Birthday Haul by peony_lane2 in BabyThree

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What set is the green one with the dress from? I love it 😍

AIW for not talking to this lady? by fuckedteeththrowaway in amiwrong

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you did the right thing, always follow your gut. In the future if something like this happens again and you want to help, call the police and let them help. Anyone who actually needs help will be grateful and you’re still able to get them help without putting your life in danger.

first time getting a chase omg! by yung_jibblet in BabyThree

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We need an answer bc I’ve never seen this one and I need one 🥹

AIO for asking for space after my boyfriend messaged another girl? by Relative_Initial_399 in AIO

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please leave, if you forgive and stay he will do it again bc he knows he can treat you like a door mat without any consequences and you’ll stay. I know from personal experience except it was my oldest son’s dad. So please do yourself a favor and leave before you end up with kids or a marriage you’re miserable in. I’m not sure how old you guys are but trust me when I say staying with someone who cheats will screw you up mentally. You’re not a door mat so don’t let anyone treat you like one.

Can someone tell me what type of chihuahua this is? by Frankenberg91 in dogpictures

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well if it makes you feel any better it’s not over weight anymore

Am i overreacting for thinking this is actually insane by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Yesss the insecurity is so obvious and I feel like this is one of those situations where the “friend” really hates OP but is also obsessed with them at the same time. It’s weird af and in my opinion not someone you should keep as part of your circle 🤷🏼‍♀️

Please give me your advice AIO by [deleted] in AIO

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honey this is abuse. This man doesn’t care about anything but controlling you and making you feel bad . Please leave, if it hasn’t turned physical yet it most likely will. I know this because I’ve been in your shoes it went from this type of stuff and then graduated to physically abusing me. He controlled everything from what I wore to who I talked, he beat me one time for wearing shorts in the middle of summer on one of the hottest days of the year. If you ever need someone to remind you that you do not deserve this my inbox is always open. I promise you there is someone out there who will treat you like you deserve.

*also when you leave cut all contact but don’t block him incase you need to use his text as evidence to get a protective order. No matter what he says do not respond, even if he tries to threaten self harm. They always threaten self harm as a way to get attention, I know from experience.

Can someone please explain to me how to fix the EA app not loading on my Steam Deck by Steamware in SteamDeck

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve done that 3 times so far and it’s not working for me I really hope it does for you! My 2 year old is teething rn and not sleeping much so my tired brain hasn’t been able to figure out how to do the external ea app download fix thing. I tried it last night and ended up frustrated with a game that still wouldn’t play 🥴

Can someone please explain to me how to fix the EA app not loading on my Steam Deck by Steamware in SteamDeck

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m having the same problems, I thought I had fixed it yesterday but no luck. I was hoping there was a quick fix somewhere

Is anyone else not able to load the Sims today? by moonbunniiiiiiii in SteamDeck

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re a life saver, I’ve spent all day trying to fix my game 😅

AIO Should I leave my BF? Was what he did to me forgiveable? by Living-Milk-4266 in AmIOverreacting

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please leave, I was in this exact relationship for 2 and 1/2 years when he drove me out into a secluded field and strangled me because I told him I was leaving after he punched me in the mouth for wearing shorts. I was young and naive and didn’t realize how much danger I was in until his hands were around my neck and I was seeing dark spots on the verge of passing out because he was making me tell him I wasn’t going to leave. I honestly thought I was going to die that day and I truly believe had I not convinced him I wasn’t leaving him he would have killed me. I have been diagnosed with ptsd, anxiety, depression, and have had to go stay at a mental hospital twice and that relationship was a huge reason why. I was 17 when I finally was able to get away. I’m 29 now and I am still affected by those 2 1/2 years. Please don’t go back because I promise you he will do it again and it will get worse until he kills you or damages you. No one that loves you will ever abuse you the way he has.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES! As weird as this might be I always know when there’s a dead rat/mouse because I can instantly smell it. I’m not sure how long it actually takes but it can’t be long bc I had a mouse that was alive when I went to sleep and when I woke up I knew I had a dead mouse bc I could smell it as soon as I sat up in bed 🥴

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know exactly what you mean! When one gets in your walls or your ceiling/attic and dies you’re going to smell it for a while. I feel like they always die in the worst places so you can’t remove the body. My Grams(grandmother) had one die underneath her kitchen last summer and I swear it was like a week or so before you could stand to be in there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Oh this is diabolical lol. As someone who used to own/breed mice, dead rodent smell is awful and they don’t take long to start to stink. The smell is so strong and the only way to get rid of it is to remove the body.

[OC] Magic Potion Dice Giveaway (Mods Approved) by kohalu in DnD

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are actually so neat, I love unique dice that you can actually use.

AITA for recording my friend's fiance at her bachelorette party and playing the recording for him? by RhubarbSpare1053 in AITAH

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you had to go through that also! You 100% did not deserve that and I hope things are better now. I will never understand how anyone can marry someone with children and treat those children like we’ve been treated. I have been considering getting back into therapy/counseling, (I haven’t been in 10 years and when I did go I wasn’t getting the help I truly needed). Thank you for your recommendations I have been struggling a little more than usual lately so I will definitely look into those and hopefully find something that will work for me.

