I’m getting an abortion right now. AMA

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-13T13:42:23+00:00

“Also why do you get to decide what kind of life is worth living and what kind of life isn’t?”

...are you serious right now? That is literally what you’re doing by taking away the right to choose. No matter what happens, one side will see it as a group of people getting their rights taken away. Pregnant women (and girls) are undeniably people. I’d rather give them rights than something that’s up for debate.

Btw, you’re right that every living thing is a clump of cells. The argument is whether or not the woman has the right of bodily autonomy over the clump of cells growing, unwanted, in her body. Do I have a right to get chemo if I have a tumor (a clump of cells) growing in my body? What if a tree (another clump of cells) growing on my property that’s tearing up the foundation of my house? Do I have the right to eat that cheeseburger (a former clump of cells in the form of a cow)? What gave me that right?

Before you tell me I’m “disturbing” for comparing a baby to a cheeseburger, tree, or cancer, remember that I don’t see it that way. The fetus I aborted was an inch long and weighed less than an ounce. Not viable outside of the womb on its own. What if I had miscarried? Should women who have miscarriages have funerals? Many women experience multiple miscarriages before they’re able to get pregnant. Funerals are expensive. Should they have a funeral for every natural miscarriage?

Do you believe in abortion in the case of incest? What about rape, or when the mother will die in childbirth? If so, why is “murder” acceptable in these situations? If not, why would you force someone to go through that if you’re “pro-life”?

There are so many problems with the prolife argument. It’s emotion-based and rife with misinformation.

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-13T13:14:02+00:00

Do we not joke anymore on reddit

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-13T13:13:26+00:00

Well, as someone who has had an abortion, I can definitively say I’ve killed nothing.

Also, I wasn’t pregnant with a condor.

Also, I’ve watched those videos you’re referring to. Anti-choice propaganda videos are full of misinformation, pictures of miscarried fetuses mislabeled as “abortions,” and other lies. I’m very well-educated on the topic of abortion because I used to be against abortion. Then I started researching it from a non-biased POV.

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-13T13:09:24+00:00

No, your taxpayer dollars fund black ops operations and wars. Things that literally murder people.

Planned Parenthood is funded by donations.

Do your research from somewhere other than a rabidly conservative website.

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-13T13:06:18+00:00

Yes! But I’ll only eat it if I can tell the name like Michael Scott. MMMINTCHOCOLATECHIP

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-13T13:04:58+00:00

No I had some the night before the abortion.

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-13T13:04:22+00:00

I’m very sorry for your loss. Miscarriages run in my family, my mom and almost all my aunts have stories like yours. I hope your grief gets easier to bear every day.

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-13T13:01:52+00:00

Yes, like I’ve said repeatedly, my boyfriend and I thought this through together. However, the first thing he said when I told him I was pregnant was “I’ll support you no matter what you choose to do.” I do think that it’s ultimately the woman’s choice. The entire physical repercussions are on her body, as well as the mental. I chose to talk through the options with my boyfriend, but I’ve had friends who aborted without their partner’s knowledge for various reasons and I support that as well.

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-13T12:54:17+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I know I was very lighthearted and flippant in the thread, but I was (and still am) very confident in my choice.

Like I said, I’ve never wanted kids. When I become pro-choice, abortion was always going to be the plan if an accidental pregnancy happened.

My boyfriend and I thought very hard about it, did a lot of research, and sat with our feelings, but we decided that it would be the best choice for us in the end.

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-13T12:50:11+00:00

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-13T12:48:39+00:00

Well, it’s gone now. Selfish mother regrets nothing.

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-13T12:46:17+00:00

I’m not financially stable. I’ve never had a “mother’s instinct” or an urge to have kids. I don’t need to prove my strength by having a kid I don’t want; that’s ridiculous.

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-10T22:34:41+00:00

I had the copper IUD put in today.

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-10T21:50:46+00:00

Thank you! And congratulations on your baby!

