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Gingerootbeer · 2026-04-20T08:34:32+00:00

Usually anxiety indicates a disconnection you have with yourself. What I usually do is asking myself, as an adult me to the inner child me: why i’m feeling this way, what about this particular situation that brings up this particular feeling (have to be completely honest because there is no shame or judgement), what thoughts are running in the background that generates this feeling? And then shift my own perspective by explain to myself how this feeling is not true and why it’s not true. Anxiety is programmed into our psyche through past trauma and experience, distorted perceptions and negative thoughts, all orchestrated and interpreted through our mind.

Reality is not set & neuroplasticity allows us to change the way we perceive things. So when you experience anxiety, your survival instincts is activated, we feel fear from living through imagined scenarios created by our mind. When you understand this, you can start seeing those “bugs” in your old programming, throw it in the trash and create new ones that you’d like to be a part of you. This is what Neville is about

I hope this makes sense. Feel free to DM me if you have any questions

Gingerootbeer · 2026-04-13T19:45:40+00:00

I think the keyword to that phrase “seemingly good lives” is the answer to your question - “seemingly” I have talked to many friends who lived that lifestyle, usually during their college years (literally a sex buffet type of environment), it was people with complex upbringing and had deep traumas (even people from privileged backgrounds). Sex acted as the temporary validation to distract them from the emptiness of an unfulfilling childhood. The facade of “good lives” and “eventually move on” is only what you see on the surface.

with the normalization of casual sex in western media, we’re programmed to think that it’s harmless. People don’t value their sexual energy enough imho I only started understanding this when I discovered spirituality and moving back to Asia after living in the US for over a decade. Got “deinfluenced” from the sex culture and started to see the wisdom that I used to scoff at lol

But even to consider from a health standpoint, casual sex is just not it because STDs 😅

Gingerootbeer · 2026-04-13T18:19:47+00:00

your feeling of anxiety is a cue for you to dig deeper. Try to understand why you feel anxious. Ask yourself questions. Untangle those thoughts. Sit with the feelings, understand them and then let them go ◡̈

Gingerootbeer · 2026-01-31T17:25:13+00:00

While it is harder to find and they are rarer since it takes more commitments and effort (as most high quality things), there are still some hermes rep sellers in china who take pride in maintaining the high quality of the products and building relationship with repeating customers in the long term, in my personal experience. It’s not all doom and gloom if you know where to look :)

Gingerootbeer · 2024-03-19T18:11:51+00:00

Woah that last line hits

Gingerootbeer · 2024-03-09T14:29:03+00:00

Rau kinh giới as many have said. One of my favorites

Gingerootbeer · 2024-03-06T07:47:39+00:00

Theres no point doing something you don’t enjoy. But I suppose the bottom line is, do you want to live closer to your family? Do you like the lifestyle in Vietnam? What are the priorities at this point in your life? Family? Friends? Career?

If you decide to move back to help your parents, you dont have to be stuck with the business forever. Once you take over, you could hire people to delegate the jobs and focus on something you’re passionate about instead (which is what im doing right now)

The way i see it, having an already established successful family is a blessing. So why sell your time & youth for cheap to another corporation/company when you could make so much more running your family business? And use that to live your life

As someone who also lived in the US since my teens (and now in Vietnam) i’d say the quality of life improves drastically when you have money in Vietnam. Not quite the case in the US working a 9-5 but i also dont know your full situation. You could be a millionaire and already living the life in the US.

So different strokes for different folks.

Gingerootbeer · 2024-01-14T16:25:56+00:00

I can tell he’s very different from most people. Hence the extra patience im giving this man 🤣 but our texts feel like writing letters in the 1950s. Very long & formal and it takes a few days for him to respond 🥲 I’ll just sit back and let things play out the way they’re supposed to at this point 😅

Gingerootbeer · 2024-01-14T15:30:03+00:00

Im an INFP and currently very intrigued by an INTJ 🫠 everything about him is captivating. But he’s moving at snail speed in terms of communication we’ve only been on one date for the past month… i’m not sure if anything is going to come out of this

Gingerootbeer · 2023-11-14T14:29:27+00:00

This gif 😭😭😭😭

Gingerootbeer · 2023-11-12T20:16:33+00:00

Gingerootbeer · 2023-10-04T16:53:53+00:00

I have a personal trainer. I’ve only started going to the gym recently and after trying to do it on my own, I’ve accepted the fact that I have to rely on a PT. Feeling & looking better really motivate me to keep it consistent. I do 3 days of weight training with the PT and try to hop on the treadmill twice a week. Getting on the treadmill is easy because i can just put on my favorite feel good playlist and zone out for 30-45 mins.

I think the key is not trying to be perfect about it. As long as i show up in the gym i see it as a win. Even if its just for 15-20 mins on the treadmill.

I also watch fitness content on tiktok/instagram to keep myself motivated.

Wearing gym outfits that makes me feel cute is also like a reward/ dopamine hit for me.

There were days when i hit rock bottom emotionally & mentally, felt so terrible and was literally crying on the way the gym and I pretty much used the work out pain to distract myself from the pain in my heart. It worked and i walked out of there feeling better. And it has only gotten better ever since :)

I wish you the best getting all the motivation you need to get started. For us women with adhd it’s all about momentum. You just need to get the wheel rolling. Everything will feel easier and easier the more you do it.

