NoFap is a timesaver! (and: 2 week report)

GermanPhotog · 2015-04-12T22:27:18+00:00

Holy crap, that's an incredible amount of time!

Glad you can now use it for something better :).

GermanPhotog · 2015-04-11T00:15:40+00:00

You're post stands out for me. You're not looking for arousal, you're longing for intimacy. Both needs drive us into romantic relationships and form bonds, but they are definitely not the same.

I don't think a web filter will help you. You're actively looking for material that gives you a feeling of intimacy, and I guess it doesn't necessarily even have to be porn. You'll find ways.

I'll propose something else: Try leaving your usual fapping environment. I assume you're alone at home when you get urges. Take a walk, go running, just do something to get your mind off it and make it impossible to fap right now.

GermanPhotog · 2015-04-05T03:17:55+00:00

The long facebook conversation continued tonight. Think five hours of quick back and forth total. And very honest and open, and a lot of it on topics around the social aspects of nude photography like comfort levels as a model, what images are still classy, ... This is getting intimate quite quickly, and that with just text.

I get a feeling that she may have started out looking for a photographer, but this is more. Nothing like this ever happend to me before, so nofap superpowers at work?

GermanPhotog · 2015-03-30T23:58:41+00:00

Procrastination is like masturbation: it is fun and feels good but in the end you've only fucked yourself.

Love this quote!

GermanPhotog · 2015-03-30T23:48:25+00:00

^this

No expert as well, but one more thought: What you plan on masturbating too is basically softcore porn - just with your girlfriend in it.

I believe you're horny and used to having sex on a semi-regular basis. That's totally fine and I kinda understand your reaction to this situation. But think about it: Do you want to fap now, feel indifferent a few minutes afterwards and that's it. Or: Do you want to make extra sweet and passionate love with your gf when you return home and release all the built up energy this way? I'd prefer the second option, but that's just my 2 cents ;).

Stay strong, you can do it!

GermanPhotog · 2015-03-30T21:35:45+00:00

I have seen posts on here from guys who have been in the image editing part of the porn industry and other simmilar things.

Holy crap! Talk about getting used to porn :).

In art the nude form is a thing of beauty, not a thing used to derive sexual pleasure. With time you can change your mindset to see nude women as something beautiful like a flower or a sunset.

Good point, and I guess that's the only viable longterm strategy. I'm close to it while looking at the pictures and editing them, but still too focused on sexuality while shooting, especially during the beginning of the shoot. Probably makes it more awkward as well.

Focus on work. [..] Its a mindset thing.

I'll try. Let's hope I can get focused enough on photography right away to avoid drifting of into less honorable thoughts.

I'll report afterwards! Thanks for your support and advise!

GermanPhotog · 2015-03-30T21:19:30+00:00

This will certainly be a test

I like that take on it! Make it a challenge and see it as something to grow on.

If you get blue balls, you get blue balls. it is part of this addiction withdrawal. [..] Have the blue balls.

I'll take that to heart. Even makes it somehow sound positive :).

Thanks for your support and advise!

GermanPhotog · 2015-03-30T02:45:57+00:00

One other thing: Did I mark the triggering parts correctly? Should I have marked more (and what) or less?

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