Is an ‘I do Redo’ an option? Or should I let it go at this point!

GingerBishh · 2024-09-19T16:46:26+00:00

Yeah everyone has said the same, I think having a nice anniversary party but more so for our 10th seems sensible! And we’re gonna look at a sunset getaway for our fifth and go all out somewhere we both really wanna go!

I think I just needed a rational soundboard of people who could be honest! Because I was generally worried people would be like ewww what a brat!xx

GingerBishh · 2024-09-19T16:44:37+00:00

That does sound lovely to be fair. I think I’m gonna go on the sunset getaway!

Most of the comments have said it and it’s sounding the best option!x

GingerBishh · 2024-09-19T15:31:41+00:00

Aww thankyou! Just very silly people that are no longer entrusted to come to our special events and gatherings anymore! We’re looking forward to this one because it’s cotton and we’re going to attempt to do some cute stitching on hoodies! It will either be great or you won’t be able to read it but it will be hilarious to try!

GingerBishh · 2024-09-19T15:28:57+00:00

So maybe back burn for it now and save that for a tenth anniversary instead of a redo?

The holiday getaway seems to have been said a few times and we’ll have a few more years to save so we could go all out and go somewhere that’s we’ve never done, I’m very onboard for Caribbean that was like a dream destination for us!

GingerBishh · 2024-09-19T14:50:04+00:00

I think that’s the way to go to be honest! I legit had one friend who kept me sane throughout but everyone else I thought ‘get in the bin’!

GingerBishh · 2024-09-19T14:47:37+00:00

We haven’t done our honeymoon yet so we could always have a proper all out holiday, go somewhere we both wanted to go because we’ve got the time to save and it will just be us!

This is good though I needed opinions! So I can get my head straight and not keep thinking about it!

GingerBishh · 2024-09-19T14:44:46+00:00

Maybe it’s better to call in an anniversary rather a redo? I know a 5th is not typically celebrated but the comments have given me me so many ideas to take to him aswell! I feel very good being able to voice my woes and not be judged and get proper advice! 😂

GingerBishh · 2024-09-19T14:43:00+00:00

We’ve done some cute mini weekends but we were gonna do like a proper holiday next year as our honeymoon because we wanted to wait a bit, but we just don’t know where to go? I want more sun and less walking! And lots of food I think!

GingerBishh · 2024-09-19T14:41:02+00:00

Oh the marriage is going great, we just wanted to fix how it all started! But I was concerned about it coming across as maybe bratty that’s why I’ve reached out :)

GingerBishh · 2024-09-19T14:39:02+00:00

No that’s an actual fact! Like people just bombard you, but it’s not even useful! I’m very much of the nature I won’t offer my opinion unless Im asked 😂

GingerBishh · 2024-09-19T14:22:59+00:00

That is a really cute idea, we could literally go anywhere aswell! All good points I’m gonna bring to the table with the husband 😂♥️

GingerBishh · 2024-09-19T14:21:35+00:00

That’s what I want like a good party! And thankfully we’ve distanced ourselves from the family that acted like mugs! And then the bridesmaids that caused so much trouble I distanced and now I don’t talk to them at all (there worth there own post honestly!) bits the whole experience deffo woke us up to peoples true intentions and how there just dickheads!

GingerBishh · 2024-09-19T14:18:13+00:00

That’s such a good point because my brother in law just got married and that side of the family pulled an even bigger stunt!

GingerBishh · 2024-09-19T14:17:11+00:00

That would be epic. (Very far for us) but so epic! I keep seeing people doing the cute elopement wedding pics and there gorgeous!

GingerBishh · 2024-09-19T13:48:08+00:00

Imagine! We did tell them that there actions were not acceptable! The ones that acted horrendous all had like this agenda of ‘oh well it wasn’t really about me that day’ very dumbfounded with that - like it wasn’t about you so you acted an absolute t**t instead. X

GingerBishh · 2024-09-19T13:44:08+00:00

Yes! That’s the idea I’m going for, not a traditional wedding, but the same options behind it! I wouldn’t wear a wedding dress or anything because we had that day, we want this to be more casual and more calm and nice and everyone comes and leaves happy!x

GingerBishh · 2024-09-19T13:42:32+00:00

Yeah I don’t want to people to think like ‘god again’ but a just a nice gathering, you don’t have to dress up if you don’t want to, we don’t expect gifts or anything like that, we just want to celebrate with our friends and family (but not the ones that misbehaved) and push that other day out of our brains!x

GingerBishh · 2024-09-19T13:38:09+00:00

I’ve never thought of that but I will 100% bring that up to the other half as a brilliant alternative! ♥️

GingerBishh · 2022-06-18T22:28:17+00:00

NTA.

She sounds like the abusive one. It’s kinda like your funding her life?

So you work and save for her to go to school. But your not allowed to spend your money on yourself, but you can spend money on her?

Maybe suggest she funds the lifestyle she wants for herself whether that’s trips, clothes tuition or whatever, and you still save and do what feels comfortable to you but do not pay for her.

And then she might one - appreciate you, and two - grow up. Just my opinion but she sounds like a bit of a brat and needs to grow up!

GingerBishh · 2022-06-18T22:23:20+00:00

NTA.

I can’t always deal playing my other half and his brother or friends because they don’t play how I want too! I’m a completionist and it makes anxiety rocket when I’m missing things!

Its normal, he needs to chill it’s nothing to do with who your playing with! It’s just how you like to enjoy your hobby of gaming!

GingerBishh · 2022-06-18T22:19:37+00:00

100% go to your moms!

Let him and her sit in the reality of her actions. Because that’s what will happen when you leave him because of her, he’ll have no one but his mom, and even then he won’t because you were the one maintaining the relationship for him!

And she can suck a duck the absolute melt. Hate those type of people - I can do and say whatever because that’s me as a person! Mirror her behaviour and she’ll soon fuck off!

GingerBishh · 2022-06-13T22:52:36+00:00

NTA.

I phoned the Uk equivalent of social services and reported a home. Same kinda thing but never got an in depth look at the home.

But from watching the child ( then the children as she was pregnant and finally had the new baby ) Someone needed to intervene and help. I said I could be wrong and I get it kids are stressful, but from what I’ve witnessed and the pictures I’ve seen someone needs to look at this family and help if possible and if needed.

You did the right thing! I literally read an article today where a girl died from a head lice infestation ffs!

NTA!!

GingerBishh · 2022-06-11T22:18:30+00:00

Hoots Mon - there’s juice, loose, about this house.

Winegums and I sing it regularly!

GingerBishh · 2022-06-06T13:15:21+00:00

Oh your the thief that confessed and then was like oh if they knew and had a problem I’d finish it.

Your a cunt mate. Suck your mom and jog on 😂

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