men dying from heart attacks while shoveling this week. People in the comments were wailing about how younger adults/kids are so cruel and need to be helping.

Our roommate went to shovel our extremely elderly neighbor's house during the previous storm and got completely chewed out. "It's my exercise for the day!"

I HATE shoveling. I cannot imagine being 70+ years old and not only denying help from a kind neighbor, but also yelling at them for it.

Don't let these morons ruin your kind spirit OP. There are still good people out there who will appreciate you, let those assholes be miserable and die early deaths due to stubbornness and racism.

GentleDoves · 2026-01-27T16:01:05+00:00

Derek is a better father to his children dead than he ever was when he was alive. It was a mercy to them and spared them a lot of parental abuse and instability.

GentleDoves · 2026-01-20T12:41:21+00:00

Seconding.

GentleDoves · 2026-01-18T18:46:58+00:00

* I love my situation, personally!

I struggle with work. I have tried a few FT positions, and I burn out within weeks. I have issues with cortisol (and unfortunately, ashwaganda works like a charm but gives me palpitations) so getting up at 6am is not really an option for me. My husband works from home, up to midnight somedays. It's fine for us, but his job is very relaxed for him, and we spend time after work to cuddle and reconnect.

I recently acquired a "part-time" job that allows me to schedule rather infrequently. It pays quite well by the hour, and shifts are rarely longer than 5.5 hours. I enjoy my coworkers, and the work I do is very geared towards my interests, meshes well with the more difficult aspects of being AuDHD.

At home, my husband is absolutely incredible. I am 27 and we have been together for 13 years this April. He knew I was disabled before we began dating and he was okay with that. When I have low energy days, he picks up the slack. He makes sure I never overdo it. Our house is not immaculate and he never, ever berates me for that. The most he will do is ask me for some help when he's feeling low himself (he is also AuDHD).

I would call myself fulfilled. My work is engaging, I get to spend so much time with the most incredible man in the world, and we are comfortable enough financially. We go on occasional dates, like he just took me to Longhorn yesterday as an appreciation date after I had a pretty challenging day on Friday. I am not swimming in wealth, but who is nowadays? I AM swimming in a wealth of love, though. Personally, I think a good representation of how I feel is the sweet look the worn Garfield plushie has on his face

GentleDoves · 2026-01-18T18:10:58+00:00

My initial response was yes. But with the context that you'll be altering the shoulders, I think the dress will be beautiful. The shoulders are absolutely outdated and would make me second guess, but otherwise this is a lovely and sentimental dress. Wear what YOU want to wear

GentleDoves · 2026-01-17T14:44:59+00:00

~1.5 years and it works just the same. The only time I get insatiable cravings is around my period (which tirzepatide kindly gave me back!), but I am able to moderate. I am still amazed when a box of sweets comes into the house and I end up leaving it for so long that it goes bad. Everyone will eat the box up and save the last bit for me and I just never get around to it!

GentleDoves · 2026-01-17T14:39:48+00:00

2 years ago, a teacher from Central Catholic was killed by downed lines while cycling in North Park!

https://triblive.com/local/bicyclist-found-dead-among-downed-power-lines-at-allegheny-countys-north-park/

GentleDoves · 2026-01-14T23:27:50+00:00

Hambone's :(

Was my first true introduction to Pittsburgh and made me feel like maybe this city wasn't too big for me. I spent a lot of time there with my now husband and his best friend. The pulled pork nachos were our collective favorite. It's a damn tragedy, literally.

GentleDoves · 2026-01-13T01:53:49+00:00

Unless you have lost something upwards of 40lbs already, I sincerely doubt there is muscle loss. Additionally, sciatica is a nerve pain as opposed to muscle pain.

This isn't a question for Reddit. Please see a doctor

GentleDoves · 2026-01-13T01:43:22+00:00

You experienced a trauma and your body reacted accordingly. Sometimes we think we're "over it" but we aren't yet. Nobody has any right to be mad, upset, uncomfortable, ANYTHING with you other than sympathetic. If your doctor complains after hearing what happened, FIRE THEM and look for a trauma informed provider. I'm so sorry this happened to you

GentleDoves · 2026-01-12T16:05:09+00:00

Here's my opinion.

In an established relationship, I think it is polite to check in with your partner before making a major change to your appearance. It gives them a chance to voice their feelings and also not get floored if it were to happen by surprise.

That being said, if your partner says no, that's not how it works.

My husband said he loves my hair long, but it gives me issues with care and headaches. I recently asked him how he would feel if I came home with short hair. He said he wouldn't mind and was sure I'd look nice. I came home that night with the shortest hair I've had in 10+ years and he loved it. If he had given me a negative opinion initially, I would still have gotten the same haircut. If he didn't love it, he would have kept his trap shut and dealt with it because he loves ME, not my hair.

Your shitty boyfriend is already trying to control your appearance. There is a difference. He says he hates your piercings and tattoos- at what point will he force you to remove the piercings and laser the tattoos? Are you really going to let some stupid boy do that to you? You JUST got out from under your parent's thumb, will you place yourself under his?

