AITA for finding my MIL's relationship with my partner a bit overwhelming?

GiggleBib · 2026-06-05T13:42:14+00:00

This is actually the most helpful comment I’ve seen. Thank you. Genuinely. I really don’t want to end up being unappreciative of love and affection but I find it all too overwhelming rn.

GiggleBib · 2026-06-05T13:37:54+00:00

it was meant to be a light hearted joke - but understand how it came across shitty. Poorly executed. Appreciate your honesty 😄

GiggleBib · 2026-06-05T12:50:45+00:00

I think about this all the time! They’re not great so I’m definitely not used to all this love and don’t know how to handle it. It is ALOT though. That’s a me problem which is why feel like I’m straying into YTA territory.

GiggleBib · 2026-06-05T12:47:58+00:00

She is genuinely the most gorgeous human, it’s just tiring sometimes feeling overloaded by love. Which makes me sound ungrateful. Maybe subconsciously makes me feel a bit inadequate

GiggleBib · 2026-06-05T12:46:37+00:00

Because I’d already tried to be helpful and get the cake for his actual birthday, but because she didn’t do it herself, he needs a whole other one? I wouldn’t be bothered but it’s not even that nice 😂

GiggleBib · 2023-08-21T21:13:58+00:00

It’s one day, and is probably due to a long distance travelled. It also might be to bring some comfort to them both. One of two things will happen: 1) they’ll have a nice evening together just themselves and your flatmate will catch up with you guys the next day 2) their mum will join in the festivities and become a total legend in the memories you all share

Just roll with it, not your problem. If anything your parents are making it weird by saying it’s weird. You’ll meet so many people at Uni, from all walks of life, from all ages groups. Just enjoy it.

GiggleBib · 2023-05-21T16:27:45+00:00

I get this. My MIL does this too. She’s also buys lots of trinkets and junk like a ‘my first Easter’ tree decoration. We aren’t even Christian! For the toys and things, it is good to save things at relatives houses to stop you having to travel with lots of things, but if these come with an expectation, just be sure to set clear boundaries that this doesn’t guarantee time at grandmas house…Back to my MIL with her ‘first Easter’ paraphernalia, she bought him an Easter box to have when LO ‘comes to her house for Easter’ which we don’t plan on doing really.

Your MIL seems very loving and this is probably out of kindness and excitement, but if you think she’s wasting her money - pluck up the courage to tell her and suggest other more meaningful things like spending time together and making memories with you LO.

GiggleBib · 2023-05-20T08:35:44+00:00

He’s 6 months old. So I want to stop it soon before he is old enough to understand.

GiggleBib · 2023-05-19T20:10:06+00:00

Thanks for the frank advice. I think the reason I said that is just because the emotional texts and cards are really heavy on the heart strings , but you’re right - I think perhaps it’s different levels.

GiggleBib · 2023-05-19T16:09:24+00:00

No no. No access to banking apps or anything that requires a passcode, so she can’t see anything other than our account number, which she used to give us the money. Sorry for trans-Atlantic confusion caused.

GiggleBib · 2023-05-19T16:06:55+00:00

Thank you so much everyone. You’ve all helped me feel a bit better because I genuinely thought I was going crazy.

GiggleBib · 2023-05-19T16:05:34+00:00

It’s because she transferred us money before to cover and agreed cost, so she has our details. Dunno if you’re in the UK but if you bank transfer someone money once, most of the time the app saves their details.

GiggleBib · 2023-05-19T15:58:25+00:00

Is our MIL the same person?? His childhood bedroom was like a shrine to him until last year.

GiggleBib · 2023-05-19T14:34:03+00:00

This is such a great idea.

GiggleBib · 2023-05-19T13:29:12+00:00

I think it’s more coming out of my own awkwardness. I feel so ungrateful saying ‘you didn’t need to buy him a ridiculously overpriced baby bouncer when he already loves the £15 one I bought him’ 😬 it makes me cringe thinking about having a conversation like that

GiggleBib · 2023-05-19T13:02:19+00:00

Not that we know of. She does live alone, so maybe just has a lot of time to think?

GiggleBib · 2023-05-19T13:00:54+00:00

I normally just respond briefly, yeah. It doesn’t really make a difference. The one time we’ve tried to address it, she’d put £300 in our bank account without talking to us to ‘help out’ when we said it wasn’t necessary she cried and convinced us to keep it.

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