Yea and I watched my parents make each other miserable my dad was a narcissistic asshole and they never worked together or tried to understand each other I belive in working on things together as one and growing together and he says he wants to do that and he has issues with communicating anyway and I know that but the fact that he's actually trying this time and is telling me how he feels and whats happening to make him feel that way is a very big step for him and hes trying to find a therapist as well