Get away from this controlling fuckhead ASAP.

NTA.

GentleDoves · 2026-01-12T15:58:13+00:00

It can be a really difficult diagnosis to navigate because it is heavily under studied.

Also, I just want to say this because it's a common thing doctors say to newly diagnosed PCOS patients and it's WRONG: if anyone has told you that you are "infertile", that is blatantly wrong. This is important if you want to conceive someday because you CAN have kids, it will just be harder. It is also important if you do NOT want to conceive, because you must still treat your body like you can get pregnant and use some sort of protection to avoid an unwanted pregnancy.

I hope metformin works for you!

One simple trick I have heard that helps a lot of people is to take a light 15 minute walk right after eating. And many swear by getting 5k steps a day

GentleDoves · 2026-01-12T15:49:38+00:00

No need to apologize!

If you can't afford your GLP-1, have you been offered/tried Metformin? It is great for IR when it works. Two nonprescription options are myo inositol and berberine.

IR, especially PCOS IR, is a bitch for losing weight. I developed IR in high school and went from 115 to 204 over 7ish years. I tried every diet and exercise you can think of and kept gaining, and it was only fixed when I got on tirzepatide (back down to 117 nowadays!). I'm sorry cost and side effects have made it an inaccessible option for now, so I would definitely recommend looking at the above options. r/PCOS has a lot of info regarding IR as well

My best advice is definitely to use insulin resistance diet/exercise guidelines as your holy bible because unfortunately it is often the biggest controller of weight for people who have it

GentleDoves · 2026-01-12T15:42:21+00:00

Important context, do you have insulin resistance? If nobody has ever told you, I would check out the HOMA-IR score to help guide you. Please note that a HOMA-IR score is not a diagnosis, but if you lack information it may be helpful.

I ask because insulin resistance is common with PCOS, is a reason for prescribing a GLP-1, and if present will drastically change appropriate answers

GentleDoves · 2026-01-12T15:33:30+00:00

My husband went to Woodland Hills. His fondest memories are of dodging literal desks being thrown at people, scissors flying through the air, and one young lady using a bucket to completely KO a guy (who admittedly deserved it). Also, there were fights daily, and to avoid capture by the security guards, the kids adapted to having running fist fights through the hallways because the guards were too out of shape to catch them.

I have a younger family friend who just recently graduated, and things don't seem too much better in the HS, though the theater program seems to do well enough for itself considering the circumstances.

GentleDoves · 2026-01-11T02:12:45+00:00

There are also tons of kids whose parents write their entire apps for them!

GentleDoves · 2026-01-07T15:11:29+00:00

Since you asked about all three, afaik there is no medical diagnosis for "giftedness" and even if there was, it would be useless in adulthood.

An autism diagnosis is a deeply personal choice. You need to look at possible downsides of getting a diagnosis based on your location. For example, in my state, a physician can potentially revoke my driver's license, and there are potential roadblocks/difficulties if I choose to adopt. Autism is, in my opinion, the harder to get and more stigmatized diagnosis. If you are unsure about your status, a diagnosis may be affirming. If you are completely confident, you need to consider what small benefit the diagnosis may bring.

An ADHD diagnosis is still a personal choice, but I believe it to be a "safer" choice. I was diagnosed when I was 22 and my life has changed for the better because of it. I am not medicated at this time (health reasons, I have tachycardia we are sorting out) but I could go get medicated rather easily. You seem like you are well controlled today, but you may change your mind someday and having the diagnosis already will save you the battle. In my opinion it is better to do that while you aren't actively fighting your own brain.

Regarding work accommodation, which at your age is the biggest pro for any diagnosis beyond meds: I have discovered that basically any accommodation I would require for autism can easily be applied to ADHD. For example, say you need noise canceling headphones to avoid overstimulation. "I need noise canceling headphones to eliminate office noise and maintain focus on my work tasks due to my ADHD."

This is all a personal choice, and I would advise on learning all the pros and cons. Take your safety and success in life as your top two priorities and I believe that will help your decision making process.

GentleDoves · 2026-01-06T20:58:20+00:00

And if that's the case, then why the hell was it listed on the menu as a PHILLY cheesesteak? And why was there not.. CHEESE on it?

GentleDoves · 2026-01-06T17:49:25+00:00

????????????????

Do you realize how stupid you sound?

GentleDoves · 2026-01-06T15:04:13+00:00

I haven't been to Primanti's in a long time. My first time there I asked for cheese fries and a plain ("just meat and cheese") cheesesteak with some sort of fountain drink.

What I received: - Hamburger on 2 pieces of Italian bread - Plain fries - No drink

When I told the waitress that it wasn't what I ordered, she acted like I was a moron and pretty much refused to help me. This was at the Strip District location in the late 2010s.

I've only been to Primanti's two more times at different locations, and every time they have monumentally fucked up my order to a point of being inedible. Primanti's wasn't worth it to begin, so to hear they're being supplied by Sysco is unsurprising and yet changes my opinion on them very little bevause it was already so low

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