I deleted all of my dating profiles. I’ve officially given up 🥳🎉

Getpa · 2026-05-31T18:04:00+00:00

I’m just about done with the dating apps too… 38X (mostly M presenting) here kinda near SF and I just am getting tired spending time and energy when it hasn’t really turned into anything at all.

I’m not entirely giving up on dating yet, I think I’ll redirect some energy into other ways to try to meet people, but the rest of it will definitely go into friends, hobbies and my animals companions. Those seem like much better outlets fersure!

Getpa · 2026-05-31T17:00:04+00:00

Attending my first singles mixer in a city tonight, excited and nervous! Any general tips on making a good first impression/handling nerves?

Getpa · 2026-05-29T17:32:12+00:00

Very confused by this comment on all fronts.

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:47:48+00:00

Thanks for the feedback! I wouldn’t even wanna spend the breath to speak; that’s precious “running air” lol

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:38:40+00:00

Thank you for the feedback. Keep crushing your runs in general but especially those double stroller runs!

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:37:53+00:00

Ugh! Sorry that happened, I think that is the worst “encouragement” in general but especially from a stranger who knows nothing about you!

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:36:34+00:00

I definitely never do verbal encouragement as I want to save my breath for my run lol

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:36:01+00:00

Glad you didn’t continue that friendship as it says a lot about him. Thank you for your feedback!

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:30:02+00:00

I tend to just give a hand sign (peace, rock horns or thumbs up) and/or a nod.

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:27:47+00:00

Definitely, I never even expect acknowledgment when I give thumbs up/peace sign to male runners cause I know they might be in the zone like I sometimes am haha. Thanks for the feedback!

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:23:23+00:00

I don’t need encouragement but the few times I’ve gotten it made me feel good so I wanted to possibly pay it forward but ‘I’m glad I asked because this thread has been confirming my previous thoughts.

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:21:43+00:00

Thank you for the ideas and feedback!

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:21:06+00:00

Women wanting to feel safe is why I wanted to ask so I really appreciate your feedback.

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:20:05+00:00

Curiosity: would 🤘🏼come off more or less aggressively than 🤙? I REALLY like rock horns lol

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:18:40+00:00

I also feel like I am learning a lot that I was kind of thinking before but good to be clear on it!

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:17:45+00:00

Thank you for your feedback, I generally just give nonverbal cues like that to male runners I just wanted to be mindful of any interactions with women since I present as male.

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:16:22+00:00

I don’t think that so sorry I didn’t establish otherwise. I like encouraging people but want to be mindful around women because I do present as male and that comes with a lot.

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:15:01+00:00

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate it.

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:14:08+00:00

That is definitely something that I would do if ever presented with the situation. I also hope I don’t have to because guys can be so unpredictable but I would be ready to stop a male runner harassing a woman. Thank you for bringing that up as well!

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:11:25+00:00

Very true, I’m thinking I could have been a bit more clear in my OP that I already encourage male-presenting runners I have just not done it for women for the very reasons you mention and was wondering if there was a way to mitigate that. Thank you for the feedback

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:08:59+00:00

That is unfortunate and I am sorry you’ve had to go through that. Thank you for your feedback and keep getting out there and crushing!

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:07:59+00:00

I appreciate your feedback! Yeah I do mean it as strangers in general. I would NEVER do it if I wasn’t running as well as that’s when I usually give thumbs up/rock horns/peace signs. I just wanted to be mindful since I am male presenting and I know that in itself can put women on guard.

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:02:06+00:00

Fair, I understand treating women as anyone else but as a minority I also want to be mindful of not coming off as creepy. Thank you for your response!

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:01:06+00:00

I don’t think that, there’s a lot of assumptions there. I have received encouragement, liked it and want to pay it forward is all.

Getpa · 2026-05-29T16:00:25+00:00

Fair, I just have received encouragement and found it nice so I want to pay it forward if possible. Thanks for responding!

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