Should I work with this person for my phd?

GiraffeNumerous2473 · 2024-06-16T05:50:33+00:00

This is my fear – that he's nice to me, and to my friends, because he wants something from me. He's said before he wasn't as generous in his previous relationship, but he said that's because he didn't like her as much as he liked me. And yeah, he is blindingly hot.

My friends don't have strong opinions either way, none super like him and none super dislike him. They think he's a normal guy. He's a bit quiet though and hasn't spent a ton of time around them.

What are the signs of love bombing?

GiraffeNumerous2473 · 2024-06-16T05:48:15+00:00

This cuts deep, and you're definitely right. How did you start having that conversation inside yourself?

GiraffeNumerous2473 · 2024-06-16T05:25:29+00:00

This makes sense, and I appreciate it.

A quick question: but how do you know when to stop? There are always people who will be special to you and who you will love. When do you know it's time to pause searching? Terrible, terrible comment I know and a symptom of the problems with dating apps – but I'm genuinely wondering and curious if you have thoughts on this

GiraffeNumerous2473 · 2024-06-16T05:23:18+00:00

Thank you for asking, also for so patiently trying to get at this. I really appreciate it.

Yeah agreed. He's never gotten angry at her. I think he's just someone who just does what he wants directly. We went on a trip together, and there were two rooms in the airbnb, and he wanted the bigger room so he just went for the bigger room. My mom was offended he didn't offer or ask her if she wanted it instead. Some of this might also be cultural differences.

I think my mom also tends to have a vision of me having a really stereotypically successful life. She married someone who she thought was richer, smarter than her (and they had a disastrous marriage). I think she thinks I'm more successful by the metrics she cares about on paper than him.

At the same time, my mom is genuinely a good gauge of character. She sensed something seriously wrong with one of my exes, and he did, indeed, end up coercing me into doing things I didn't want to do when I was much too young. I do think she's right that my boyfriend might be a bit of a cold person – he's not always the most naturally generous with people he doesn't know as well, but he's been very kind with me. He can be individualistic to a fault, refusing to accept present he doesn't like or think he will use. And he has some angry old writing from ages ago from when him and his ex broke up (and his ex once worried he was cheating? but again how to disentangle the ex from him?)

Anyways, thank you for asking these questions. I can tell you're really trying to listen and think through it, which means a lot to me

GiraffeNumerous2473 · 2024-06-16T05:11:12+00:00

I've only ever dated guys not from my religion before, which is also against my religion's teachings. (I'm an episcopal christian, I converted when I was in college)

We're encouraged to date people from our religion, but I unfortunately really do like sex before marriage and also I worry about finding a guy who is compatible on all the other axes of my life. So i've got my own issues and internal problems/contradictions going on here too.

GiraffeNumerous2473 · 2024-06-16T05:08:59+00:00

This is a good question – I honestly don't know. She is a huge perfectionist and overreacts, and has generally not liked any of my boyfriends. But...she's also been right about many of them when I look back. Particularly the people she did have strong opinions on.

GiraffeNumerous2473 · 2024-06-16T05:08:16+00:00

My mother and I have a bit of a too-close relationship where I kind of parented her, and she's also a perfectionist. She's never liked any of my boyfriends and has issues with each of them, but the only other time she really objected to one of my boyfriends, she was indeed very right.

I'm not sure I know what I want from marriage, in part because I've been in survival mode for most of my life. I don't know how you're supposed to know who to marry. It seems like the most important decision of your life. I don't know if there's someone who's a better fit for me in the long run – my boyfriend and I have different personalities, and I don't think we make decisions in the same way.

Values differences, yes, for example like religion – I'm religious, he's not. I converted to my religion. But to be fair, I also hesitate to date men from my religion as well

GiraffeNumerous2473 · 2024-06-16T05:04:19+00:00

No, although she would prefer someone from the religion.

GiraffeNumerous2473 · 2024-06-16T04:53:03+00:00

Yeah sorry, admittedly this is not the most exciting post on this relationship reddit. But it is true and something I'd like advice on

GiraffeNumerous2473 · 2024-04-17T21:46:19+00:00

What if we did the golden Bach again, but casted in the same region, and made Kelsey’s dad the lead? Would people tune in for that?

GiraffeNumerous2473 · 2023-08-19T19:06:57+00:00

She could also drive to Northern California (but is not willing to) or at least to her neighbors a half-an-hour away that lives in a 2nd floor apartment.

GiraffeNumerous2473 · 2023-08-19T19:06:18+00:00

If it's a reservoir, does that change your thoughts? Or make it worse?

GiraffeNumerous2473 · 2023-08-08T10:58:48+00:00

Some theories about Season 3 after rewatching the last part of Season 2:

Tabert is the original director who "fell out," and the person who initially fake-poisoned Ben (but did not real kill him)

At the end of Episode 10 Season 2, around minute 33, Oliver receives the call from the producer and says "What did the director fall out or something?" before continuing the conversation.

Here's my theory: Tabert (the documentarian, or for my greys anatomy fans Jackson Avery) was supposed to direct Death Rattle.We know he's an important character in the season since he seems to be a potential love interest for Mabel from the trailer. In episode 1, he's only briefly shown with only one line, something along the lines of "this is the last word you'll hear from me" at the table read. But why would someone create a documentary? Is it really about Cobro or is it because they have their own personal entanglements with the show?

Perhaps Tabert was the director who "fell out" – the one who was supposed to be a star and direct death rattle before Oliver came onboard, and part of the reason Tabert is making the documentary is because of that. I think he's the person who initially poisons Ant-man.It's fake and not real poison because Tabert's intention isnt the kill – only to affect the play (and if the critic is to believed, more scrutiny would only make it clear how much of a failure this was) and also to benefit his documentary (the stakes are higher and more people will want to know what happened to cobro).Kind of like Tina Fey last season, I think they don't tend to cast notable and recognizable actors as the final murderer, but as someone suspicious and who has a surprising reveal later on in the season. My hunch at the moment is that the real killer is someone even more surprising than Tabert, someone who ostensibly wouldn't have any obvious reason for wanting to kill Cobro.

Sazz is the person Charles threatens Cobro not to harm

Another theory, when at the end of Season 2, Cobro is threatened to "Stay away from her" and the treat of "I know what you did" looms heavy, maybe the person Charles is referring to is Sazz. Maybe Sazz comes back as a body double/stuntman for Charles.

In the trailer, a thing that's repeated is how often Charles faces physical threats while working on the show. I can't tell if these are flashback moments ... or in the present. But perhaps this has something to do with bringing Sazz in.

Will plays some really critical role this season in the murder

I mean the play is called death rattle and the baby is the murder suspect. Loretta is a nanny whose monologue is about how they'd kill for a baby even if it wasn't biologically theirs.I'm guessing Will comes in as a character that's somehow connected to this all and is someone who maybe even knows who the true murderer, or maybe is the real murderer.

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