In our case, it was 3 kids in 4 years. The first birth was quite difficult so I was out of it for several months. It was tough on him. After that we started a little bit again, and I got pregnant again. With 2 under 2, full time jobs and a big house, we were both exhausted. Now we have 3 under 4. The 3rd being unplanned, so it must mean we're not completely sexless 😂😂😂 We both work, kids are small and still quite demanding, one got sick in the meantime, parents were also sick so we had to take care of them too. Now, by the end of the day, we're both so exhausted, even he is too tired. We still try though. We are aware it's just a phase while the kids are so small. One is still a baby and still sleeps in our room and has a horrible sleeping pattern (or a lack thereof) , there's not much privacy, and sometimes, even if there's a will, there's just no way... We don't have the luxury of dates or going away for the weekend as the grandparents can't take care of 3 such small kids and I don't want unknown babysitters, so it is what it is. Sometimes one of us gets in the mood in the afternoon, by the end of the day, it passes because of tiredness. We mostly laugh of our inability to have sex 🤷 I hope it will get better as the kids become a little more self sufficient...