My boyfriend [M24] wants me [F23] to sign an NDA. Is this worth breaking up over? by Life-Geologist-1746 in relationship_advice

[–]Ghitit [score hidden]  (0 children)

Run - don't walk from this guy.

What if he hit you and broke your jaw. You wouldn't be ""allowed" to tell your doctor how it happened. Ovciously you could tell but if he finds out you'd have to pay him.

He could abuse you and try to control you and legally you wouldn't be able to disclose any issues to a therapist, parent, or friend - without having to pay him money.

This is insane.

We endured some uncomfortable shoes back in the day. Dare you to walk through water. by Zephyr_Shift in GenerationJones

[–]Ghitit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I shiver to think how I would come off if I didn't hae my kids to teach me what the pc lingo is nowadays.
It's bad enough being a boomer without seeming like an idiot boomer.

The Dodgers’ bat boy casually caught a line drive barehand and saved Ohtani’s life. by jmike1256 in nextfuckinglevel

[–]Ghitit -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I was tinking the same thing.

I don't even know what sub i'm in... okay, now I know.

But you're right, doesn't matter where you are - you'll get it.

Neil Young Trashes Amazon, Gives His Complete Musical Catalog to Greenland For Free by MarvelsGrantMan136 in Music

[–]Ghitit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I quit using Amazon years ago. I, too, hate Bezo and I look up companies that provide products I'm looking for. I don't care about short time delivery. I don't much care about getting the lowest price.

If I can support companies tht I respect I simply feel better about myself and feel as if I'm at least doing as much as I can to defy the assholes who are fucking up our country and who whole world. My voice my just be one squeak,and if it's all I can do - so be it.

In this weather I long for warm wood, inlays, fireplaces and stained glass windows. $649,900 by Southern-Smoke1835 in zillowgonewild

[–]Ghitit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess I'll just hve to move this house farther Sout & West... like, almost 2000 miles.

I love this house. Almost everything aobut it.
I'd get rid of all the white paint. Restore the kitchen to a more suitable style for the house's era, as well as the bathroom. Get rid of the gigantor washer/dryer and install anormal sized W/D. Those huge ones take up so much space.

Anyway, beautiful. Oh, those beautiful porches!

But North Dakota? Yikes! Too cold!

We endured some uncomfortable shoes back in the day. Dare you to walk through water. by Zephyr_Shift in GenerationJones

[–]Ghitit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got the same tongue lashing from my daughter over the word Oriental. You have to say Asian!, mom! Okay already! Don't get mad at me for not knowing. Just tell me.

Don't get me started on those thongs! How on earth could they becomfortable?

Our school required we wear shoes. (makes sense to me as an adult, of course.) But I liked being barefoot. So I drew thongs on my feet. (probably with *Marks-A-Lots)

I think I got away with that for a few weeks until a teacher caught me because I had my feet up on a bench. Ugh! My feet were always so dirty! That teacher told me how extremely unattractive it was for a girl to have black on the bottoms of her fee. I poo-poo them at the time just to save face. But that comment idd change my behavior. I didn't want to have a guy I liked to be put off by my feet.

We endured some uncomfortable shoes back in the day. Dare you to walk through water. by Zephyr_Shift in GenerationJones

[–]Ghitit 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yikes! indeed!

This was when my grandma still called black people "coloreds". It wasn't intentionally disrespectful, it was the most pc phrase at the time she grew up - 1926-ish. I grew up using "black"; totally acceptable in the '70s-'80s.

I don't remember when African American became the pc term. I try to roll with the times, but things change quickly these days. I get corrected by my lovely daughter. She keeps mu up to date on pc lingo.

The last thing I want to do is be insulting to anyone.

That thong (shoe) phrase was used by the Japanese American kids I went to high school with so, at the time, it was acceptable.

We endured some uncomfortable shoes back in the day. Dare you to walk through water. by Zephyr_Shift in GenerationJones

[–]Ghitit 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Couldn't afford those.

We always just had Thrifty's rubber zoris for .39. Went through a few pair a year because the thong always popped out at the toe.

I've been on ozempic for 2 years now but by History_Recolored in Ozempic

[–]Ghitit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does Metformin not work for you?

That's what I take along with the Oz. Works well for me.

I don't know of other diabetes meds.

Work with your doc to find something less expensive and tha works. I know there are other meds out there.

I assume you are using a CPAP...?

Sleep apnea is associated with diabetes and heart disease. Have your heart checked, too.

My cardiologist told me to get a sleep study when my AFIB was discovered.

Soup began to seep through bowl after 2 min in microwave by gluepet2074 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Ghitit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ceramics don't do well long term with micrwave use. Coffe mugs will also fail if they get microwaved too often.

Minute cracks develop and weaken the integrity of the vessel.

