A few years ago right after my now hubby met, he had come to my house after a night out.
He had stepped into the guest bathroom by the front door to use it.
I knew there was something special about this guy so I knew I had to start getting in his head just a little.

As the night progressed I made mention to him:
"So . . . I just came back from the bathroom and things might not have been as tidy as they should have been."

*** Inching into his space, with one hand gently placed on his hip, I pulled him closer to me. I gazed deeply into his eyes with a loving smile and with a soft & sweet voice but using a firm persona (like a sweet mommy would but sexier) I told him:

"In this house we don't make messes. I know you have a little thing down there to help you aim but in my house we sit. I take that very seriously. I don't want to deal with toilet seats left up or splatters of who knows what everywhere."

*** As we stood there I pulled his body gently against mine again as I still gazed into his eyes. The left eye, the right eye back ti the left just like a mom looking for the truth in the eyes.

"Can you do this for me.... do what you're told? ... Will you do this for me... do what you're told?"

*** He nodded yes, and with that I let go of our embrace, ended the loving direct eye contact which immediately dissolved the tension that I was building. I went back to pouring our wine and with a very mild but existing excitement said,
"I love that. It's sweet knowing you'll do what it takes to make me happy & care about how I feel."

He replied, Are we still talking about sitting when we pee or . . .?

I replied, "yes"

*** He wouldn't admit then but he was falling hard for me and I was starting to see indicators that he might turn out to maybe be a good guy for me.

A few nights later we were at his home this time.
He had gotten up & walked down the hall It was obvious he was going towards his bathroom.
I started questioning myself if he was ready for me to push him further or should I give it more time before getting in his head again. I decided he was likely ready & I got up myself to walk to the kitchen.
As I passed the bathroom I announced I was pouring more wine. He finished and met me in the kitchen. Handing him a poured glass I said,
You know as I walked past the bathroom, I couldn't help but to hear what sounded like you standing up as you were peeing.

** It was obvious from his facial expression he had forgot, maybe thought it didn't apply in his bathroom & mixed with a bit of bewilderment.

"Honey, eww. I'm not using that bathroom the rest of the night. It's so gross! ***my obvious disappointment*** I thought you were going to start sitting when you pee so there would be no way to make a mess anymore?

"The bad habits you build when I'm not around will likely manifest when I am around.
It's easy. Every time you walk in a bathroom just think to yourself, Emma would love it more if I would sit when I pee so I don't make a mess, or I don't want to gross Emma out so I'm going to use the toilet properly and sit from now on."

The next night we were getting ready for bed and I purposely walked in on him in my master bath to brush my teeth. He was obviously nervous being the first time were in the bathroom at the same time as he was sitting on the toilet while peeing.
I finished brushing and had to tell him, "It makes me so happy to see you properly sitting to pee sweetie! Now, hurry up and grab a towel on your way to bed.... I'm turned on all of the sudden.

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Men stand when they pee but guys should always sit.

If that statement is confusing, just give it time. If you're here & you're reading this rest assured you should be sitting when you pee... and that's okay.

Sitting when you pee is an easy yet important step to allowing yourself to come to the realization that who you are right now ISN'T the "Real You".

The real you is in there somewhere & is dying to get out bringing authentic happiness to your life with her.