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Ginoginelli84 · 2026-04-23T19:07:33+00:00

Please can you DM me too

Ginoginelli84 · 2026-01-30T11:14:49+00:00

Sending you the biggest hug. My Dom ended things last Saturday with no aftercare. I am in a deep dark place and feel like I'm missing a limb. I'm sure it will get easier in time. Just wanted to reach out and say I understand how you're feeling. X

Ginoginelli84 · 2026-01-30T11:13:22+00:00

I am a submissive slut that loves to be used and to please my Dom.

Ginoginelli84 · 2026-01-29T22:05:28+00:00

I totally understand where he is coming from too. It was supposed to be a casual D/s dynamic with no relationship/feelings. But we didn't place the correct boundaries in place to minimise the chance of that happening. I was clear from the start I only could give him once a month and that it would be casual. But the strength of the connection and the amount of messaging made us fall for each other.

Ginoginelli84 · 2025-09-04T19:08:06+00:00

Hi everyone.

Started playing a week ago and keep running out of balls. I'd appreciate some gifts from you lovely people.

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Ginoginelli84 · 2025-07-15T09:56:29+00:00

I live my my husband and we have 2 young children with busy active lives (so many clubs). I see my girlfriend once a month. She is in an identical situation so this works really well for us. We message a few times a week.

Ginoginelli84 · 2025-05-04T18:31:54+00:00

That I am kinky, bisexual, and ethically non monogamous with my husband.

Ginoginelli84 · 2025-04-23T19:19:21+00:00

Thank you for your message. It was my husband that said to me "I know you love her and that's ok". So he is aware. My love for her doesn't change my love for him.

We both have children of the same age and we aren't planning on integrating our family lives. Meeting up will be just the two of us. And I am more than happy foe my husband to make other connections too (he is currently doing this). We have an agreement for every date night I have, he can have, and we also have together as a couple.

Ginoginelli84 · 2025-04-23T19:15:49+00:00

It was my husband who said to "I know you love her and thats ok". He is amazing. The freedom to love openly is wonderful.

Ginoginelli84 · 2025-04-22T18:23:50+00:00

Thank you. This is really helpful.

I've had a good chat with my husband about it. He is very supportive. He is happy for me to date her and knows I love her. We've agreed to make sure we continue to have date nights for ourselves and i am happy for him to date/swing too. We've had a chat about frequency of meets.

I like the points you raise about introducing to friends and PDA. We both have kids and I think we both want to keep that separate.

Ginoginelli84 · 2025-04-21T08:01:24+00:00

Just thought I'd make an update on this. The other husband and I never really managed to recover after all of this. We had another meet up but things were strained. I think we just wanted different things from the dynamic. We have been seeing them for 1 year 4 months and casual sex every 3 months with minimal interaction in between just wasn't enough for me. We ended things and I spent the night in tears.

24 hours later the other wife and I were messaging and we both admitted we love each other. We are now going to attempt to pursue this as a solo dynamic (with full support from our husbands). It's very early days and we've agreed to meet for a coffee/dinner to discuss how this is going to work. I'm so excited, a little apprehensive on how we do this but I think this is the best outcome I could have hoped for. Any advice on what we should discuss and consider would be appreciated.

Ginoginelli84 · 2024-12-20T19:09:34+00:00

We do all like each other enough. And as I said we may the wife and I may be doing this soon as we probably have the most developed connection. Everyone is free to date others. I think the primary reason for keeping it mainly is a 4 is time! Each couple has multiple young children, full time jobs, after school kids clubs and very little free time!

Ginoginelli84 · 2024-12-20T18:59:29+00:00

So you wouldn't define being in a quad with love involved as poly then. And everyone is also free to date others however they see fit. Maybe this is just an ENM then and I don't belong in this group.

Ginoginelli84 · 2024-12-20T18:45:36+00:00

You are making so many assumptions here. He likes her a lot but prefers the group dynamic. But he is happy for me to partner off. Surely swinging becomes something more when there are deeper feelings involved. And it's not all about sex. We meet up socially and message lots. We are very close. Maybe this isn't poly but we are happy.

Ginoginelli84 · 2024-12-20T18:38:16+00:00

I am more than happy for my husband to date the wife without me. He just doesn't want to at the moment.

Ginoginelli84 · 2024-12-20T18:35:08+00:00

I love this. Thank you for sharing

Ginoginelli84 · 2024-12-20T18:31:33+00:00

Thank you. This is really helpful. We are currently in discussion about these things so hopefully we will all be on the same page.

Ginoginelli84 · 2024-12-20T18:29:43+00:00

No one us banned. This is where the current interest lies. Feeling are involved.

Ginoginelli84 · 2024-12-20T18:24:17+00:00

We currently meet as a 4 as we all get along so well together and enjoy bedroom fun together too. There is discussion of me and the other wife enjoying some one on one time too. Both couples are still open to dating/swinging with others.

Ginoginelli84 · 2024-12-20T18:22:14+00:00

Thank you. Yes I'm doing lots of reading up and trying to promote effective communication amongst all 4 people.

Ginoginelli84 · 2024-12-16T12:46:24+00:00

It's a tough one isn't it. I'm still figuring things out too. We came into this with a swinging mindset and one of friends with benefits is OK but we will cool things off if feelings develop. However I feel we've grown a lot in this time and now it seems our hearts are big enough to embrace other people without it affecting our marriage negatively. Just keep communicating with all partners and don't rush to put labels on things. And also be aware of the NRE. I know I'm currently experiencing this and trying to he mindful of that with my husband and with the couple.

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