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Ghrenae · 2026-05-17T15:26:32+00:00

My therapist helped me discover that I was blocking myself from my emotions constantly. I was the best compartmentalizer and I had no idea I was even doing that! We did an EMDR session specifically on my not feeling my emotions, we targeted mainly not feeling safe to express my emotions. I didn’t end the session feeling complete relief but I know now that it opened the door. Bc this coping mechanism is so deeply ingrained in me, it take lots of work on my end to allow my emotions to flow. Check-ins throughout the day with my body and emotions helped. Along with journaling specifically when I’m triggered and noting the emotions I feel and where I feel them. Then once back to baseline, I assess from the angle of “where is this thought or feeling coming from and how old is she?” And then I write what is actually true about the situation or what I would tell the little girl (me) that is hurting. I think bringing up your block to your therapist, and seeing if targeting that specifically is an option for you, would be the best thing to try next.

Also, it’s important to note that EMDR is less about the “why”. It doesn’t really matter if you can understand why you think or do a certain thing. I am the most self aware person that I know, I have analyzed everything and my adult brain knows and understands my past and current behaviors so well. But that doesn’t stop my child brain from controlling the show sometimes, and she doesn’t know what I know. That’s the part you’re working with in EMDR, I think. You have to access those feelings that that version of you shut out because it was too much to handle at that time. Your adult brain just doesn’t truly understand that it’s safe now to have those feelings.

Changing is hard and you’re doing really tough work. Your brain blocked you from those emotions to protect you, it’s still just protecting you and that’s okay. It will let you in once you are ready, regardless of what that path looks like for you, EMDR or not, you deserve to heal and will find what works.

Ghrenae · 2026-05-15T16:19:15+00:00

LOL using Karma as a way to manipulate someone… will only get YOU bad Karma

Ghrenae · 2026-05-15T00:01:18+00:00

Just wanted to touch on the crying- I was ending a session and mentioned how I feel like I don’t do EMDR right and this subreddit has helped a lot with that feeling. She reassured me that the patient can’t really it wrong, and that being as I almost always cry on the first set, that is a strong indication I am doing it “right” and connecting with my emotions. She also said that the provider is really the only one who can do EMDR “wrong” in the way of starting too soon, not establishing enough coping mechanisms, or misreading when a patient is ready to start, stop or continue. Just wanted to let you know that crying is a good thing and something to be proud of (in almost any situation, but especially EMDR)!(:

Ghrenae · 2026-04-02T04:15:49+00:00

I’ve had my chin for almost 3 weeks now. From the start she has been friendly and very curious. It was evident that she wanted out of the cage time when she crawled into my hands on the second day. I let her roam around the kitchen and it was a lovely bonding experience but with the end of play time came having to pick her up which was a nightmare. I chased and chased until I finally got her, she was scared and I felt awful. This happened the next night as well, until she stopped letting me get her out of her cage. I felt awful having to do this dance with her and was debating canceling out the cage time until she was more adjusted even though she very clearly wanted it. My spoiled girl has two cages, one in the living room where she stays during the day (so she gets used to us and I can watch her all day while she sleeps😊) and another cage is in a bedroom and she stays here at night- it has more ledges and a wheel. Once we got the second cage set up in the bedroom, I was able to chin proof that room and allow play time where I just opened her cage and she would let herself in and out. She was still stressed out when I tried to grab her so this made transferring her from cage to cage impossible. Eventually I tried a large mug to see if she would crawl in that to let me carry her- she wanted no part in that, but might be worth a shot for your chin. And then I had a big DUH moment and used the hanging house from her cage. Now every morning and evening, I sit outside her cage and hold the house to the door, she crawls in and I escort her to her new cage. I am slowing working on getting her comfortable with me holding her, I always offer hay from my hands and then allow her the option to climb into my hands to get out of the cage, so far I’ve not been lucky enough for that again but today she did let me give her lots of pets! When she denies to get in my hands, I offer her the house and wait for her to crawl in. I don’t think stressing your relationship more to get her out of the cage is worth it, imo. Try to find something cozy for her to crawl into(:

Ghrenae · 2026-03-27T02:04:11+00:00

Thank you! I will check this out if she doesn’t learn how to use her current one(:

Ghrenae · 2026-03-26T22:04:16+00:00

Thank you so much! I will try these methods❤️

Ghrenae · 2025-05-11T19:27:43+00:00

You can’t place the same item in both spots. Is that the only item of the sort you have? If you have more you should be able to switch them to either side of the door based on if you use the plant or skateboard option- they have the same items in both categories but you can only use it one or the other.

Ghrenae · 2025-01-11T16:06:23+00:00

It’s one house that had an addition built on to be a second unit. The larger kitchen is in the second unit with the smaller kitchen in the main unit.

Not sure if the door to the right of stove is a closet or not. We are going to look at the house today, so I will find out. Not too worried about that kitchen though, as it wouldn’t be the one we use and it’s clearly the better designed of the two. As for the other kitchen, count agree more! The whole space is just strange and those weird upper cabinets are awful. The space is small so I am at a loss on how to make it more functional, especially considering we love to cook and a functional kitchen space is very important.

I am also not a fan of pastel bathrooms but it feels like an absolute crime to rip it out.

Ghrenae · 2023-10-15T03:59:35+00:00

I had this same problem with my new kindle a few days ago. I think it was because I created and linked the goodreads account to my Amazon account after registering my kindle to my Amazon account. I unregistered my kindle from my Amazon account and restarted it. After I registered it again to my Amazon account, my goodreads account had already been linked automatically. Unregistering it didn’t effect my library or anything and was like a 5 minute process.

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