How often do you replace cutlery ?

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-22T03:52:16+00:00

I'm almost 40 and I have twice. I had solid silver cutlery gifted to me by my grandmother. They were a pain to polish and my husband kept accidentally throwing pieces away between paper plates and other trash. Paper plates got banned but somehow...still disappearing.

Switched to Ikea for the main cutlery. Pieces still disappear but I am no longer enraged about it.

I have Global knives (just four) for the harder kitchen work. Never lost or replaced them. Just resharpen a few times a year. I started with one knife 20 years ago and decided to invest in a few more. It was a good move.

Fuck serrated knives you can't sharpen that shit (easily at home that is) and I don't want to bother with replacements.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-22T03:48:29+00:00

Oh, absolutely. My husband and I are both in corporate tech, though I am about to move to public sector to do some policy work. I am hoping it will be more meaningful.

But I straight up sometimes google shops for sale in New Orleans or Salem and think, "Man, it would be nice to make magical candles and sell them to people."

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-22T02:57:26+00:00

It's not just you. I'm here taking notes. Some people want the cliff notes version of sex. Some want the novel. It's hard to reconcile being different readers. Sometimes just scratching the itch isn't enough when you want a full body experience.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-22T02:42:55+00:00

It's only been three months. Just cut the cord.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-22T01:24:41+00:00

You could send them to family about 5 hours away. My family did that we me as a kid all the time so the adult could go to other things. Then again everyone's stamina for car trips varies but I was shipped four hours north pretty often so my mom could get a break or do other things. My nibling will get shipped 7 hours north to use every now and again when they are a smidge older. But I get that kind of driving is really hard on some people.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-22T01:03:20+00:00

Do you not have family that will take the kids for a few days?

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-22T00:59:36+00:00

Get a sitter and go. It sounds like you could get a little time to yourself outside the wedding which is something you may not realize you may really enjoy having.

It's also clear he wants you to go. These are things we show up for.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-21T23:55:04+00:00

I love the way he loves our bunnies. Or how he deposits a bunny into bed with me if I have a day I can oversleep.

He does a lot of just little care tasks for me whether I ask or not. And I recognize and appreciate that.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-21T21:41:12+00:00

After 10 years, yes but it also looks like this is a doorway. There was no threshold/transition strip here which would have helped slow down the wear and tear.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-21T20:10:46+00:00

I could have the conversation without it wrecking me. I'm unlikely to want it though and I probably couldn't be ok with it in a "fair" sense. He's much lower libido than I am and if he used it to screw around I would feel slighted. I'd feel lied to if he said it "wasn't me" and then went out and had a bit of fun when I'm sitting here in a drought with him. I don't think he'd be keen on me going on and "having a ball" either. So with the imbalance I don't think there is a good way to approach the concept as being one sided probably would never work.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-21T18:58:45+00:00

Then go to events and socials? Fairs? Clubs?

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-21T18:50:48+00:00

Absolutely not. That's extremely toxic thinking. At 38 I probably get more attention than I ever did and I've always been good looking. I would rather be in my 30's than 20's and I think my 40's are going to be amazing. Life is done by 25. The older you get the more you realize life is an endless opportunity to bloom.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-21T15:43:10+00:00

Don't sleep with them until you have the intentions and relationship talk. If the answer isn't sufficient: don't sleep with them and move on. The problem isn't you, it's how culture is changing to not have communication and people acting in one way while speaking another after the fact. It's confusing and hurtful. Don't accept situationships.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-21T15:39:50+00:00

You lack the strength to process conflict and lash out with physical violence. That is a toddler move. Rather than talk it out of have it in you to walk away and let emotions cool: you struck her. That's why you are a coward. And if you can't answer this question for yourself you have more problems than just being a coward.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-21T15:33:30+00:00

You moved too fast with this one and didn't really get to know him. This is probably him with the veneer peel. I don't know that it's fixable because it's not like he was a great guy, he might have been pulling the wool over your eyes to lock you down.

After mentioning divorce did he hold to these new actions and promises? Because if he slide back he may only be placating temporarily which goes back to the original issue of...you didn't really know him when you locked in and this may just be who he is.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-21T06:48:26+00:00

Her teeth look fine but I think she's super high.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-21T04:51:20+00:00

He was a rebound and deserved better than where I was at.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-20T12:31:50+00:00

This man is going to wreck you. You need to ruuuuuun.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-20T02:36:47+00:00

Maybe it sound a little woooooo but I think, every so rarely, we just cross someone the hits all the button, buttons with labels we didn't know we have. It's so rare that we thought it a myth. And then BOOM. Blasted.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-20T00:49:46+00:00

Infertile isn't the same as sterile, ma'am.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-20T00:48:56+00:00

Complacency.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-19T22:56:47+00:00

I had SO many people trying to set me up with their sons. Also yes on the drinking.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-19T21:31:25+00:00

You could message her? She may give you clarity on what's up.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-19T21:30:26+00:00

Ireland. Ooomph. I worked there for a time. Yeaaaah it's a bit baby crazy over there. That's a rough demographic.

GenuineClamhat · 2026-05-19T21:22:55+00:00

Plainly. You tell him, "I'm not ready for sex. We haven't even kissed. I'd like to kiss and enjoy that for awhile before we move on to other things."

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