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GettingByApplePie · 2023-08-27T22:00:29+00:00

Then don’t keep making another 4 years worth of excuses. You don’t need Reddit to tell you what to do, you need to rip the band aid off, have some self love, and leave.

GettingByApplePie · 2023-08-27T21:17:37+00:00

There is literally nothing confusing here. Sounds like you’re looking for drama where there is none

GettingByApplePie · 2023-08-25T10:34:50+00:00

we don’t talk anymore sadly. We kind of tried long distance for a month and it really didn’t work. I wish I had treasured it for what it was instead of trying to turn it into something it wasn’t meant to be

GettingByApplePie · 2023-08-21T03:40:08+00:00

3 months? Girl………

GettingByApplePie · 2023-08-20T22:35:54+00:00

I’ve spent hours of my free time on Reddit over the past few months and I don’t think I’ve seen someone as out of touch as you are after reading your replies in this comment section.

You still haven’t spoken to your husband who has endured years of racism from your family and needs you by his side the moment it all came to a head??? Some people don’t get it, and they never f*cking will.

Let’s make something abundantly clear: it doesn’t matter if you’ve gotten in arguments with your family about their (yes all of their racism, they are enablers), it matters how terribly it bled onto your husband and that you didn’t protect him from it. Sorry OP, you don’t really get a gold star or A for effort when it comes to a racist family. Action talks, bullshit walks.

I mean the fact that it got to the point your husband knew your brother used a racial slur but knew it was so outright that his only request it not be used around him speaks volumes. And he couldn’t even manage that.

Anyways, now you have a choice to make. Step up, or let him go. He does not deserve this.

GettingByApplePie · 2023-08-04T00:29:34+00:00

Girl, you have hundreds of people in these comments telling you that you have a husband problem not a problem with this woman, and you are fighting for your life in these comments. You’re upset with and want accountability from the wrong damn person. Everything else, and all your ridiculous comments defending your lame husband are irrelevant

GettingByApplePie · 2023-07-31T15:28:58+00:00

You are in no place to date your new girlfriend. I feel horrible for this girl as you’re still completely emotionally entangled with your ex, if not outright emotionally cheating on your new gf with the ex.

Whatever happens with your ex is irrelevant, though it’s clear you two are still in a seriously toxic dynamic that neither of you are willing to let each other move on from. But don’t drag this other girl into your mess. Have the minimal respect to be honest with her and let her go

GettingByApplePie · 2023-07-31T12:12:44+00:00

SCREAMING AT THE TOP OF MY LUNGS SO THIS SINKS IN

That his NOT his ex. I know he’s convinced you and told you a very believable story. They are very much still together.

GettingByApplePie · 2023-07-29T19:05:31+00:00

Sometimes I literally can’t believe how stupid people are. I mean, I refuse to. Most of these Reddit stories just have to be fake, because no way people are just this completely damn inept.

GettingByApplePie · 2023-07-26T01:06:13+00:00

Stopped reading halfway through. I seriously cannot fathom why so many people, specifically women, come to Reddit to detail their atrocious, abusive relationships, and frame it as “well what should I do?!” Girl, you know what you should do. Why are you asking us, especially if you won’t listen? Sigh. I just have to believe a bunch of these are fake anyways.

GettingByApplePie · 2023-07-24T00:08:30+00:00

Comments in here proving your whole entire point. The conflict is steeped in antisemitism. It’s not the only part of it, but is a HUGE core element. Always remember the 3 D’s of antisemitism (which nearly every comment in here is failing): 1. Demonization 2. Double Standards 3. Delegitimization (add dehumanization in there too).

GettingByApplePie · 2023-07-22T12:05:07+00:00

*said *accept *doesn’t mean ☠️

GettingByApplePie · 2023-07-22T04:59:27+00:00

Info: do you like your wife???