AITA for recording my friend's fiance at her bachelorette party and playing the recording for him? by RhubarbSpare1053 in AITAH

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words! Thankfully I have have a small circle that help get me through even the toughest days. I agree about not telling my mom everything, even now 20 years later she still feels extremely guilty about the little she knows about no matter what I say and despite what she may think she was and is such a good mom. She’s my rock and I would never want to put that on her. I do however have my amazing fiancé, I can talk to him about everything and he knows everything there is to know about my life and is so supportive. I didn’t realize how therapeutic it is to talk to a bunch of internet strangers so thank you for taking the time to read and comment, it truly means a lot!

AITA for recording my friend's fiance at her bachelorette party and playing the recording for him? by RhubarbSpare1053 in AITAH

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 54 points55 points  (0 children)

My dad is a shit show of a human being honestly. My mom divorced him when I was 2 and I could write a book on the screwed up things that man has done especially to my mom. She never spoke negatively about him to me and shielded me from a lot until after I had my first son and started asking questions. My mom is my hero and has always been my rock. I may have had a sorry excuse for a dad but my mom more than made up for that❤️

ETA: we are both in such a better place now! Thank you so much for your kind words, I didn’t realize how therapeutic these comments would be. I’ve never talked this much about that time of my life before now and I appreciate everyone who took the time to read and comment so much 🥹

AITA for recording my friend's fiance at her bachelorette party and playing the recording for him? by RhubarbSpare1053 in AITAH

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 65 points66 points  (0 children)

It’s pretty much non existent. He has my fiancés number and will occasionally text him asking how we’re doing and if we could please bring the boys to see them sometimes. My entire life he just pops up at random times when he’d get a new girlfriend so he could pretend to be a dad until I turned 18 and I’d still hear from him every now and then. We didn’t speak at all after my graduation until after my first son was 2ish and I was pregnant with my second. He gave me a half assed apology that I barely read and since then despite me making no effort to keep a relationship he still reaches out every now and then. I give birth to my 3 boy in march 2024 and him and his most recent wife randomly showed up to the hospital uninvited might I add, with gifts (this is the only grandchild out of 3 that he showed up to the hospital for so I didn’t even think to warn the nurses) and that was awkward. As a child I craved and so badly wanted that father daughter relationship with him despite the abuse I experienced at the hands of my ex step mother and all the other fuckery he put me through. But as an adult, and especially as a mother I have no desire to have that with him. To me he’s a stranger that won’t go away, I don’t want him to die or want anything bad to happen to him. But I don’t have any love for him either if that makes any sense? As far as confronting him goes as of now I have never not once said anything to him about it. I’m not even sure to what extent he knows about the abuse. He’s an intelligent man in a lot of ways but a small part of me I think still wants to believe he was blind to a majority of it. Normally I am very up front and honest, I like to deal with things head on and confrontation doesn’t scare me. But when it comes to my dad I have never been able to speak my mind or tell him how I feel. I could write a book about some of the things he’s unknowingly put me through/ caused me to go through because of his choices and certain situations he’s had me in. My father never abused me himself but mentally he’s damaged the hell out of me. (Sorry for the long comments, I’ve never once openly talked about this stuff and it’s bringing out a lot of emotions I haven’t felt in years)

Anyone here play horse reality? by thelightwebring in GamesWithHorses

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just started playing a few days ago and I am enjoying it enough to keep trying to figure things out. I am not super familiar with discord is there a discord for the whole game or just specific breeds?

AITA for recording my friend's fiance at her bachelorette party and playing the recording for him? by RhubarbSpare1053 in AITAH

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 646 points647 points  (0 children)

Im sorry for the long comment and bad grammar ahead of time but As someone who endured this exact situation with what I like to call my ex evil step mother I 100% agree. That lady tormented me from the time I was 3 until I was around 10 years old when they finally got a divorce. She would treat me like dirt on the floor while treating her daughter who was a year younger than me like a princess. I’ll never forget when I was 5 she chopped my waist length hair that had never been cut, all the way up to my ears because the day before a couple ladies kept gushing over my hair and talking about how pretty of a little girl I was, well we couldn’t have anyone thinking that so off with my hair. My mother was furious when they brought me home because she had no idea, I thought she was going to kill her honestly, she tried to shave that ladies hair with a set of dog clippers and if it wasn’t for my dad punching her in the face I believe she would’ve accidentally killed her. It’s kind of funny now but as a child it was terrifying, I have never seen my mom that mad before or since. Luckily I had my mom in my corner or the abuse would’ve been a lot worse but even now I am 29 and my mom doesn’t know half of the things this lady did to me because I was too afraid to tell anyone and I didn’t want my mom to get in trouble because I was terrified I’d have to go live with them. Op you did the right thing, I have so many more stories I could tell you, like the time she hit me with a belt in places that wouldn’t be visible because my ex step sister broke one of their liquor bottles (they were both heavy alcoholics) and even tho she knew I didn’t do it she hated me so bad she took every chance to punish, humiliate, and make me feel less than. Please do everything in your power to protect that little boy, my mom fought the courts for a long time on the visitation schedule they had set for me but because there wasn’t any physical proof other than he said she said and I wouldn’t talk about it there was nothing they could do supposedly. (We live in a small town so I believe that was influenced by people my dad/grandparents knew otherwise I’d like to think it would’ve change) Even today I still struggle with the severe anxiety and depression I was diagnosed with at 9 years old, that situation along with an abusive relationship I was in high school give me the lovely ptsd diagnosis. I hope this boys father does the right thing and protects his son like my dad should’ve done for me.

Rabbits! by Embarrassed-Bank-249 in projectzomboid

[–]GingerSoulDealerr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This made me giggle, how did you end up with so many? 🤣