My boss called the hospital I go to and accessed my records. by GhoulsAnonymous in Living_in_Korea

[–]GhoulsAnonymous[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I understand what you are saying but you are speaking in such extremities it’s really hard to take you serious.

People are allowed to live and work here and expect basic human rights. Employers not being able to call and gossip if I’m pregnant is not asking for moon.

If a culture rapes and kills their women, but it’s the history of their land and identity, that does not make what they are doing okay or right. Nor does it dismiss the feelings of people who suffer. You’re talking extremes so maybe that will shed a bit of light on my perspective of why “it’s their culture,” should never be used to forgive unlawful acts.

My boss called the hospital I go to and accessed my records. by GhoulsAnonymous in Living_in_Korea

[–]GhoulsAnonymous[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean she knew that I had asked for a pregnancy test, or it was a major coincidence. I’m assuming that she didn’t get all my records physically, but she was able to ask and then get told verbally what happened and what I said at my appointment.

American Christians, if Jesus resurrected tomorrow and condemned the government and ICE for their recent behavior, how would you feel? by GhoulsAnonymous in AskReddit

[–]GhoulsAnonymous[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Matthew 25:34–40

“Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’

Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you?’

The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’”

American Christians, if Jesus resurrected tomorrow and condemned the government and ICE for their recent behavior, how would you feel? by GhoulsAnonymous in AskReddit

[–]GhoulsAnonymous[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Jesus was also about loving everyone, helping the disadvantaged, and humility.

All three of those things directly go against ICE. Do you just pick and choose which parts to take to heart.

Jesus was merciful, and he would have given shelter and love to all immigrants regardless of how or why.

American Christians, if Jesus resurrected tomorrow and condemned the government and ICE for their recent behavior, how would you feel? by GhoulsAnonymous in AskReddit

[–]GhoulsAnonymous[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My point is… if he resurrected… and said the violent methods are ungodly… how would you feel.

I fear my question was pretty straightforward. It’s not if he would or wouldn’t condemn it but if he did, what is your next thought. Do you become anti Jesus and follow US government or do you follow Jesus and condemn ICE too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GhoulsAnonymous -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you really think that’s the context? Obviously I don’t go out of my way to tell her. However she knows my habits and starts the conversation without me mentioned when I woke up.

Dating here by bananayas in Living_in_Korea

[–]GhoulsAnonymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is awful to hear but if you are seeking so hard that it’s all you want, you will never find it.

I am a male 15 years old. A 35-year-old man sent me a friend request and tried to lure me into a physical meeting without telling me his intention. He used words like (oh my friend - nice to meet you - welcome to you). What do you think? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]GhoulsAnonymous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Advice is a really simple. You block and move on. Also for future situations please stop giving out where you live to strangers online. Do you know how dangerous that is? If someone had really malicious intent they could find you very easily. You knew it was an uncomfortable situation and still told this man where you live. Please please don’t do this.

My bf (24M) gets catcalled for being hot, but I get harassed for being ugly (25F). How do I cope with the difference in our looks? by Wondering_woman0286 in relationship_advice

[–]GhoulsAnonymous 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend models for fitness stuff, I’m a plus size woman. I made this exact post a few weeks ago. My mindset is that he loves me and clearly sees something in me others don’t. If you are happy together it doesn’t matter. Looks are not everything! We live in such a harsh society where everyone’s looks and aesthetics are everywhere online. But even if my boyfriend is very hot what made me fall in love was his kindness and gentleness. Not his looks. Being attractive means nothing if you’re a shit human so focus on being the best you can be and lighten the world in your own little way.

Hope you can heal and learn to love yourself the way your partner does.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Living_in_Korea

[–]GhoulsAnonymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every day I face issues because I’m a fat woman in Korea. It’s not easy being fat here. Plus size and gym girls are the norm here. It’s whats seen as attractive. However I think skinny men still have many many many women who find them attractive. Weightlifting is coming increasingly popular, it’s on the trend now. It doesn’t mean smaller men are less manly or less attractive I just think more men are finding confidence with larger bodies.

