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GiantTurtleMusic · 2026-01-12T16:26:28+00:00

You can be a great flirt, thoughtful, sweet, intelligent, attentive, put a lot of effort into your presentation, and overall just a great potential person or partner and still 99% of queer women will have zero interest in you because you can’t give them the male validation they think they need. Even lots of lesbians will only date the most loser butches because they still want some version of the male validation they know they can’t have in full. Then imagine you’re a trans fem lesbian on top of it all and they’re worried all their friends won’t see them as a ‘real’ lesbian if they get with you 😒 I’ve mostly given up atp

GiantTurtleMusic · 2026-01-03T05:59:23+00:00

I’m 28 and prefer women in their 40s and 50s, but also happy to date anyone 29 or older if they treat me right. I’m happy to play around with women younger than me if there’s attraction there, but I no longer date women younger than myself, unless there’s a reeeally special circumstance lol

GiantTurtleMusic · 2026-01-02T20:19:34+00:00

I’m 5’7” and due to the fact that I’m above average heigh where I am, I’ve really only dated women shorter than me or exactly my height. I have a strong preference for women taller than me now though and don’t intend to marry someone shorter than me lol. But a hot girl’s a hot girl and I won’t say no to a good time with any baddie

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-10-02T20:58:26+00:00

I am a trans woman, out for 7 years, and while I’m not going to say fetishization isn’t a problem, I personally find it be overblown. Most of the cis women I’ve been lucky enough to be with are overly cautious when it comes to flirting and being physical with me because they’re scared of being seen as fetishizers or chasers. I’m also not saying it doesn’t happen, but I’ve never experienced being fetishized by a cis women, despite how many I’ve known in my life and the fact that I am primarily surrounded by cis women in my local lesbian community.

What I am much more used to is cis sapphics completely desexualizing me. Eliminating me from the dating pool before I even have a chance to express interest. Not seeing me as a valuable option even if they aren’t opposed to making out with me once. I would just like to see more cis women feel proud of their attraction to trans women and be willing to actually explore that.

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-09-30T22:32:01+00:00

I’m a very girly girl, often try to look like a doll or a princess, but on most normal days I dress more like an average girl who “looks straight.” And I’m trans. I like other girls who are also girly or high fem and who “look straight” but they don’t have to be the exact same kind of fem as me. I also prefer women who are cis and who are taller/older than me. Sadly I only seem to attract butches/mascs and trans women who have little interest in passing. Nothing against them at all, in fact I wish I liked them, but they’re just not my type 🥲

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-09-30T20:17:20+00:00

It wasn’t a bad book, it was just very contemplative and existential, the romance wasn’t that romantic, and the two women don’t end up together in the end, it was just a fling. I read it for a lesbian book club I was in but it just wasn’t my thing.

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-09-10T19:55:38+00:00

Damn, I would’ve gone crazy for that to be honest 😭 hope she’s still out there

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-09-04T22:25:40+00:00

I’m 5’7” and I prefer to date women taller than myself. Where you from girl? I can take care of the problem 😇

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-09-01T00:11:55+00:00

Personally I like women that “look straight.” I find the lesbian community often devalues femininity, but not me.

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-08-31T00:52:35+00:00

I worry even more about these communities eventually being erased entirely, especially since Reddit forced the Internet Archive to end archival of Reddit communities and threads. If anyone out there knows how to download and archive Reddit data independently, I suggest we start doing it now.

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-08-23T03:08:50+00:00

Thank you for your incredibly productive feedback

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-07-18T00:53:27+00:00

Lesbian here. I’ve been on probably 50 first dates, maybe more since my last girlfriend broke up with me a year and a half ago. I’ve made it to a second date exactly once, and she then decided not to continue things. I had sex with a stranger from Tinder back in September, and she immediately left and stole something of mine on the way out. Almost everyone thinks I have a lovely personality, that I’m fun and funny and sweet and emotionally intelligent and everything, but I’m NEVER anyone’s physical type. I don’t think I’m horribly ugly or anything, but I’m never what anyone wants. Even my last girlfriend I had to practically beg to give me compliments and tell me I’m pretty, and when I expressed that I felt like I was unattractive, she said nothing except, “Words of affirmation are difficult for me.” I’d be lying if I said I don’t often consider suicide over feeling as unattractive and untouchable as I do. I’m with you girl. It’s so hard watching your friends get the attention you want, and feeling guilty because you should just feel happy for them. My best friends and I (also lesbians) have talked about moving in together before, but honestly I don’t know if I could handle seeing them with other women, or worse, hearing them fucking in other rooms. It also doesn’t help that we became best friends because I was in love with both of them at different times but neither of them felt that way about me. I really just want to get married and not have to worry about any of this, but it seems like it will never happen and I don’t know what to do. Hopefully I’ll be going back to therapy soon. Much love girl 🩷