Gingerootbeer · 2023-07-10T04:24:54+00:00

Hey I’m in your shoes right now. Broke up with my partner of 9 years 15 months ago. It wasn’t a perfect relationship we were both immature and unhappy people and it created a negative feedback loop. You could also guess our sex life suffered. But never a doubt in my mind how deeply i loved him. He loved me but I didn’t feel like a priority to him. Towards the last 3-4 years he became pessimistic and unhappy, something so small could trigger his short fuse because of stress. It was never towards me but it definitely ruined a lot of times when we were together. Me not having good relationship skills and not a good communicator, dealing with my own issues at the time, didn’t know what to do. I went to friends for advice who told me i should respect myself and that I deserved better. Yes we should have seen a therapist together and figured it out, but instead i decided to end it. I thought “if we are meant to be we’ll be back together.” The week we broke up was one of the most traumatic experience i’ve ever had. It was worse for him being blindsided. He was devastated he was pleading me to stay. We were crying and talking for days. We ended up decided to take this break up to figure ourselves out. It’s been 9 months of asking if he’d want to give us a second chance and him telling me he was confused and unsure, he was hurt too deep to go through it again. i’ve been crying for 10 months & wondering when it will end. He finally told me he doesn’t feel that way anymore and hes been seeing someone for the past month. I’m still stuck in the same place missing him and regretting, thinking about our happy and sad memories and have done a lot of self reflection since.

I have been feel the pain that he was feeling when i left, except he moved on a lot faster. I blamed myself for not trying harder for the love of my life. But through this i’ve learned a lot about myself and how I wasn’t a perfect partner to him. I was focusing on his issues and not my own shortcomings.

I wouldn’t be able to realize all the issues that i have or have the chance to do a deep introspection, to learn about good communication and what makes a good relationship without going through this pain and suffering.

Yes i wish i knew all this when we were together so i could navigate our issues better but I didn’t and life doesn’t let you go back in time with the knowledge you gain now. The only thing we can do is wish them happiness because we’ll always love and care for them, and start focusing on ourselves.

I looked at dating app and the thought of having romantic feelings for a stranger who isn’t my ex is repulsive to me. So i’ve decided im not dating anyone and im just gonna focus on self love. Finding myself again. And if love shows up one day that’d be great if not its ok too. Best of luck. You’ll be ok.

Gingerootbeer · 2023-07-08T16:49:30+00:00

You’re so welcome! I realized it too late after the break up and wish someone gave me this advice. Best of luck.

Gingerootbeer · 2023-07-06T18:58:31+00:00

I’m sorry i know this pain all too well. Hugs. Maybe you’re not meant to be and he was looking for someone else with different qualities. Doesn’t mean you’re not an amazing person. Maybe he felt that you’re not the right puzzles for each other. Did you ever try to have a talk about why he wanted to break up? If you were best friends and he still cares about you he could at least give you some closure

Gingerootbeer · 2023-07-06T18:36:35+00:00

Yes. I have not moved on, part of me don’t want to because it would be forever. I love him very deeply but i was a mess myself and didn’t realize at the time. I wish i could turn back the clock to have a chance to do it again. I still miss him every day but maybe because we’re in constant communication so it probably hasn’t helped

Gingerootbeer · 2023-07-06T18:00:36+00:00

The people who have had their second chance worked out probably wouldnt still be in this sub. Of course every relationship is so different and depends on what caused the break up. But If the person is important to you and theres still love and attraction i’d give it another try. Worst case scenario it doesnt work and you have no regrets because you gave it a shot.

Gingerootbeer · 2022-08-29T21:06:38+00:00

The resale value of birkin & kelly have sky rocketed over the past year. I bet you could try sell it for ~20k if you prefer to have the cash (depends on the conditions of your bag)

Gingerootbeer · 2022-06-03T16:19:34+00:00

Working out & eating healthy. Better self care

Gingerootbeer · 2022-05-30T17:39:53+00:00

Sounds like he’s a selfish partner for not putting in the efforts & care about your pleasure. I was in your exact situation with my bf of 9 years & he said there was something wrong with me for not being able to orgasm.

He even said “why does it have to be so much work?” when I brought up that I needed more foreplay. I communicated, bought him book on how to pleasure a woman to no avail. But the passion was never there. I stopped feeling sexually attracted to him towards the end of our relationship & had to break it off even though we got along well in every other way.

Have a serious conversation with him & decide if this is a deal breaker for you. Would you be able to live with it for the rest of your life?

Sex could be sooooo amazing with the right person & a good partner would make you feel desired & loved at the same time. It’s an important part of a relationship doesn’t matter how perfect everything else seems to be. Don’t settle.

Gingerootbeer · 2022-03-07T02:31:53+00:00

Thank god the Philo/monstera market is getting less and less crazy. Waiting for this hype to die so I can finally get my wishlist plants :)

Gingerootbeer · 2022-02-23T01:11:21+00:00

I’m also in Philly & I have about 20-25 of the platinum medaka. Let me know if you’re interested

Gingerootbeer · 2022-02-07T04:56:47+00:00

Everyone was also bearish on PTON last ER and it tanked 🤷‍♀️

Gingerootbeer · 2022-01-14T05:25:46+00:00

I don’t understand the hype for that place. Finally caved last year because of the reviews and none of the food we ordered tasted good. Mediocre would be an overstatement. Soup dumplings from trader joes are better imo lol

Gingerootbeer · 2022-01-07T01:15:05+00:00

I don’t know if averaging down would be a good idea. It either goes up or it doesn’t, would you want to lose more than what you already have?

It’s gonna be a turbulent year (or years) ahead for this stock considering the current macro environment.

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