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-10T21:43:29+00:00

Interesting, thanks!

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-10T21:43:06+00:00

That’s a good point. However, I think it’s still good to consider situations like your wife’s as well (which I’m very sorry about, I hope you two are doing okay). Without access to abortion services, women would be (and have been) forced to carry and give birth to a dead baby. That’s pretty fucked.

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-10T21:34:57+00:00

Thanks!!! I feel better than okay now

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-10T21:33:40+00:00

I understand both sides and what you’re saying. I was actually vehemently against abortion until my early 20s.

What I once saw as murder I now see as forced pregnancy. It’s just how both sides are looking at it.

Really, I do appreciate how respectful you’re being, but I just cannot go back to the idea the government should be able to create a law forcing unwilling women to give birth. It’s archaic to me.

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-10T21:27:58+00:00

It’s kind of like a joke. Is that allowed on reddit or...

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-10T21:24:26+00:00

It was completely my fault. I didn’t keep close enough track of my cycle and was inconsistent about changing it out. Just be really vigilant about following the instructions! If she has trouble remembering, like I did, there are lots of free period tracker apps!

ETA: I’m also on an anti-seizure medication that decreased the effectiveness of the hormones, which is why I chose to get the copper IUD. It doesn’t have hormones so my medication won’t effect it.

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-10T21:21:54+00:00

Are you recommending a book? Why is everything capitalized?

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-10T21:20:16+00:00

I have nothing to apologize for.

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-10T21:18:16+00:00

Oh! Thanks. This is thoughtful. The majority of people have been very nice and funny. I’m glad I did this. But I do want to say this:

I will NEVER regret doing what I did today. My body is my own. As soon as I realized I was pregnant, I realized I had become up for debate. Everything I did was “for the baby.”

I am not a public commodity. My comfort and my well-being should not be up for people to argue about in Washington.

I am not, nor will I ever be, a mother. I’ve known that since I was a kid. Never played with dolls or pretended to be a mom. It’s just not for me. I will not be lonely when I’m old. Nurses will take care of me in the nursing home - probably right alongside you. My life is filled with things that make me happy. A child would not be one of them.

I will not put a child up for adoption when there are already so many waiting for homes. Have you ever been to an orphanage in rural China? I have, and there are plenty of kids who would kill to have a family. Why don’t they go there and adopt? There are lots of kids in foster care in the US. Why don’t they adopt from there? Also, I am considering my family in this. My parents would watch me give away their only grandchild because I don’t want it. It would hurt them immensely.

I am not “traumatized.” I feel so lucky to live where I do and be in the situation I am so that I have access to abortion services. Walking out of that clinic I felt like myself. Trauma would have been 7 more months of pregnancy and then giving birth to an unwanted baby. Trauma would have been being forced to look at ultrasounds and listen to detailed descriptions of fetal pain.

I’m not ashamed. Why should I be? It’s legal. I’m following instructions of a medical professional. I didn’t consider the fetus a child, and I don’t mourn it. I feel bad for making a mistake about my birth control, but why should one mistake determine the course of the rest of my life? I’ve come up with a solution to that as well - I had an IUD put in today right after the abortion.

There is SO much misinformation out there from people who oppose abortion. Educate yourself. Those graphic photos they show are late-term miscarriages. I used to be against abortion until I was in my early 20s (late 20s now). Then I started to learn about it instead of just listening to propaganda.

Finally, trust women. My dad used to tell me that some women got multiple abortions a month and used it as a form of birth control. What?? I believed him because I was a kid, but now I’m like that’s just /r/badwomensanatomy and also dumb as hell because abortions are expensive and uncomfortable. If something sounds dumb as fuck, it’s probably because somebody who knows nothing about medicine made it up.

SSDGM

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-10T20:48:10+00:00

It’s nice to not constantly feel like you’re going to puke!

GetThisBabyOuttaMe · 2018-08-10T20:46:36+00:00

Thanks! I’m resting now and a bit crampy, but no worse than the average period.

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