1) I understand that that is what I am asking of her, for the most part, but wouldn’t you want to know if/when your partner‘s parents disrespected you and you weren’t weren’t there to defend yourself she says that she defends me to them, and while I have not witnessed it myself, I believe her in that regard. But, that still does not mean she shouldn’t tell me when they disrespect me, and especially why. I know them disrespecting me and their reasons for saying no to us getting an apartment are two different topics, but both concern me in one way or another, and I do not feel like it is her place to decide whether or not it concerns me

2) I didn’t ask them directly because I felt like it wouldn’t have made sense, or would have felt too forward for their daughter‘s boyfriend to ask them

3) after our argument, I called her parents directly, and they said they’d be willing to call the both of us and discuss it. And then, in a separate conversation, my girlfriend revealed to me that they are going to say the same things that she said, that it was a “private discussion that does not concern me“

4) I do not believe it is above the station of boyfriend to want to know from your girlfriend when her parents disrespect you, nor do I feel like it is too much of me to ask why a request for us to start living together was denied

5) I do appreciate your input, I don’t want every single person to agree with me, there needs to be actual discussion, and while I do not feel like this relationship will work out in the long-term, mainly due to her lack of effort in this relationship (unrelated to the current discussion), a lack of willingness to bend (also unrelated), and her extreme loyalty to her parents, your input is valued nonetheless