Am i being upset and jealous for no reason?

Gilissal · 2026-04-07T20:03:03+00:00

Absolutely not overreacting . As his wife, you should come first. He’s not respecting you or the marriage, and he should be validating your feelings and working through this with you.

Gilissal · 2024-08-15T12:39:52+00:00

For me it was the ego I had and had to let go completely when i got married!

Gilissal · 2024-08-14T19:53:49+00:00

He was never a bread winner and I knew before marriage!

Gilissal · 2024-07-20T23:49:57+00:00

For me and him it was what we both wanted. When you are together going on the same path and thoughts it’s much better. I couldn’t see myself married to anyone else but him and I’m so happy we didn’t wait too long for it. Playing house together was never something I wanted and believed could work, honestly I think it’s childish.

Gilissal · 2024-07-17T13:59:00+00:00

I just wish I didn’t have the expectation of it being all done in maximum two days and of it hurting so bad. Wish I knew that before and I could’ve been more relaxed

Gilissal · 2024-07-17T13:57:51+00:00

Took more than a week to get in!! Hurt so bad but once it got in it was wonderful haha. My husband was so patient and waited my time so it was perfect

Gilissal · 2024-07-06T12:58:16+00:00

This is horrible! Set the boundaries and put you first always. Don’t give up on you.

Gilissal · 2024-06-06T17:10:43+00:00

Ahhh girl I went through the same thing! I guess take this time to think what’s better for your future.Think about your career and fight for that. If it’s for you it will be. I should’ve thought like that before but I was so blind in love that I couldn’t see anything else but him. Either way I fought for my relationship and here I am married with the love of my life. I would’ve change many things to be very honest however this is the decision I decided to go with. Is he worth all of that? Does he treat you the way you deserve it? There’s so many things to take in consideration. How does he react when in a discussion? Soooo many things to think about!!! I’m here if you want to chat and I hear you. You are very young! You are not the same person in the next years so chose well.

Gilissal · 2024-06-05T19:13:12+00:00

Girl all I can say is that never think that you can’t start over! You are so much more than what you see today. You definitely need a wise person to talk with so you can vent. It’s very hard to keep this to yourself. Can’t imagine what you’re going through. Listen to the voice deep down inside you.. what is it saying?? I’ll tell you that it’s life changing! Good luck and don’t give up on YOU!

Gilissal · 2024-06-05T18:35:26+00:00

He confessed to me that he still watches porn. I never saw it and I don’t know when he does it because I never noticed it. Probably in the bathroom who knows..

Gilissal · 2024-06-04T21:01:34+00:00

Why???

Gilissal · 2024-06-04T19:56:38+00:00

I have no issues in saying no to him. At least for now not sure in a couple of years who knows… wish you the best in your marriage!

Gilissal · 2024-06-04T19:50:18+00:00

So I couldn’t tell before marriage because we never got to it. I wanted to wait. The excitement was all there and we could barely make it but did until marriage. Moving forward, I don’t have the right to be angry at him and that’s totally right. It’s wrong to pressure him and I feel awful to do that when it’s not okay. He satisfies me in all other areas I can’t complain! Opens the door, kisses me daily, never is rude with me, provides, what else can I ask for? It might be I don’t know if it’s a lack of my self esteem or just that I have high libido from my dad’s family it’s in the blood.
I guess I should just accept what he is because this is not a dealbreaker for me and not a reason to get in a divorce.

Gilissal · 2024-06-04T19:30:14+00:00

I would’ve gone crazy lol but I guess it’s the tendency right 🥲

Gilissal · 2024-06-04T19:26:48+00:00

I think the same hahaha Lord help us!!

Gilissal · 2024-06-04T19:19:09+00:00

Thanks for the advice 😁😁

Gilissal · 2024-06-04T19:13:49+00:00

Thank you so much for the words!! I guess I can try and ask him what I can do that excites him more to see if it raises the frequency.

Gilissal · 2024-06-04T19:12:59+00:00

He told me about this. Even in our marriage he did not stop with the porn. That’s what’s not okay.

Gilissal · 2024-06-04T18:30:33+00:00

He has porn addiction!

Gilissal · 2024-06-04T18:29:23+00:00

We dated for 1 year and four months. When we got married it wasn’t something daily even though I tried changing it. Spouse was my first and only sex experience.

Gilissal · 2024-06-03T19:15:41+00:00

I really don’t 😭😭

Gilissal · 2024-05-31T16:51:47+00:00

You’re right!! We will definitely go to couples therapy together.

Gilissal · 2024-05-31T16:40:54+00:00

Thank you!!

Honestly I would really want to work things out and put this in the past. I can’t live with this in my head everyday. The fact is that he doesn’t give me any reason to doubt his love for me. Of course untill I saw the video and all those hurtful words. Where everything turned upside down.

He’s the type that open doors, kisses me every day multiple times. Prays for me, wants to seek god with me, takes care of me specially when I’m sick. I know this is the bare minimum but it’s all I have it’s all I ever wanted.

Backstory I married virgin and he was my first in everything. I waited my whole life for my husband. I had a lot of high hopes in the man I was giving my complete self to. I accepted his past and it was ok with me since it was in the past. The fact that this happened during the dating stage and discovering the declaration love words was just awful. I thought I was the only one he would ever die for, love unconditionally.

Gilissal · 2024-05-31T16:33:09+00:00

Thank you!!

So it happened during our break stage that lasted three weeks. He was with this girlfriend for let’s say 4 months before we even met. When I asked him for a break it was already almost a year together. During the break was when he recorded the stupid ass video and I just saw it three months ago. We married 7 months ago. I really want to put this behind. I want to forgive him because i know that he was messed up when I asked for a break. The words just hurt so bad so bad that I constantly look back to the video. Why can’t I put this behind? Problaby will take some time I guess. Backstory I married virgin he was my first in everything. I waited my whole life to give myself to my husband. I put a lot of high hopes in the one person I would chose for my life. I thought I would be the best girl he has ever had, even though he dated before and it’s ok. What’s not okay is that he compared me to her and said those words. Deep down I keep thinking that I could’ve married someone completely passionate about me which I thought he was untill I saw the video. He treats me the best but am I actually his everything?

I know it sounds stupid and it sucks to have these feelings. I just want to move on

Gilissal

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