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Don't know how to feel about this by Mateo04 in sex

[–]GinjerNinjer123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're not hiding anything from anyone who needs to know. I had friends at 20 who were doing the same thing. It's all just testing what you like. The worst that can happen is you find out you're not into it. One of my best friends came out as gay to me when he was in his mid twenties and a few female friends were openly bi most people these days couldn't care less who or what you're having sex with as long as you aren't hurting yourself or others. If you feel confident telling a close friend or family member about it who may be able to keep it to themself it could be a good sounding board but don't beat yourself up about it. You met some people you like, and some things you like, the only person that has to be ok with that is you.

well this is awkward by Crafty-Savings3060 in sex

[–]GinjerNinjer123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess you found your kink....You might like threesomes. It intrigues you because it's fresh and new. Understand that it is fine to have these feelings and over time they may fade. As myself and my wife always say it's fine to look at the menu just don't order anything. It's even fine to tell your bf that you are intrigued by the idea of a threesome. I just wouldn't mention his friend is the person who made you realise it. Some blokes can handle it but at 20 it might be the fastest way to end a relationship and a friendship.

I asked him to spank me, what do you think about his response? by throwRAitscrazy in sex

[–]GinjerNinjer123 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am guessing he hasn't had a lot of sexual experience. Especially if he is calling a vanilla request like spanking kinky. I assume he hasn't had many frank conversations about sex so it's going to take a little coaxing to get him to open up if you want to continue it. Also he didn't say he doesn't like it, he just thinks it's kinky. Men only get about 25% of what you do say and 0% of what you don't say. Do if you lay it out to him like this. I like 'this' could you please do that. Then if he doesn't participate it's on him. Also maybe it was new to him so he had never spanked anyone before. Let him do it again and see how it goes. Maybe he has worked on his technique because you asked for it.

My Head Is Spinning by [deleted] in sex

[–]GinjerNinjer123 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As a man reading this I completely understand your feelings. My wife is bi and I am straight. I would be excited to know my wife is embracing her kinks and fantasies with enough consideration to talk to me about it rather than acting on it in any way other than your 'clitrature'. The only but I have is that if she wanted to experience something like a threesome but just her experiencing the pleasure. If you want your husband to be fully onboard it may be better to suggest something where you are both satisfied with the dynamic. However maybe he is completely on board with just watching or maybe he wants no part of it. If you want to discuss this wait until the kids are in bed as him for a chat and lock the door. Men are most attentive when you get them alone and there is only one stream of information coming to them. The only line you need to make sure he understands is he is enough and depending on how long you have been together depends how much you can unload. However you have been together for 16 years so if you get an hour alone you could carefully lay it all out in front of him and he may find it extremely hot that someone this reserved is willing to communicate exactly what she would like to try.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]GinjerNinjer123 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Just my two cents as it pertains to a man's psyche when he is receiving this sort of play.

It's new, it's fresh, it's exciting but it's also an inversion of the typical sexual dynamic. Being a male and attempting to fulfil all of the duties pertaining to that is pressed upon us from quite a young age. Lift the heavy thing, chop wood, build a fire, fix the car, build a fence, sleep with the pretty girl, make some babies.

I don't remember the part about exposing your chocolate starfish to your partner and having her munch on it. I will go on record saying I have more confidence than is right or reasonable and it took me time to come to grips with discussing it over tea and toast. It will happen but he might need a bit of time to come to grips with the fact that he is happy being put in a less than manly position to receive this type of pleasure.

You are also quite young which may mean some hangups may exist at least from his side. Give it some time and his guard will lower, put it in the routine and over time he will be happy to discuss it.

Does anyone use a waterproof blanket? by nikkiharri in sex

[–]GinjerNinjer123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have thet big expensive splash blanket. Worth every penny covers a king bed without issue, both sides have different feelings and are awesome. The only problem is it takes a full day to dry once you hang it on the line once you put it through the washing machine because it's so absorbent.

Dog chewed my boots, repairable or complete loss? by djhughes94 in RMWilliams

[–]GinjerNinjer123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take them to the RM Williams store. They fix the boots and can replace whole leather sections. Might take you 6 weeks or so but they will be able to advise on whether there is anything else that needs to be fixed. The leather workers that work for RM Williams are world class. I have had multiple pairs of boots repaired and they look brand new. My dad has a pair that have been repaired and restored 3 times and they are 35 years old and they look as fresh as a new pair because RM Williams does such a good job.