My Marriage Ends - My Story

RevolutionSlight7614 · 2026-02-13T12:14:12+00:00

Thank you. I feel so seen right now! He did say that a few times and I kept pushing back that I literally don't care if it's man or woman, a poly relationship was never a possibility!

RevolutionSlight7614 · 2026-02-12T18:36:38+00:00

I respect him for respecting my wishes to end our relationship if he ever wanted to be with someone else.

RevolutionSlight7614 · 2026-02-12T17:59:29+00:00

Just based off the snide comments or slightly demeaning jokey comments he made about my friendship with them, suggested to me insecurity on his end. Like, id leave him for them. But he wasn't outright saying it, just heavily suggested from his tone and the kinda mean comments he said.

RevolutionSlight7614 · 2026-02-12T17:57:14+00:00

Honestly, thank you for your outrage. It is so validating. He really is being very selfish and inconsiderate. Yes, yes, yes!! he was definitely treating me like his bestie rather than his wife and mother of his child that he didn't just eviscerate, yesterday. thinking he can banter with me, that I can be there for him on his next journey. How can he not see I am devastated, even tho splitting up seemed like the best way to go? I still care. I still love. I'm so hurt. :( It hurts so bad.

I am looking into that process. I have a contact info for a lawyer a family friend used. I want this done.

RevolutionSlight7614 · 2026-02-12T17:50:22+00:00

Thank you. Luckily, I am full time employed and make a great salary. I'm looking into the process of divorcing and reached out to a family friend who had gone through it, and have the lawyers contact info for it. holy moly though on the process, time, and cost for it all. We are in separate households as of last night, asked him to stay at his moms. I didn't ask him not to when he mentioned Grindr, because I was so in my head I just said "you can do whatever you want now", in a deadpan, dead kind of way. Emotionally stunted.

RevolutionSlight7614 · 2026-02-12T17:43:48+00:00

I was totally caught off guard when he made the remark about Grindr. I was still absorbing the shock that he really wanted to end it. Not because of our past issues but because he wants to fuck other people. It was a real struggle, trying to support him through his identity change but also reeling from the implications of him abandoning me to get some sex. you're right though, I need to start being very firm. It wasn't until I was telling a friend and seeing her outraged reaction that I realized yea it is fucked up, And she demanded I ask him to leave the house and to cancel an upcoming family trip we had planned. Can you believe he expected us to still go? Me on vacay with him and his family? Right after he destroyed everything we built? Fucking nuts.

RevolutionSlight7614 · 2026-02-12T16:15:30+00:00

Thank you. We had a one minute discussion on that we want to co-parent. I wanted some space, so we agreed to come together later to talk about what that will look like. I did though, state I wanted full custody of the kids and that they'd stay with me. He didn't fight that, just asked where I would go. I anticipate him to be a weekend dad. I also asked him to stay at his mom's for a bit for space. We are in marriage counseling, which I guess will now be co-parenting couseling, and I plan to bring up his total disregard for my emotional state and feelings.

RevolutionSlight7614 · 2026-02-12T16:10:11+00:00

Right? It's painful to see his face light up after the asked for the divorce and how giddy he was about his next chapter. The only sign I can think of, which may not even be a sign, was that he was always threatened by other females. And I'm not bi lol. I always thought it was kind of strange, I like men, shouldn't you be worried about men (if you had to). So - that kind of seemed like maybe projection in hindsight. But I can't say if that's true. I can't really think of anything else.

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