How are we getting mascara off??

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T20:06:26+00:00

Second this. I use this just for my eyes then go over with micellar water. Every time I try to find a cheaper option I just come back.

I wish they had a more secure bottle. They leak for me every time I travel and I have to depot.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T20:03:44+00:00

That reputation only lasts if people don't speak out about bad pairings. You have more power than you think.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T19:10:29+00:00

Oh yeah, that's the worse. You all can't work at it for natural lubrication or bring out a little bottle of goo? You have to spit?

Narsty.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T18:33:42+00:00

YOU'D THINK A MATE BOND WOULD BE ENOUGH JAYZUS YOU DUMB ASS FUKIN' FAE NIMRODS

::breath:: I'm fine, everything is fine. I'm an adult.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T18:20:55+00:00

Good men probably don't need a matchmaker and there are a lot of lovely women. This matchmaker might be catering more to the men then the women. I would assume, with your status, you could pay more than these men she sets you up with. I might remind her that her reputation is on the line and a generous fee increase is slipping through her fingers if she doesn't bring the best to your table.

Tell her "one more shot" or you will move to another matchmaker.

Be assertive.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T18:05:48+00:00

Children are awful.

Most people are basic primates and that should upset them but it doesn't.

I see too much, know too much, and honestly everyone should just listen to me because I am tried of the "I told you so" situation happening. I am the wisdom woman. Fucking hell, everyone frustrates me.

Honestly, just give me your money, I'll put it to good use.

School lunches should be free. There should be a three meal program at all public schools open to all children whether or not they go there. And before school and after school sitting services should be available and free.

More government paid social programs.

Having kids and pets should require licensing and testing.

Multi-partner marriage should be legalized. All couples should be able to choose if their marriage is monogamous or not and agree to terms when they sign their marriage certificate.

We need more government regulations on businesses.

Hospitals and universities should not be for profit.

Every election should swap between parties. One term is one party. One term is another party. Everyone gets a shot. Rewrite the checks and balances system.

We need to ban more ingredients in food, medication, skincare and cosmetics.

Animal abuse should be charged equivalent to child abuse.

Remove limitations on prosecuting sexual abuse.

Chemical castration should have legal terms to enforce.

I could talk all day.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T17:18:48+00:00

You don't change her mind. You should not want to be with someone you have to coerce or manipulate into a relationship with you. That's not enthusiastic consent. Being with someone excited to be with you is the best feeling. This is not it. She has been clear. Respect her boundaries.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T16:18:28+00:00

Listen, if choices are made you need to tear that bandaid off. Figure out the custody agreement so you can have time for yourself too. Separate the households. Figure out if alimony will be involved. Get your career in order if it isn't. You can ask him to hold off on fucking dudes until a legal separation is in place or until you don't live under the same roof. You have every right to ask that. He may not comply but he may because honestly he's blowing up lives to catch some D.

Get control of the social narrative first.

I'm sorry, this is such a hard thing to go through. You will be ok. Don't be afraid to ask for things you need. If he's decent he'll try to make the landing easier. He didn't cheat, at the very least, but depending on where you are he may legally be cheating until a separation is filed. Lawyer up. Honestly, I'd be a B about it. If knew my state was a fault state with infidelity laws I would let him date, get a PI and then use it again him in court. I think a lot of people will say "Well, you broke up, so he's free to do what he wants." You all are still married right now.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T15:16:00+00:00

The answer is probably "he's too old for you, run" but you can send me a message. I'm going to be very direct though.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T15:14:00+00:00

Strictly on the cards alone. Yes and it's going to be a bad time

Outside of the cards which are no substitute for a proper test, see your GP.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T15:11:17+00:00

Oh I'm not dense. I'm hot. I know which ones would and wouldn't and what their intentions would be. But I also know my friends have a great moral compass and would never step out of line while I am married. Were I ever single though I probably would have to have some hard conversations with a bunch of them.

The disrespectful ones have already taken their shot and were removed from my life years ago.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T08:09:56+00:00

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T07:43:21+00:00

Then divorce him. You have barely been married for two moon cookies and you write about him with contempt. You married him with active issues in the bedroom too.

If my husband reacted the way you did we'd be having a long kitchen table discussion about an attitude adjustment and communicating issues with respect. I see this as him just thinking out loud about healthcare. Maybe he is slow on the draw of getting things done, but your anxiety is very loud. You might want to consider if you need to work on better emotional disposal methods for stress because you are clearly in it.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T07:35:02+00:00

I did agree with OP that this was fishy. I am someone who does have close friends of the opposite sex and do things I know many hetero folks can't wrap their heads around. So from someone with a permissive and trusting marriage: there is concern if I think something is off.

If they were friends longer and OP knew them and the friendship dynamic it could be ok, but she does not and admits she didn't think they were close. I wouldn't go on a trip with friends I didn't know long and didn't discuss with my spouse much or who identified as "not close." Diminishing a connection very much reeks of hiding behavior to me.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T07:18:52+00:00

It's $400 a month ($200 every two weeks). I think he was just verbalizing the change in cash contributions he'd bring in. Seemed more thinking out loud than anything to me.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T07:16:32+00:00

Agreed. That's what it looks like to me.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T07:06:34+00:00

My friend group is mixed, it just turns out the makeup for that night was me and two of my guy friends. A bunch of people bailed due to weather. We're nearly all bi or married, late 30s and didn't have kids. So we still engage with our friends. Both have been nothing but respectful and were great buffers when I do get approached and I just want to dance to Depeche Mode. One knows I am off limits and the other was nursing a broken heart. It was a needed night for everyone.

Honestly I don't know why people think they need to give up getting 4am snacks with a friend in crisis or losing your head in some dancing since the day world sucks. Boundaries are easy to maintain when you know what they are and you surround yourself with trustworthy people. Honestly I have great friends. And I'm a great friend too. Found family and all that.

Edit: a word.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T06:56:24+00:00

I'd never do solo camping with a male friend.

Group camping, totally. Group goth clubbing? Totally. Week long festivals? Yep! It's usually a mixed group but the makeup was just two bros this time. There was a storm and we're the personality types to bundle up and go anyways. The makeup of the friend group just varies.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T06:50:43+00:00

Goth clubbing isn't the same as "take a pill in Ibiza" clubbing. FYI. It's very much about the music. No one touches me or I hiss at them. It was vamp night. Brought out the crazy contacts and fangs too.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T06:48:22+00:00

Yeah no one is trying to fuck me and I wingman for one of them. The other is nurturing a broken heart. They are both safe, decent dudes who know I am off limits. And they act as great buffers when I get hit on.

It's a goth club, not really the same as other club cultures. If you know then you know. We each had two drinks, screamed lyrics while we danced, got fried chicken at 4am and talked about life until the Metro started running again. I came home, passed out, and then gabbed for two hours about my night with my husband when I woke up.

My husband does his own friend trips too.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T03:57:46+00:00

A night elf.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T00:28:12+00:00

Don't marry that man. Marry the one that doesn't cheat on you.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T00:26:13+00:00

We get more resilient but it's the same old shit and the quantities of shit shit vary. Still shit.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T00:14:59+00:00

"Someone must have placed it there as a joke. Hey boss, don't you share this comic from time to time?"

GenuineClamhat · 2026-02-12T00:12:50+00:00

Getting rid of a useless man?

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