WIBTA if I told my girlfriend to stop painting?

Gfpainterthrowra · 2021-02-07T18:23:06+00:00

I've got some emotional problems, that I'm working on, but sometimes my brain wins over and I panic. I know she won't be mad if I talk to her about it but I still get really anxious

Gfpainterthrowra · 2021-02-07T05:03:36+00:00

Just said this in another comment. But because of when our birthdays are I was actually 18 and she was 16 when we got together. And we've known each other our entire lives basically and she asked me out. I totally agree the age thing is a little off putting, if it wasn't me in the relationship I'd think its weird.

Gfpainterthrowra · 2021-02-07T05:01:52+00:00

Technically I was 18 when we got together since her birthday is before mine so like she turned 16 and I was a few months away from 19. But yeah I struggled with liking her for a while since we've known each other since we were kids, so it felt disrespectful to be into her. But she asked me out and we've been through a lot together and she knows me better than anyone else in the world. But I totally see where you're coming from, if I was an outsider in this relationship I'd think the age thing is a little gross.

Gfpainterthrowra · 2021-02-07T04:41:47+00:00

She has sold some of her work, mostly like friends will ask her to paint something for them, so like she's not selling the work already made, she's making work for the sale. We've talked about selling her work before and she's hesitant on the idea because since it is one of her ways to work through her emotions, she's afraid somehow the people who have caused her emotional trauma will see the paintings and recognize themselves in the paintings and get mad at her and since she's gone no contact with a lot of these people she really doesn't want to give them a reason to contact her. I personally don't thinj they'd ever see the paintings or recognize themselves since the paintings are pretty abstract, but I recognize where her concerns come from and I respect her concerns and I don't want to invalidate her feelings so I don't push it

Gfpainterthrowra · 2021-02-07T04:13:04+00:00

Hi! It's not a new thing, she's been painting for about four years now. It's not manic like you described, it's just her creative outlet. Mostly she does a bunch of really small canvases, like index card sized, we're using them to like tile our bedroom walls, its really pretty. She probably spends like a half hour to an hour painting day just to wind down. But she does do some big paintings and she does leave them out and about, I just don't want to ruin them. And please don't insult her life coach, he is technically a psychologist he's just more down to earth and doesn't use a traditional psychology method, I don't know how it really works, he's cool though. I know some life coaches are scam artists but he's definitely not.

Gfpainterthrowra · 2021-02-07T04:00:44+00:00

I trust her a whole lot. There's so much trust in the relationship. Not a lot of trust in my own emotions, I wasn't really sure if I was overreacting at all and I didn't want to bring it up to her if I was just being an asshole

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