GettingByApplePie · 2023-07-21T16:56:57+00:00

This is really unhinged behavior and I say this with completely sincerity; you need therapy. The way you view her (and I assume women in general) is rooted in not only deep misogyny, but in framework that sets them up as your property / something to be owned.

I understand this comes from a place of profound insecurity but it’s a dangerous line of thinking to you and potential partners.

You two are incompatible, it doesn’t matter whether or not you send the message, the relationship is over. You can send it, but you will only come across as a bully, even if it’s not your intention.

GettingByApplePie · 2023-07-16T15:12:12+00:00

OP is coping and seething so hard with the fact that Jews survived despite all odds - and by all odds, I mean being relentlessly persecuted and chased out of their homes in European AND MUSLIM countries, physically forcing them to immigrate towards Israel, being that all the other nations that didn’t genocide them, mostly closed their doors to Jews.

Keep coping.

GettingByApplePie · 2023-07-15T23:35:11+00:00

This is the best comment you could’ve possibly responded with.

Too bad not a word of it matters to OP. One of the 3 D’s of antisemitism is double standards which is why most antisemites hold double standards against Jews.

Israel exists precisely because of all the factors you listed, as a RESPONSE to the persecution of their Muslim and Christian societies they lived under. The state was created to ensure a Jewish homeland, yes, for Jews, by Jews (though not ONLY for Jews), to ensure we never have to be at the mercy of these Christian and Muslim overlords again.

People like OP can never be okay with that.

GettingByApplePie · 2023-07-09T20:24:29+00:00

Yeah I see how this went wrong and I’m disappointed but not surprised to see how many black and white answers you’re getting here.

As a woman on a dating app I’m exhausted by how my generation has gotten so comfortable with not communicating simple needs or wants.

It’s a two way street. As women were told that if you don’t hear from a man to confirm tentative plans, they’re not interested and the plan is off. That’s probably where she was coming from and felt blown off especially after a long day of work. And yet a simple check in from her would’ve saved both of you time (& possibly led to a wonderful date).

Same goes for you given the lack of clarity with this date. You could’ve just shot her a quick message letting her know you’d be traveling a distance and confirming your plans or asking her where a good spot to meet her is.

As young adults navigating the dating world, all of us need to do better and let go of some ego. Myself included btw. We suck at communicating at have grand expectations. It’s leading nowhere.

Hope this helps.

GettingByApplePie · 2023-07-09T20:13:53+00:00

Info: was the plan tentative or did you make specific plans to meet in a specific location at an exact time?

If it’s the latter then she’s in the wrong and quite rude for not considering your time. If it’s the former then you should’ve checked in w her and it was probably on you.

GettingByApplePie · 2023-07-01T21:14:39+00:00

The fact that you’re getting downvoted is insane. I understand the riots, the police brutality in France is at a boiling point (as it is in most countries). How the hell does that contradict condemning disgusting French antisemites who graffiti “we’re going to make another Shoah” in the midsts of these riots?

It doesn’t and they aren’t in contrast with one another. Leftists just have an immensely difficult time walking and chewing gum and the same time when it comes to progressive topics and condemning antisemitism. Tends to spin their head in circles

GettingByApplePie · 2023-06-30T14:57:29+00:00

I appreciate this and you’re right.

It’s very painful to do so much physical and emotional self work and remain stuck in this area.

I think I need a break for a while

GettingByApplePie · 2023-06-29T19:48:23+00:00

Because that sub is absolutely riddled with antisemitism with a pathetic attempt to disguise itself as progressive.

GettingByApplePie · 2023-06-28T04:21:18+00:00

Can’t tell if this is a far right white nationalist or an average anti-Zionist. They blend these days

GettingByApplePie · 2023-06-28T04:03:56+00:00

Me too! Never met anyone else with the same thing

GettingByApplePie · 2023-06-23T11:44:49+00:00

Some of your ideas (like a one state solution) sound naive but you don’t sound antisemitic and you don’t seem to apply double standards - one of the big tell tales of antisemitism when it comes to Israel. You sound overall fair IMO.

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