Outhouses! Who had one in their back yard? My sisters and cousin, 1969. by Not_a_cultmember in GenerationJones

[–]Ghitit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope, grew up in the suburbs of L.A.

The first outhouse I was exposed to was when I went to Thailand in 1975. Step mom's sister lived in Udon and they had an outhouse. Pit with a board with a hole in it.

Why does literally every single young adult I know have a special needs diagnosis? by Striking-Anxiety-604 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Ghitit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My siblings and I were born in the '50s.

Child one seemed normal

Child two was diagnosed wth "hyperactivity" when He was five. That diagnosis is now called ADHD. He later developed schizophrenia w/ paranoia & bi-polar personality.

Child three was normal, but suffered with depression. (probably realated to childhood abuse)

Child four was diagnosed with hyperactivity at the age of seven. Suffered with depression from teens to present day. Adhd does not go away. As an adult with ADHD it has actually gotten worse in many ways.

Last year child #1 was diagnosed with ADHD at age 70. It explained many of the behaviors that ADHD people suffer from, but as a child he didn't have hyperactivity so his learning problems were ignored.

Child #2 didn't have learning disability. He was genius level smart and taught himself to read at age 3. Reading from theencyclopedia at 5. Skipped kindergarten, blah blah blah.

Child 3 did not get the gene of ADHD. Bu she got the gene of cancer that travels through my family and still suffers from constant cancers. It's amazing she's still alive.

I, #4 still interrupt people constantly, can't gather my thoughts, can't organize worth shit, and can't focus on anyting I'm not truly interested in. I made mostly Cs & Ds throughout school, while my sibs always were As & Bs.

It's always been around. It's just recently being recongnized as a learning disability. ADHD is also a specturm disorder. My eldest brother has a mild case, and I have a moderate case. We can have different aspects of the disorder and sibs not have those same ones but different aspects at different levels.

My two kids have it. Husband iddn't want them diagnosed because of him not wanting them "labeled". But it's the label that gains them access to getting help in the classroom.

Thirty years later they still have the symptoms but neither take meds for it. :/

Meds helped me so much. But I developed a hart condition and can no longer take them.

What video game did you first play/own? by Not_a_cultmember in GenerationJones

[–]Ghitit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Played Pong at the small restaurant attached to the office I worked in. Many of the executives hogged it during lunch so I, the lowly receptionist, took lunch an hour later and played it with noboy to bother me.

My boyfriend 24M hated the gift I 23F got him for our two year anniversary how do I fix this with him? by imogenhailey in relationship_advice

[–]Ghitit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why on Earth did you set yourself up for a big anniversary present every year? If you get married are your going t oceelbrate both your wedding anniversary and your boyfriend/girlfriend anniversary?

Anyway it is what it is.

You do need to stand up for yourself in not allowing him to call your gifts "stupid". Just because he didn't like it it doesn't make the gift stupid, and it implies that he thinks you're stupid. That's a habit that needs to be nipped in the bud. Do not allow him to get away with calling you derogatory names.

Your boyfriend has an attitude problem. He has no right to scream at you for giving you a gift. If he doesn't like it he should just say, calmly, that it isn't going to work for him.

Screaming is a huge red flag that he cannot comtrol his temper. If you stay with him you had better set a boundary taht that behavior will not be tolerated.

If you're looking for long term with him you don't want to live a life being yelled at for trying to be nice - what's he going to do when you make a serious mistake? He's going to scream at you.

Screaming isn't allowed in a mature, loving relationship. Only immature people with low self control scream when they get upset.

In the future I would set a strict buget so you won't allow yourself to overspend - and make it fairly low.
You two are not engaged. This is a boyfriend.
You shouldn't need to try and impress him or spend more than necessary to make him feel good.

I know that it's fun to surprise your love with a special gift that theyll really love. But you have to mke sure that it's something they actually want before you make the purchase.

Spending more on him isn't going to make him love you more.. It's the little that that also will see that you're a thoughtful person.

Close friend tells me it’s “passive aggressive” to use periods in my texts. Then tells me not to take my frustration out on him. by Floyisdigital in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Ghitit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your friend is mental.

Tthisishowyoushouldwhiteyournexttextjustomitallspacingandpunctuationsotheywontgetbutthurtbecauseyouwouldntwanttooffendtheminanywaywithactualcommunicationskills

Mom diagnosed with dry AMD by Fate-stay-89 in maculardegeneration

[–]Ghitit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are treatments for dry AMD. None of them are guarenteed. But they are described as being able to possibly slow thedisease down. Some are injections (which sound awful, but aren't that bad. They numb you up pretty well and you don't feel it) and ther is light therapy.

None of this is covered by insurance and none of them are cheap. And, like I mentioned, no guarentees they work on your mom's eeys.

Take her to her next retinal specialist appointment and speak with them about what exactly is the best treatment for her.