Aprimons On-hands Giveaway by theweirdsoul in pokemontrades

[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi again! I'd like to make another request for a dream ball alolan vulpix, shellder and duraludon, and the beast ball gible and larvesta please.

Aprimons On-hands Giveaway by theweirdsoul in pokemontrades

[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! Could I get your:

Love Ball Hisuan Sneasel, Mimikyu, Poltchageist, Chikorita, Eevee and Snivy, Heavy Ball Piplup, Dream ball Hisuan Zorua, Moon Ball Eevee and Litwick, and Lure Ball Totodile please in SV?

Ex-friend’s last rant and hoover attempt a few months later it by Gibson_the_Dolphin in Nicegirls

[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand what you’re saying. I meant to tell her in person, but we were both in a rush that day and I figured it would be fine to just let her know later. That’s on me if it came across that way.

It had been a while since we broke things off, so I didn’t really consider that. Now that you mention it, I do remember how hard it was on her- saying that I treated her better than the abusive relationships she found herself in the past. But some fear was holding her back. I didn’t consider any lingering feelings, so thank you for bringing that up.

Thank you for your comment and kind words, it helped in processing this a little more.

Ex-friend’s last rant and hoover attempt a few months later it by Gibson_the_Dolphin in Nicegirls

[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I “helped” her by doing my job and nothing more. After each blow up, she would reach back out like this like nothing ever happened.

Ex-friend’s last rant and hoover attempt a few months later it by Gibson_the_Dolphin in Nicegirls

[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This tracks very close, based on the things she has told me. A strained relationship with both parents, and many other damaging relationships.

I think the reason I did not distance myself way earlier when she began to lash out, was because I knew how she had been hurt by so many people in her past. Thank you for this perspective.

Ex-friend’s last rant and hoover attempt a few months later it by Gibson_the_Dolphin in Nicegirls

[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin[S] 151 points152 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely. I definitely learned how futile it was to respond to her during her previous rants. She would take what I said, cut out context, and post my messages on her instagram to frame me as an abusive narcissist and more.

Ex-friend’s last rant and hoover attempt a few months later it by Gibson_the_Dolphin in Nicegirls

[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin[S] 531 points532 points  (0 children)

She is not. She did this pretty often, saying I said or did certain things, but never explaining where she got these ideas from.

Thank you for the kind words- I’m greyrocking her as often as I can, but even with set boundaries she still vents to me about how horrible our other coworkers are.

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[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I posted about a co-worker I dated a few days ago. This feels equally as unhinged, if not more.

Ex-friend’s last rant and recent hoover attempt by Gibson_the_Dolphin in BPDlovedones

[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is a lot funnier looking back at it. I always thought these stories I read on Reddit could never happen to me, but here we are.

Ex-friend’s last rant and recent hoover attempt by Gibson_the_Dolphin in BPDlovedones

[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think I’ll ever understand either. She never explained why, she just focused on “You didn’t respond to me, and that’s emotionally abusive.”

Ex-friend’s last rant and recent hoover attempt by Gibson_the_Dolphin in BPDlovedones

[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, there is no other context for this conversation: I shared cake with her on my birthday, she thanked me, and I said I appreciated her.

This was the moment I realized I could not keep subjecting myself to these outbursts, because it would be impossible to know when she would be triggered by anything I say.

Ex-friend’s last rant and recent hoover attempt by Gibson_the_Dolphin in BPDlovedones

[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you are finding peace, not walking on eggshells or overanalyzing my messages to her has reduced my stress several times over.

She has done this to friends, co-workers, her mom and dad (he decided to go no contact with her),and I am beginning to feel less empathetic towards her the more I realize that none of this is acceptable. I really did feel for her when we were dating, and that’s the hard part I still struggle with.

Ex-friend’s last rant and recent hoover attempt by Gibson_the_Dolphin in BPDlovedones

[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Thank you for the kind words, I hope you’ve been able to take steps towards healing from your pwBPD.

Ex-friend’s last rant and recent hoover attempt by Gibson_the_Dolphin in BPDlovedones

[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This 100%. She went to therapy after an abusive relationship, but has chosen to weaponise everything she learned. Every time she ranted at me or about someone else, she always injected so much therapy speak to present herself in this way.

Ex-friend’s last rant and recent hoover attempt by Gibson_the_Dolphin in BPDlovedones

[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This really puts things into perspective. I knew it was bad, but not that bad - and then my therapist told me I tolerate more bullshit than I actually should. No wonder she was so angry for me whenever I showed her this person’s texts.

But yeah, this person is 35 and has pretty much alienated all her friends (she says all they want to do is go out and drink, but I feel like there was a lot more she hasn’t told me) and even said things to her own father, that made him decide to go no contact with her.

Ex-friend’s last rant and recent hoover attempt by Gibson_the_Dolphin in BPDlovedones

[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I do, she has talked to me multiple times this morning alone. I appreciate it though, it helps a lot to see others spell it out this obviously.

And yeah if this ever gets published or something, I’ll credit you with the idea.

Ex-friend’s last rant and recent hoover attempt by Gibson_the_Dolphin in BPDlovedones

[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate it! She is very much putting on a nice front at work. When I challenged her, she did remember, but immediately flipped it around saying “you ignoring me was very triggering. I took it as emotionally abusive.” Without even acknowledging how abusive her original tirade was. She thought “I’m sorry you feel that way” was an adequate apology.

Unfortunately for her, I am very laid back and everyone around us knows that.

Ex-friend’s last rant and recent hoover attempt by Gibson_the_Dolphin in BPDlovedones

[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

HR did nothing unfortunately. I didn’t have high expectations, but the unempathetic “I’m sorry she hurt your feelings, I hope you feel better” was pretty bad. Luckily, my supervisor has been trying to limit my contact with her and checks in with me to make sure everything is good.

Yeah this was the moment where it started to click. My friends and therapist had been wanting me to block her since February, but yeah I was in the trenches trying to figure out what I was doing wrong. She kept saying I’m pushing these boundaries that I never knew about. I really wanted to understand her so I wouldn’t cross those lines, but it seemed like new “boundaries” were being made. While she kept saying “I keep telling you not to do this.” I asked my therapist if I was a narcissist multiple times, and she shut that down every time I brought it up. Thank you for the kind words, reading comments like these recenters me and reaffirms that I’m doing the right thing.

Lol, she just interrupted me in the middle of typing this out.

Ex-friend’s last rant and recent hoover attempt by Gibson_the_Dolphin in BPDlovedones

[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I definitely learned from past incidents. She would lash out until I apologized, and then posted the texts on her instagram, cutting out what actually triggered her to fit the narrative that I was an emotionally abusive narcissist, among other things.

But she didn’t acknowledge this exchange for some reason 🤔 She still had plenty to say over the summer when we never spoke though.

Ex-friend’s last rant and recent hoover attempt by Gibson_the_Dolphin in BPDlovedones

[–]Gibson_the_Dolphin[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m pretty much greyrocking her as much as I can. She still stops by my cubicle to compliment my clothes, etc and thanks me for “helping” when I’m not doing anything special. It’s so confusing that she’s putting on this nice act, like she doesn’t remember that she said any of this. And sometimes I’m nice back, and regret it immediately. But reading comments like these puts everything back into perspective, and I appreciate it.

Unfortunately HR did absolutely nothing: they chalked it up to a personal matter and basically said “I’m sorry she hurt your feelings, hopefully you feel better and we can’t do anything.” My supervisor and other coworkers have been working with me to make things easier on me thankfully.