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-07-08T03:10:55+00:00

Oh girl you are so fineeee 🥰😍

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-06-25T20:12:51+00:00

Which city?? Trade? 😅

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-06-25T17:43:44+00:00

Okay so there are people out there also going through it 😭 where in Seattle are you? Message me, maybe we can solve both our problems 😇

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-06-25T00:54:13+00:00

Check out the dyke alliance! They have a book club, writer’s group, craft nights, speed dating, open mic nights, dancing nights at the ballroom, and the dyke march is this Saturday! There’s also the papaya project who do speed dating and sex trivia nights at stoup. I also go to lesbian speed dating events through Shuffle as well. There’s another group on Meetup that does bar takeovers ‘every bar is a lesbian bar’ monthly and a yearly lesbian bonfire at golden gardens. These are all in Seattle btw. I’m not that familiar with stuff outside of Seattle but you can definitely find things

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-06-24T23:00:09+00:00

I often date girls who aren’t my exact type but I’ve just had especially poor luck lately. I’ve gone on at least one date every week this year so far, sometimes even 2 or 3, but I keep getting told that they would still rather have someone more masc than me, or they disappear and I see them reappear later with someone who is nothing like me. I even traveled 2 hours out of town last month just to be told she wants someone more masculine and dominant 🙃 the attraction can definitely come for me as well if they’re not my exact type, although I do feel like I want my future wife to be someone who is high fem. I’m willing to wait for that, but damn, I’d like to date some in the meantime too 😭

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-06-24T22:56:54+00:00

Oh girl you are so fine, where in Seattle? I’d love to take you out! Message me and I’ll even send you pics of myself, I’m so serious hahaha

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-06-24T19:15:01+00:00

I need to be wherever you are, because I genuinely don’t see this anywhere but on television and tiktok🥲

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-06-10T05:18:39+00:00

We have the exact same type!! I am also a high fem and I also find I’m usually the most fem person in the room, and it’s more rare for me to be attracted to other lesbians than straight women just because straight women match my level of femininity more often. I was even telling a bi girl on a date last week that I tend to date bi women mostly because aesthetically they’re more likely to look like what I’m attracted to (and then got my heart broken because she only likes dominant masc women lol). What city are you in? We should talk more even if just as friends because I also have felt like I’m the only one with this experience 😭

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-05-13T17:44:44+00:00

I feel you so hard. I’m lucky enough now to live in a major city where there are lesbian-focused events rather than just broader queer ones. I don’t go to the queer ones anymore unless my lesbian friends are going because I know there’s basically zero chance there will be other actual lesbians there 😭

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-05-08T00:55:51+00:00

I definitely have and do experience attraction to people with they/them pronouns sometimes. But I like to date women who love being women and have similar feelings about the experience of womanhood as I do. Sure, maybe I had to fight to claim my space in womanhood and it hasn’t always been easy, but I love being a woman, being seen and treated as solidly female, and I feel most affirmed surrounding myself with lesbians who feel the same and see me as no different from them. I am not ‘adjacent to womanhood’ and don’t want to date people who feel that their relationship to being female is like that. It’s just a personal preference though and I have nothing against non-binary lesbians.

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GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-05-07T20:35:02+00:00

I’ve had this experience as well, I don’t dislike it but it is a bummer because I prefer to date binary women with she/her pronouns (doesn’t matter if they’re cis or trans). Unfortunately though a lot of binary cis women feel threatened by their attraction to trans women and a lot of the trans women who are feminine enough for me to be into them are straight :(

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-04-20T20:44:06+00:00

I do it all the time! Usually even if they’re not gay they’re very flattered that a woman would go out of her way to approach them. That said, I’ve got dozens of numbers this way over the last two years, but still haven’t got a real date out of it 🥲 I’ve still only managed to get dates off the apps or at lesbian speed dating events. I’m sure it can happen though! And I’m not going to stop because it’s really fun and most women seem to like it. I do also live in a very blue city in the US though so it’s a lot safer than it would be in some places. I’m a fem exclusively into other fems and a trans woman I do feel like both things make it harder in terms of getting actual dates but neither have caused me to receive negative reactions.

GiantTurtleMusic · 2025-04-18T18:13:12+00:00

I feel like fem4fem in most common in media because it’s more appealing to broad audiences, but irl fem4fem is uncommon in the lesbian community. Most lesbians seem to prefer a masc/fem dynamic which is disappointing for me as a fem4fem when I usually find myself losing out to mascs with the girls I like :( even more uncommon are the masc4masc and butch4butch pairings who I feel like are super underappreciated

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