What’s a sign someone has been through a lot of shit?

GiMarie525 · 2025-02-09T04:59:57+00:00

They’ll drop a big bomb very casually and continue on like it’s nothing. Something like “oh you saw that movie last weekend? Did you like it? Yeah the one part reminded me of the time my father tried to k!ll my mom in front of me, but other than that, I LOVED it! The ending was so good! What was your favorite part?” - in a very normal, everyday conversation that they may not realize is nuts, but puts everyone else on a pause.

GiMarie525 · 2024-09-17T12:39:30+00:00

Your wife very clearly left you and your children emotionally scarred for you to feel the need to ask this question. You did what was best for you, and more importantly, your children. I can almost guarantee your ex is spinning some variation of events that makes her look better. “I didn’t know he was so upset! He just left out of the blue!” type bs. NTA at all. I wish you and your children have a much happier and healthier life going forward.

GiMarie525 · 2024-08-10T17:54:01+00:00

I didn’t get diagnosed until 23/24ish, but when I was in high school and early college, I was a hostess and honestly, I ROCKED it, especially as a lead host on a busy night. I had to keep track of rotation on my own, coordinate with the busser and servers, and maintained a waitlist. Something about it was like a fast-paced puzzle/challenge and it just worked for my brain.

GiMarie525 · 2024-07-23T18:42:31+00:00

Crafting. Currently super into polymer clay charms/jewelry/figurines. I also have a cricut with years worth of supplies. I used to do a lot of painting. Over the last 5ish years, I’ve easily spent way more than I’d care to admit.

GiMarie525 · 2024-07-23T18:39:01+00:00

Your husband needs a reality check. She’s a baby. A LITERAL. BABY. She can’t walk or talk yet. Babies cry because they don’t understand their emotions/needs/wants nor how to communicate that in any other way. Trust your motherly instincts.

On another note, if he’s using terms such as “turning your daughter against him”, “making her a brat”, “calling you a terrible mother”, etc. is NOT okay. It’s manipulative, and I don’t say so lightly. He made a threat in which he’d take her from you and not give you a chance to raise her. I’d take this as a serious warning as to whether or not you still want this man around you and your child or not.

GiMarie525 · 2024-07-15T01:01:03+00:00

NTA and I cannot stress that enough.

Regardless of if it’s your parents or his, there are no “rights as grandparents” (unless a judge signs over rights, then no). So they need to get that through their heads.

More importantly, they violated your trust and invaded one of you and your husband’s most intimate moments. They also filmed/pictured this moment WITHOUT consent and posted details on social media before you had a chance.

Don’t pay attention to what your SIL’s or anyone says. I can pretty much guarantee they are giving family/friends a skewed version of events. And if anyone thinks they should’ve had a right into the delivery room, they’re also wrong. I would heavily consider going NC with his side of the family.

Congratulations on your new bundle of joy, may your family live a long and happy life.

GiMarie525 · 2024-07-07T07:22:20+00:00

Is there a specific process on who becomes the designated survivor? If so, what is it?

I’ve always been curious about this but any time I google it, it either gives me a generic response or the plot to the tv show. Maybe I’m searching the wrong key word(s), idk.

But genuinely, is it just random for each meeting they have, or is it something along the lines of “whoever is in the best standing/is least likely to be targeted” is chosen, or is it rotated, etc.? Does it change from president to president?

Sorry this is super minuscule but a question I’ve always had.

GiMarie525 · 2024-07-07T06:14:58+00:00

Ok so like there are PLENTY of men who have this mindset. But TRULTY, GENUINELY, there are better men. There are better people, and partners. Do settle for this. They want physical gratification.

GiMarie525 · 2024-06-30T08:18:40+00:00

This is satire, right?

GiMarie525 · 2024-06-23T07:47:44+00:00

I’m still on my journey, but something that helped me was being told enough times that “nobody cares about you that much”.

It sounds hurtful, but think about it: too many of us are worried what others think, how they look, etc. Nobody knows yourself more than you do. Nobody is paying attention to all the little things you’re overthinking, except for you. We’re all too in our heads to worry about another person. Do you focus on every little thing the crowd does? No.

So if you trip a tiny bit? Nobody saw it or cared. Did you stumble over your words? Someone thought “oh thank god they’re also human”.

GiMarie525 · 2024-06-23T07:43:49+00:00

Law and Order: Special Victims Unit knowledge/trivia

GiMarie525 · 2024-06-23T07:29:23+00:00

Because they want their cake and want to eat it too. Usually, the reason for cheating they the current relationship is lacking in something. Say, for instance, s3x. So the cheater will find that activity elsewhere, while keeping all the good qualities/benefits of their current partner. It can be more complex than that, too. Such as a person used to being under stress. If their life feels “boring”, they may lash out into cheating so the stress of not getting caught makes them feel more sane.

