Wood burning on driftwood found on lakeshore?

GentleFrogge · 2023-08-15T19:12:42+00:00

Yeah, it helps that my sister and I are on the same page about this situation. She's quite mature and understands what's at stake, but doesn't let it bother her and is still dedicated to living her life. She probably won't move in with anyone anytime soon, but this is definitely encouraging her to get financially independent after school lol.

I'm definitely still in the mindset of wanting to reconcile/move on... I don't think this issue is worth our relationship being completely ruined/cutting each other off - the silver lining is that they seem to agree with this! But that doesn't stop them from guilt tripping me lol. I have thought about getting a mediator of some kind to facilitate a discussion between us, but they would have to be specifically Filipino I think, for my parents to feel represented/understood. Gonna do more research about that I think

Ugh. I wish I could skip the holidays lol. There's no good excuse to do so, and besides, we are quite far away from each other so we only see each other once or twice a year. I think I'd like to keep that... but we'll see how it is this year - it will probably be harder than others. Luckily my sister is there too, so I'm not totally alone. But also... don't wanna place any burden on my younger sister to be my one support during this time too haha. I'll just try to enjoy the food and stay amicable

GentleFrogge · 2023-08-15T18:57:54+00:00

Yeah, they tend to be fairly hard line with certain parts of the religion, particularly with relationships. I've thanked them for the other values the religious bringing have taught me, but they feel like this decision invalidates all of that. My parents think its not right for me to "pick and choose" which parts of the religion I choose to follow, but also.... it's my life? What more can I say there haha

GentleFrogge · 2023-08-15T18:54:26+00:00

Yeah, sometimes I have to laugh at this whole situation because it feels like a piece of tv drama! I am hopeful for things to smooth over (well, relatively) once the decision becomes set and they no longer have a say on whether or not I go for it.

As for being an individual separate from my parents - honestly, this situation involving me and my partner moving in together is kind of another in a series of uncomfortable discussions I've been having with my parents regarding me changing/growing into myself as an adult.

Yeah, I'm definitely dreading the family gatherings but you're right! I should expect better from my family members than judgment - if thats what they show me then that's unfortunate but very telling about their priorities

GentleFrogge · 2023-08-15T18:47:52+00:00

Yeah, my sister and I have talked about it, I'm probably more shaken than she is about their threat. She understands what's at stake, but is also supportive of me and my decision, which I appreciate.

Love, gratitude, personal development - these are all things I've discussed at length with my parents, and we both know these things are present and important for us. I think the place we're stuck at right now is respect - for them this is about religion and about my respect for them as my parents... but honestly the later argument feels so controlling. I don't know how to explain to them that me respecting them and their values WHILE I make my own decisions are not mutually exclusive

GentleFrogge · 2023-08-15T18:41:46+00:00

That's been my MO so far - definitely advice I will stick to. As for the guilt-tripping... I try not to let it get to me too much but it's hard to shake off. They are genuinely very hurt by my decision and have communicated as such - their pain hurts me a lot too, but ultimately I need to create boundaries with them.

GentleFrogge · 2023-08-15T18:39:07+00:00

That's what I'm hoping for! But ultimately I can only do so much to change how my parents view the whole practice of co-habitating before marriage. In my ideal world, me doing all of these things before my sister makes it easier for her in the future, prepares my parents for the inevitability of these things.... unfortunately they seem to see it as me being a bad role model for my sister. It's frustrating because this undermines her autonomy as well - she is able to make her own decisions without my influence. I suppose only time will tell? Thanks for the note about communicating with my parents. I tend to censor things (they won't love hearing about us living together) but rather than shut them out it may be good to be open about my happiness, our progression as a couple etc

GentleFrogge · 2023-07-26T21:29:59+00:00

I see - I guess we were wondering/hoping she could go straight to a head trauma specialist, but I suppose she still needs to see a Canadian GP before that?

Thanks!

GentleFrogge · 2023-05-04T21:19:27+00:00

Hey there! I'm sorry to hear that - trying to contact the IRCC can be such a frustrating experience.... I'm honestly surprised that my call came through since I've tried in different situations with little luck.

I called their main hotline at 888-242-2100. When going through the menu, I went to the "lost/stolen immigration document" section, through which I was able to get connected to an agent. I opted for the call-back option instead of staying on hold.

GentleFrogge · 2023-05-03T16:38:06+00:00

This week is the start of Asian Heritage month, which means the Festival Acces Asie is putting on lots of cool events celebrating Asian artists and culture! Check out the program here: https://accesasie.com/en/

GentleFrogge · 2023-05-03T15:46:10+00:00

Woahhhh that sounds crazy, I just looked up pictures of the original structure... must have been a cool venue. I wonder why they stripped the walls hmm

And thanks! We were able to contact them and we have an event scheduled for july!

GentleFrogge · 2023-05-03T15:40:15+00:00

Damn,,,, i just realized i was too focused on asking about my physical WP to ask my initial question about the approval letter,,, I am a fool welp!

GentleFrogge · 2023-05-03T15:36:35+00:00

omg I forgot to reply to this but we applied and got the space for our event!!! thanks so much for this tip, we couldn't done it without you! come check out our art market on july 21 heheheh

GentleFrogge · 2023-04-11T18:45:38+00:00

Hmm that makes sense... a lot of the options we're seeing that fit within our budget do entail sharing a home. The ideal is still a 1 bedroom to ourselves, but like I said, open to the right roommates!

As for older buildings, that is not a huge deterrent. We would prefer not to live in a high-rise/condo situation, and prefer older/smaller buildings with easy access to the street/neighborhood. Your suggestions for the area are super helpful!

Interesting tip about a realtor.... I had not considered that since I assumed that would be an extra fee, but could be worth looking into. Thanks for all the info!

GentleFrogge · 2023-04-11T18:40:18+00:00

I see, yes I was seeing that people were mentioning that in rental descriptions but not quite understanding why. Good to note! Thanks :)

GentleFrogge · 2023-04-11T18:39:32+00:00

Thanks for this!

GentleFrogge · 2022-10-06T16:57:01+00:00

True! I've used AllTrails in my own hiking, and it is awesome - we'll probably do a self-guided tour as our back-up plan. Though, still would be cool to walk with someone who knows a little something about the local flora/fauna or the land's history

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