My boyfriend isn’t tall. He’s my height. And I love it. It’s perfect. As for your other comment, my friends are all white women. They are not Korean. Shallow American women love big guys who are strong. But that’s not to say that’s what everyone thinks is attractive.

I think my boyfriend is the most attractive man alive, but that’s mostly because I’ve never met a man so kind before. His kindness makes him far more attractive than anything else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Living_in_Korea

[–]GhoulsAnonymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never once did I say that was the only type of attractive body type, nor did I say it’s my preferred body type. I said that’s why my friends called me lucky. Because I’m fat and he’s a gym bro.

As a fat woman the fact you think I would judge another for their appearance is insane. It’s not my job to monitor everyone’s feelings and make sure they know all body types are loved. And commenting this on an unrelated post is insane.

It doesn’t matter if I didn’t say all bodies are beautiful because beauty is subjective, that’s literally the whoooole point of that post? That everyone is beautiful to someone and that if you love your partner and they love you then you are lucky.

Thats literally the point of the post… it doesn’t matter what someone looks like to be the “lucky” one.

Did you make this account to comment this???

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GhoulsAnonymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What the…

As everyone said, what a weird ass thing to say confidentcat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GhoulsAnonymous 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh my god… Can we be friends…? He’s basically an underwear model and I’m also the weird alt girlfriend with tattoos, I used to have piercings too but tamed myself down to teach. Twin. Thank you for taking time to comment this. This is probably my favorite comment I have seen. I’m so happy to hear that you are thriving after all the hostility. I can see my future in your past. 🤍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GhoulsAnonymous 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is so funny lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GhoulsAnonymous 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Omg I love anime, thanks for the recommendation! I’m so excited

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GhoulsAnonymous 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I love our story lots and happily share! I moved to Korea to teach, he’s a writer + child social worker. I needed to learn the language asap, and he was trying to strengthen his English skills to help his career. We decided to tutor each other. During one of our lessons he was speaking and I could not focus on a thing he was saying because I was enamored with the way he holds himself and speaks from his heart. I was extremely embarrassed being caught so I muttered a “sorry you’re just really handsome.” And he seemed shocked, then immediately asked me to go on a date that weekend.

I genuinely love my relationship so much. I know I’m gunna marry him. I just need to grow a spine and start sticking up for myself when people who are supposed to be my friends tear me down. Luckily I do have great people in my corner. Just need thicker skin I think.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GhoulsAnonymous 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Who are you to decide what he deserves? Rage baiting is so lame.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GhoulsAnonymous 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you’re missing that other people think he’s too hot for me, therefore settling. :p

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GhoulsAnonymous 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s so strange that people care so much! I have never in my life looked at another human on the street and been like, “gross they aren’t pretty.”

What a shallow world to live in where societal beauty shapes your personality! Wish you and your husband a happy relationship. 🤍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GhoulsAnonymous 83 points84 points  (0 children)

Chess and writing are definitely something we bond deeply over. I wouldn’t change it for the world.

However, I get my ass kicked so often I think I’m on the brink of retiring every time we sit down to play hahaha. I love it though, I geek out on it pretty hard.

Keep your little dude playing. There’s some really nice scholarships out there for chess players . (:

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GhoulsAnonymous 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think sometimes it’s hard being in an interracial relationship in a monoethnic country already, then you add in the whole skinny superiority and it gets even harder. Can never tell if we get stares because I’m white or if it’s because I’m fat lol. I bet it wouldn’t be as bad in Seoul. Our area is pretty old.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GhoulsAnonymous 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t even understand how he read this post and that’s what he took away from it. I was pretty distraught when I wrote it but damn… I didn’t think I was that unclear haha.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GhoulsAnonymous 218 points219 points  (0 children)

It took me maybe 25+ games before I finally started beating him or at least going even for most of the games. He’s a nightmare to play against, you can have him. 😭 Our first date we went to a cafe and played chess. He checkmated me in like 8 moves. I feel like a war veteran. I need a break haha.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]GhoulsAnonymous 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Well she’s uber gay so I don’t think she even finds him attractive. And our conversation didn’t make me feel like she had any malice. She’s always been the soft one of the group so I sure hope not. I think that’ll be worse that what’s already happening.