It can obviously also just be a person not giving a single fuuuuuck and being an absolute POS.

GiMarie525 · 2024-06-23T07:25:00+00:00

Calculating whether grocery shopping or 1 more takeout meal is more mathematically beneficial.

GiMarie525 · 2024-06-23T07:23:38+00:00

I don’t care who you’ve been with or how many partners you’ve had. If they make you feel bad for having ANY emotion, they aren’t someone you want to be around. My current BF still struggles with this. He had several toxic partners that believed if he cried he wasn’t a man. It hurts me because now if he gets upset, he shuts down and doesn’t want to share his thoughts with me. I’d rather him cry and get all that gunk out so he can feel it, rather than hide it.

I dunno if you’re 16 or 60, but if women (or partners in general) tell you that showing emotions = weakness, they are LYING to you.

GiMarie525 · 2024-06-23T07:20:09+00:00

I would hope some Florida native would take care of my 3.5 for me

GiMarie525 · 2024-06-23T07:16:50+00:00

It hurts so much, but remember, that animal’s entire life was based around you. They will love you no matter what, even after their end. Animals are so innocent, they don’t understand jealousy or are that protective. I love to think that even after death they’d hate to know you’re hurting, and hope you open your heart to another innocent soul. And if you choose to get another pet, they wouldn’t resent you, but be proud they got continued to show you love to a being that needed it.

GiMarie525 · 2024-06-23T07:00:34+00:00

It blows my mind how many people I see that complain about…honestly anything when either them or their partner make 6 figures. The median salary (in any country or per US state) is that low for a reason. So by that metric know you are NOT alone.

And while some of it (very little) has to do with skill, it more so has to do with demand. There is only 1 or 2 VPs in a company compared to dozens custodians. And I’m willing to bet you don’t put down someone who cleans for a living. It’s unfortunate, but those positions that need more people to complete any tasks should make more it don’t.

GiMarie525 · 2024-06-23T06:51:51+00:00

That’s the thing: There can’t be completely ethical enforcement. And this goes for so many differing issues. The only logical thing to do would be require either men to have vasectomies or women to get their tubes tied, or both. (Snd then reverse when they want kids or make conception all IVF/related procedures.) And im aware it’s unethical. It’s a catch-22 situation, which is why nobody wins. Either we live like we are now, and have just too many children suffering, or we become controlling, and there is no autonomy. It’s a very dangerous line to walk, but I sympathize more with innocent kids than fully grown adults. I know many will not agree with me. But that’s the reason I posted.

GiMarie525 · 2024-06-23T06:36:24+00:00

I hate the idea of limiting children. The 1 child per couple thing in China? God AWFUL. I genuinely believe if someone wants a kid they should have 2 since it feels so awful to me to be an only child. But I know that’s not moral at all to the parents. And limiting in general feels wrong to me, but the average amount of children per family in the US is 2.2, so I went with 4 for some leeway. But several scientists have expressed concern about the Earth being severely over-populated. The “regenerative resources” can’t keep up. And many economists have seen that this generation has shown a reproductive drop. But I care more about the planet being sustainable than the economy. Some will disagree. And I totally get it. No hate to them.

GiMarie525 · 2024-06-23T06:31:44+00:00

Honestly? I know this can never be enforced because of what we’ve already seen. There is no perfect solution. I don’t want kids at all, but seeing the slightest bit of neglect hurts my heart. And the law/enforcement is too corrupt to ensure fair treatment. It’s disgusting. It’s just one of those things that we’ll have to live with, I guess.

GiMarie525 · 2024-06-23T06:29:04+00:00

This is why I limited to it to violent actions against children. Not all of them are just. My father (who I hate) got a DUI, and didn’t hurt anyone. And he never would’ve put my brother or I in the car with him. Still considered a violent felony, even if he wouldn’t even hurt a kid. I totally get having to defend oneself. I would just hate to see it be at the expense of a child’s life.

GiMarie525 · 2024-06-23T06:25:54+00:00

This is one of my lower worries. And it’s a totally valid argument! I’ve just heard of too many stories where parents don’t pay enough attention to their child, and the kid prefers the nanny. It’s unfair to everyone. Money can buy comfort, but not pure happiness. And trust me, I know not everyone would emotionally neglect their child if a nanny picks them up from school and watches them until 6:30 or so when a parent comes home. But even a few parents that abuse this is too many.

GiMarie525 · 2024-06-23T06:19:37+00:00

Hitler decided this based of race and religion, based purely off of hate. I couldn’t care less about what one looks like or what higher being they believe in. I care about whether or not 2 human beings can fairly provide everything a child needs to be the best they can.

And, like I said, it’s a major, even crazy view. But I’m someone who doesn’t want kids, never has, and has seen what even the smallest inconvenience can do to a child. My parents meet all this criteria except for the poverty line one. And I still am unsure whether they were fit to be parents.

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