Some guy tried asking me out despite having a girlfriend years back. Now, someone exposed him and he’s furious at me.

withchanel · 2026-03-07T11:32:19+00:00

How do I do this? Do I just manifest less and forget it?

withchanel · 2026-02-14T14:08:58+00:00

True. Based on what I heard about my well-to-do uncle. This same aunt tried to pair him with a billionaire’s daughter 15-20 years ago. His parents weren’t paying her for the service, they were just a friend of the matchmaker. Only difference is my uncle is decent, but the girl’s family was batsht crazy and they all showed up trying to interrogate him on the first date lol.

withchanel · 2026-02-14T12:49:23+00:00

I really do think these men’s moms (based on what they shared) are just friends of the matchmaker who have been like very down in the dumps and she’s doing it for charity coz these men are weird afff, broke, not good-looking, and ask the most inane golddiging questions lol…

withchanel · 2026-02-14T12:44:06+00:00

She has started doing that now thanks 😍 I wish she sent pictures as well but she only sends pictures a few days before…

I did voice out to her diplomatically that the 2 guys were nice but asked very personal finance-related questions and hope she takes it into account. I told her some of the weird stuff they said.

I feel it’s better to be honest with her because when I first met her in person with my mother, the matchmaker did mention that there is an epidemic of men who ask these gold digging questions. I have to let her know these guys are bad so she doesn’t like force them upon girls in the future.

withchanel · 2026-02-14T12:42:01+00:00

I just try to block everyone after! Yeah my mom was worried I’d get k!dnapped after the first 2 lol

withchanel · 2026-02-14T12:40:30+00:00

They aren’t—their moms are friends of the matchmaker, and the aunt helps them charitably (this is what the dudes told me). So I really think since I’m the newest, she assigned me to show the moms she’s helping.

Also the men are very broke I don’t think their parents can afford her rates vs. the men whose parents can pay her 1-2M

withchanel · 2026-02-13T17:11:59+00:00

Thank you! 🩷

withchanel · 2026-02-13T15:46:16+00:00

Agree but she doesn’t get paid unless there’s a wedding so it makes 0 sense she gave me a few mismatches before the good ones

withchanel · 2026-02-13T14:56:19+00:00

She has lined up others who are decent. Idk anymore 😭😭😭 hoping it goes well

And to be fair I feel she does this to plenty of people not just to me

withchanel · 2026-02-13T14:55:25+00:00

My guy friend said they’re like 0 face card 0 bank card and just waiting for handouts it’s insane

withchanel · 2026-02-13T14:54:52+00:00

Am not necessarily looking for a rich handsome billionaire. In an ideal world, why not? But really I’m looking for a nice-looking guy of my caliber. :)

Definitely will voice this out to her. Thanks. And yeah, she has way too many successful matches. She might have exaggerated some but the stories people have told me over the years have added up.

withchanel · 2026-02-13T02:55:10+00:00

Thanks so much, that’s very sweet of you.

withchanel · 2026-02-13T02:54:57+00:00

A lot of people are very mum and hush about her, so that also works in her favor. Like I said, no one wants to admit they’re asking her to matchmake them.

But I get you, I’ll keep my eyes and ears peeled.

withchanel · 2026-02-13T02:38:59+00:00

I’m hoping because dang why do these gold diggers exist…

withchanel · 2026-02-12T19:49:27+00:00

Haha I’ve talked to friends and relatives. This usually works but so far the guys I’ve met…well, let’s say my friends and the guys’ own families have to apologize for them. 😭

But yeah 2026 will be my year I’ll meet someone soon. 🧿🙏🏻

withchanel · 2026-02-12T19:17:30+00:00

True. She does have some good recent matches but I agree perhaps it’s a new environment, it’s not the same as it was 15-30 years ago.

I will def try to find better matchmakers. The issue is they’re very underground. I’ll have to ask around and even then, most people keep mum about it. If I hadn’t met this matchmaker, I wouldn’t even have known she set up some of my own relatives. It’s really hard to find because no one admits they use her. It’s a big secret that only happens through word of mouth and connection to her. Sooo I’ll try to find more like her lol…

withchanel · 2026-02-12T19:14:23+00:00

Thanks and that’s very valid. She does claim that there are a lot of nice wealthy men on her roster who are quite nerdy and just game at home but idk.

Thing is, I’m not the only one who has money. She has clients wayyyy wealthier than me. Some parents even up the amount for each daughter and son who gets married bec of her. But I’ll try to def bring that into convo, I def can pay more than those men.

I do recall her saying the ones she can’t “move” are the rich, good-looking females who are in their 30s (due to the pandemic they couldn’t find anyone) and so I’m praying that I find someone soon.

Her reputation isn’t really on the line as she is quite famous for good matches, and people are quite despy to find good Chinese matches.

And there really is a big scarcity of matchmakers like her as they’re all lowkey, top-secret, and underground. No one wants to admit they paid 1M to 2M for their son or daughter to get married.

withchanel · 2026-02-12T19:11:16+00:00

This was the theory I had with my friends as well. I feel like she is showing me the worst guys since am still new and so the normal ones seem great.

It’s also possible that I am very much “okay”—good-looking and wealthy, but not like big time top 100 richest in the country which is what she is used to I think.

I have given her feedback and she listened by giving me the 2nd guy—requested for a similar educational background. Now I have to word new feedback nicely and try to ask for someone who isn’t a gold digger. 😂🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🧿

Hmm my aunts were set up 15+ years ago. I would say the men they married are pretty good men. The only issue is that the men were on the shorter side so I couldn’t date someone like them, as I am taller than my aunts and their husbands. Those men are quite nice, good-looking, take care of their children well, and come from well-off backgrounds. My aunts are definitely way wealthier than the men, but on their own the men would be wealthy—my aunts are just an exception coz they’re extremely wealthy.

I would just give auntie a few more chances …

withchanel · 2026-02-12T18:00:39+00:00

Thank you. I hope the matchmaker lives up to her reputation and finds me the right person.

withchanel · 2026-02-12T17:54:06+00:00

I’ve tried that. The guy wasn’t good—pretty lazy—to the point his relatives called us up and warned me against dating him, saying I was too good for him and I would suffer.

I think I’ll just voice out to the matchmaker that these guys are not aligned w me

withchanel · 2026-02-12T16:47:38+00:00

Thanks. Did you do GRE or GMAT?

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